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About me
I started feeling a deep discomfort with my female body as a teenager and became convinced I was a trans man after spending time in online communities. I transitioned socially, but after living as a man, I realized it wasn't right for me and was overwhelmed with regret. I've since come to fully accept and love myself as a woman, even though I'm still gender non-conforming. My biggest regret is not questioning the ideology I was swept up in sooner. I am now happier and more at peace with myself than I ever thought possible.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I felt incredibly uncomfortable with my body, especially during puberty. I hated developing breasts and just felt a deep sense of wrongness about being a woman. At the time, it felt like genuine gender dysphoria, and it was so severe that I truly believed my only options were to transition or die. I was diagnosed with gender dysphoria by a professional, which made me even more certain that I was trans.
A big part of how I got to that point was through online spaces, specifically the egg-irl subreddit. Looking back, I think that community is dangerous because it encourages gender non-conforming people to believe they must be trans. My hobbies and interests were more masculine, and because everyone online and my friends in real life were echoing the same idea, I became 100% convinced I was a trans man. I was a full-on trans rights activist, completely sure of my path.
I also struggled with an eating disorder and body dysmorphia, and I saw transitioning as a solution. My transition goals were to have a flat chest, a deep voice, and a masculine body. I thought that was the only way I could ever be happy.
But I was wrong. After being out to friends and family and living as a man for a while, I had a realization that it wasn't right for me. When I understood that I wasn't trans, I was hit with a massive wave of shame and regret. It was really hard to deal with; I cried a lot and it took me months to process everything. I also lost some friends and acquaintances over it, which was painful.
Now, though, I can see it was the best decision I ever made. I have not only come to terms with being a woman, but I genuinely love myself as a woman. I've embraced it all—the good and the bad. It's still not always easy, especially as a gender non-conforming woman who still deals with body dysmorphia, but I am happier now than I ever thought was possible. If you had told me a few years ago that I would feel this way, I would have said you were crazy. I don't really know about my spiritual beliefs, but I used to think that if reincarnation was real, I must have been a man in a past life. Now, I feel like I could never have been anything but a woman.
My main regret is not questioning the narrative more deeply sooner and getting swept up in an online ideology. I benefited from stepping away from that and giving myself time and kindness to figure things out. I don't regret the journey itself because it led me to where I am now, which is a place of self-acceptance.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early Teens | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and developing a female body. Hated my breasts. |
| Around 17 | Became active in online trans communities like egg-irl, became convinced I was a trans man. |
| 18-19 | Formally diagnosed with gender dysphoria. Came out to friends and family as a trans man. |
| Early 20s | Realized I was not trans after all. Experienced shame and regret. Began the process of detransition. |
| Now (Mid-20s) | Have fully accepted and love myself as a gender non-conforming woman. |
Top Comments by /u/mothfromspace:
I honestly believe the egg-irl subreddit is pretty dangerous because it makes gender non conforming people believe they have to be trans when that's simply not the case. I am a gnc woman and I believed I was trans for years because of my hobbies and interests (among other things) and because all the people around me were echoing the very same thing. I experienced genuine gender dysphoria and even got diagnosed but fortunately I eventually realized that none of that means I am trans.
It's never too late. I lost a bunch of friends - or I guess acquaintances - throughout my journey but it was so worth it. If you had told me I would ever view myself as a woman (let alone love myself as a woman) a couple of years ago, I would've told you you're crazy. But I finally do. And I hope you'll be able to do so as well, eventually. I'm wishing you all the best 🤍
All I can tell you is that I felt the same regarding my transition goals (I wanted a flat chest, deep voice and masculine body because I too struggled with an eating disorder/body dysphoria and just felt generally uncomfortable with being a woman) and I genuinely believed it would make life a lot better for me. Now, a couple years later I obviously see that I was wrong. Also 17 is still pretty young. People change a lot, especially until the age of 25.
I've been there. I was a 100% convinced trutrans trans rights activist, I got diagnosed with gender dysphoria, was out to friends and family and genuinely believed that it would be the right (and only) path for me. When I realized I was wrong I felt such an intense amount of shame and regret. It took me a couple of months & lots of tears to deal with it but in the end it was definitely the right decision, I am so much happier now. Please try and give yourself all the time you need & treat yourself with kindness. I really hope you have a good support system but even if you were to lose a few friends over this, always remember to put your own wellbeing first.
I relate to this so much. I felt so broken and like I was doomed to live with this pain forever. I genuinely felt like I would never EVER be able to feel comfortable as a woman, I hated my body so much, at some point it was really either transition or death for me.
But I have not only come to terms with being a woman, I genuinely love myself as a woman now. I don't really know where I stand spiritually but while back then I thought that if reincarnation is real I was definitely a man in a past life, I now feel like there is no way I was, or could ever be anything but a woman. I embraced it all, the good and the bad things, the joy and the pain. It still isn't easy some days, especially as a gnc woman with dysmorphia, but I am now happier as a woman than I ever thought would be possible.