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About me
My journey with gender started when I was 18 and I began a social transition, followed by taking testosterone at 20. After stopping hormones at 25, I had to process a lot of grief, but I don't live with regret because it was all part of my path. I've learned the most important thing is to make personal decisions away from societal pressure, and I've walked most of this path alone to focus on myself. Now, at 29, I am at peace, embracing both my body's natural biology and my fluid expression, which can be feminine one day and masculine the next. I am done with boxes, and I'm learning to see myself as a complete and beautiful human being.
My detransition story
My journey with gender has been long and complicated, but I’ve come to a place of peace with it. I never felt like I "regretted" my transition. Of course, some parts of it were crazy, and I had to deal with grief along the way, but in the end, it's been my journey. There's no point in living in regret.
For me, the most important thing is making informed decisions based on what you think is right for you. Gender is a deeply personal experience. I think society puts a huge amount of pressure on people today that isn't normal, and it's totally understandable not to fit in or feel comfortable.
I started by transitioning and taking testosterone. It changed my voice and my body. I’ve detransitioned now, and I mostly enjoy a feminine expression. I choose to allow my body to follow its natural biology as much as I can. But my expression changes; sometimes I feel comfortable expressing in a traditionally feminine way, and other times I wear more masculine or androgynous clothes. I’m finding peace with that fluidity. Sometimes I feel in love with my fluidity—it makes me who I am. Other times it feels like a burden. But the more I work on myself, the more I can embrace all of what I am: past, present, and future.
I don't really believe in the rigid gender stereotypes society has created. They make it so difficult for people who experience a wider range of gender expression. I’ve walked most of my path alone, away from large LGBT and trans communities. I needed to focus on my own life and explore myself deeply. What I want to bring to the world is peace, authenticity, compassion, and understanding.
I was featured in a documentary in Finland and did a TV interview there. The responses I got were positive, but comments were disabled, so I didn't experience any backlash. It didn't really affect my life much.
My thoughts on gender now are that we should embrace the masculinity and femininity within us and find healthy outlets for both. I am done fitting into boxes. I am not a mistake. I am not broken. I am a beautiful human being, and I am here for me.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 18 | I started to socially transition and began identifying as non-binary. |
| 20 | I started taking testosterone. |
| 25 | I stopped taking testosterone and began my detransition. |
| 27 | I was featured in a documentary about my detransition experience. |
| 29 | Now, I am at peace with my fluid gender expression and my body's natural state. |
Top Comments by /u/miraimirari:
Hi! I have come forth in Finland, my documentary was one of the most viewed documentaries on the streaming service YLE Areena published in 2021. I also had an interview on a Finnish TV show. It did not affect me much, all the responses that reached me were positive, but comments were not allowed on either the documentary or the accompanying articles. This may be cultural, but I didn't personally receive any backlash. I might think twice about how coming out in America, but still I am interested. Any good I could contribute would be deeply valuable.
Full documentary in Swedish/Finnish: https://arenan.yle.fi/1-50687259
Interview also in Swedish/Finnish: https://areena.yle.fi/1-50642495 (starts at 38:00)
Articles, translatable:
https://svenska.yle.fi/a/7-10005601
https://www.is.fi/tv-ja-elokuvat/art-2000008259570.html
I hear you. Society has made gender a joke. I don't believe in the stereotypes we have put out, and it makes it so difficult for people going beyond, or just experiencing a wider range of gender expression and experience. Feel free to reach out if you want to talk,
Nice to hear your story. Yes, I think it's possible. I try to always listen deeply into what I truly need, now. For me, I never felt like I "regretted" my transition. Of course it's crazy. But I felt that there was a certain charged story that wanted to be pushed on me. Of course I had to deal with grief along the way, but in the end, it's been a journey and it is my journey. There is no point living in regret.
Of course it is valid. The most important thing with ANY of this, is making informed decisions, based on what you think is right for you. Gender is still very much a personal experience. And there is huge pressure in today's society I don't think is normal, and it's totally understandable not to fit in or feel comfortable within that. I have detransitioned, I enjoy my feminine expression most, choose to allow my body it's natural biology to what degree I can, but at times my expression may change drastically, and I don't feel comfortable expressing traditionally feminine. Then I might wear more masculine/androgynous clothes. And then once again, it changes, and I'm finding peace with that. Embrace the masculinity and femininity within you, find healthy outlets for both, I'm sure you can find peace. Sometimes I feel I am in love with my fluidity, it makes me who I am, sometimes it feels like a burden. But the more I work on myself, the more I can embrace all of what I am, past future, present, no matter what society thinks, this way or that way. Screw all of it. I am me, I am here for me. I am not a mistake, I am not broken, I am a beautiful human being.
There are no guarantees, I have thought a lot about this, and so far, I think my approach did affect my ex who was trans and younger than me in a good way. at least we found peace regarding the matter. He chose to allow himself time to develop before taking his transition any further.
My take is, radical honesty, with compassion, respect and trust. To communicate in a way that isn’t fearful or controlling, but vulnerable, and making sure to them that you understand that in the end it’s their choice. BUT it worries you, it is scary to YOU, you care, and will love and support them no matter what. There are things in life we cannot control and that’s the way it should be. We cannot always protect those we love from life.
Thanks! I guess I wanted a general comment on how I sound as well, because I have such a difficulty getting a sense of how my voice really sounds! Someone said I sound like a teenage boy, others have just expressed I have I nice deep voice. It varies. And yeah I know that higher pitch sounds pretty silly just now, I’m just curious 💕
Thanks for the tip!
I’m not terribly dysphoric, but if there’s something I can do I could take it on as a project for fun. :)
Hi Angel, I like your nickname here, it suits you, because when I read your message I smile, I sense your vibrant spirit, and feel resonance with your longing. Thank you. I feel joy and warmth. I see you are in a place open for this sort of thing, and hopefully we could find more of these people. I will definitely see what I could put together in short time, and hopefully expand on. Thanks for sharing your hopes and wishes so clearly, I see there could be use different kinds of spaces or events. Have you used the discord of this community? I saw there were chats with memes, pets and so forth, but I only just joined on there so I don't know what it's like.
I've never actually met another detrans person in real life. I imagine a gathering could be so powerful, even in an online space.
I also deeply resonate with your wish to just be you as you are now, this is something I would wish to come to celebrate together. Yes. There is beauty even here. I'm done fitting into boxes, I'm sure others are too. (sometimes I do 'fit' quite nicely! But I no longer wanna stress about that) It feels like a soul longing of celebration and freedom.
To be honest, I've walked most of my path alone, away from the large lgbt, trans and other communities. I've explored myself and life deeply, and what I wish to bring to this world is peace, authenticity, compassion and understanding. To get there I've had to spend most of that time focusing on my own life, not everything, cannot fix the whole world at once. I've personally found this approach also far more effective. There is no us against them, we're all people, yes, with different circumstances and experiences, but we are of the same planet, this is undeniable, and there are things we ALL share.
Thank you, I didn’t respond to the comment above yet, but I was a little confused by it, as to me it was obviously relevant, as Jordan has been one of the people with, to me, a healthy scepticism about transition, especially for underage people, and has been heavily prosecuted for it. You know, at least of having a healthy attitude of looking at the individual and their issues, and to see how they might really be helped, not to blindly follow and accept the “you are what you say you are”. There is a long video of his conversation with a detrans person, this was very valuable to me. I thought it might be of interest to others.