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Reddit user /u/misfitry's Detransition Story

Detransitioned: 20
female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
depression
influenced online
body dysmorphia
retransition
puberty discomfort
started as non-binary
anxiety
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About me

I'm a 21-year-old woman from the UK who started testosterone at 17 because I thought becoming a man would fix my depression and deep unhappiness with my changing female body. I now see it was a way to escape my problems, and stopping hormones a year and a half ago was the hardest thing I've ever done. I'm filled with regret over the permanent changes and have lost my entire community, which has left me incredibly lonely. I'm now physically recovering and grappling with learning to accept myself as a woman again. It's a painful journey, but knowing I'm not alone gives me a little hope.

My detransition story

My name isn't important, but my story is. I’m a 21-year-old woman from the UK, and I’m sharing my experience to hopefully make others feel less alone. My journey with gender was complicated, painful, and something I’m still trying to understand.

I was born female, and my discomfort started around puberty. I hated the changes my body was going through, especially the development of my breasts. I felt gross and uncomfortable in my own skin, and I now see this was a mix of puberty discomfort and what I’d call body dysmorphia. I also struggled with very low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety. Looking back, I think a lot of my desire to transition was a form of escapism. I was deeply unhappy and I thought becoming someone else—a boy—would fix everything.

I started identifying as non-binary first, but that quickly shifted to identifying as a transgender man. I was heavily influenced by what I saw online; it felt like a welcoming community with all the answers. I started testosterone when I was 17. I was on it for three years. I think part of my motivation was internalised homophobia; the idea of being a gay woman was uncomfortable to me, but being a straight man felt safer and more acceptable.

Being on testosterone was a huge deal at the time. I thought it was the solution. But it wasn’t. It just masked my deeper problems. I stopped testosterone in August 2023, so I’ve been off it for about a year and a half now. Detransitioning has been the hardest change I’ve ever had to go through. It feels like I wasted so much mental energy on something that was ultimately a mistake for me.

I have a lot of regrets about transitioning. I regret taking testosterone. I regret the physical changes it caused, like my deeper voice and facial hair, which now make me feel uncomfortable and not like myself. I sometimes look in the mirror and feel a deep self-hatred and guilt for what I’ve done to my body. It feels ridiculous to have gone through all of that for such complex reasons that I didn't fully understand at the time.

One of the hardest parts has been the loneliness. I feel completely cast aside. I lost the entire community I had when I identified as trans. I have no friends, no job, and my mental health is awful. The fear of never finding friends or a boyfriend who will accept me for who I am now looms over me constantly. I’m tackling a huge can of worms with self-acceptance.

Physically, I’m dealing with the aftermath. I’ve been working on my hair growth with biotin supplements and special shampoos, as the testosterone affected it. I also have an old injury that’s come back, causing me awful pain, which just adds to everything else. I barely leave the house; I think I’ve only left three times in the last year.

My thoughts on gender now are that it’s incredibly complex. For me, my transition wasn’t about a true gender identity but was a way to cope with other issues like depression, anxiety, and hating my body during puberty. I’m now trying to learn how to live as a woman again and accept myself for who I truly am. It’s a rough journey, full of regret, but seeing other girls my age going through the same thing gives me hope.

Here is a timeline of my journey:

Age Event
11-12 Started experiencing intense puberty discomfort and hated my developing breasts.
17 Started taking testosterone.
20 Stopped testosterone (August 2023). Began detransitioning.
20-21 Focused on physical recovery (e.g., biotin for hair regrowth) and grappling with regret and loneliness.
21 Present day, working on self-acceptance as a woman.

Top Comments by /u/misfitry:

5 comments • Posting since October 18, 2024
Reddit user misfitry (detrans female) comments on a post about detransitioning, sharing that seeing others her age gives her hope after feeling alone since stopping testosterone.
10 pointsJan 20, 2025
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wow you give a lot of hope to me. you look great girl, so pretty!! 21F, was on T for 3 years, off of it 1.5 years. I feel so alone sometimes with it, lost the sense of community, but seeing all the girls my age in a similar situation and timeline really gives me hope.

Reddit user misfitry (detrans female) discusses the severe emotional distress of detransitioning in the UK and the lack of support resources, feeling it may lead to suicidal ideation.
9 pointsOct 27, 2024
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I'm also from the UK, literally opened this subreddit rn because what I've done to myself got too much again. genuinely feels like its gonna be the reason I decide not to be here anymore too. if you need to talk, I'm a good listener. I wish we had detrans resources because one of the hardest parts is feeling cast aside after no longer identifying as trans.

Reddit user misfitry (detrans female) discusses her struggles with regret, chronic pain, and isolation after detransitioning, offering support to a fellow 20-year-old.
7 pointsOct 31, 2024
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I wish I had advice but I'm the same way. I turn 21 next month and I'm not doing anything for it. I have no friends, no prospects, no job, my mental health is awful, and an old injury is back. I'm in awful pain. going for an epidural in a week, and it'll be my third time leaving the house in over a year. its feels ridiculous to have wasted so much mental energy on transistioning and testosterone for such complex reasons. adjusting to this new future as a woman and dealing with self hatred and regret and guilt and pain is really rough. I sometimes feel like I'm waiting for the day I look in the mirror and I've had enough of the way I look or sound or feel nowadays. just, gross and uncomfortable and unmyself. if you need a fellow 20 year old girlie to chat to, I'm a good listener :>

Reddit user misfitry (detrans female) comments on shared struggles of detransitioning, offering support and relating to fears of loneliness and self-acceptance.
3 pointsOct 18, 2024
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wow I feel like I wrote this... I turn 21 next month and I have had these thoughts, every single one. most as recently as today. I've been detransitioning for a year and.. yeah its been the hardest change I've ever had to go through. if you wanna chat with a girl your age who is going through it too, my PMs are always open. I'm also in need of someone who gets it, as my fears of not finding friends and a boyfriend just loom over me too. and tackling the whole, self acceptance can of worms. stay strong girl <3

Reddit user misfitry (detrans female) explains her hair regrowth regimen after stopping testosterone, recommending biotin supplements, a biotin/caffeine shampoo, and rosemary/peppermint oil scalp massages.
3 pointsNov 16, 2024
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hi hi!! finally a post I can actually offer my own advice on. I've been taking biotin supplements (the ones bought are 12,000mcg biotin with coconut oil, tiny little pills) for around a year, and using a biotin and caffeine shampoo called growme I think? for all of 2024 and I can tell you it's helped a lot, as well as being off testosterone since August 2023. also yes like other gals in the comments have said, a scalp massage with rosemary oil and peppermint oil mixed into a carrier oil such as argan or jojoba oil is proven to help :) ive only done it a few but it would've made a difference if i had. I've always had very straight fine hair, but you look like once it grow in you'll have beautiful locks!!! it feels like long ass journey sometimes but this sub makes it feel less lonely.