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About me
I was born female and started testosterone at 17, believing it was my path to a new life. After five years, I realized my deep unhappiness wasn't solved by becoming a man and I desperately wanted to be a mother. I stopped hormones at 22, grieving the permanent loss of my fertility from a hysterectomy I had too young. I've since had surgeries to feel more feminine again and worked hard to reclaim my voice and appearance. Now, two years into detransition, I finally feel at peace and understand my journey was about escaping myself, not finding my true identity.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was long and complicated. I was born female and I started taking testosterone when I was 17 years old. I was on it for five years, until I was 22. During that time, I also had a full hysterectomy and a double mastectomy, which is top surgery.
At the time, I was really happy. I was excited about all the changes and I felt like I was becoming a new person. I was attractive as a man, physically fit, and I was building my life up. But looking back, I think a big reason I transitioned was because I wanted to escape being the depressed young girl I used to be. I had low self-esteem and I think I saw transition as a way to become someone completely different.
After a few years, around the fourth or fifth year on testosterone, I started to realize it was a bad idea for me. I reached a point where I’d done everything I thought I wanted, but I felt disconnected from my natural body and from any sense of spirituality. I missed being in female groups and I realized I never fully fit in with male groups. I started to think about my future and I knew I wanted to be a mother and a role model for my future daughters and nieces. I was also tired of stressing about balding and getting more body hair.
I stopped calling my discomfort with my female body “dysphoria” and started to think more critically about where those feelings were really coming from. I decided I needed to go back and grow into the woman I was supposed to be.
So, at 22, I stopped testosterone and started detransitioning. The first few months were really hard, emotionally. It was a mess. I had a lot of grief and regret, especially over my hysterectomy, which left me infertile. Knowing I can never have my own children is a deep sadness I still carry. It felt like a black hole in my heart for a long time. But around 9 months into detransition, and after being on estrogen for 6 months, I started to feel more at peace. I realized I’d be healthier on estrogen in the long run than on testosterone forever, and that gave me some comfort.
I don’t regret my transition because it led me to where I am now, but I do have regrets about the permanent changes, especially the surgeries. Having a hysterectomy at 19 was a huge decision to make so young. I also had top surgery, and while I’ve learned to accept my flat chest and even find clothes that make me feel confident, I did decide to get breast implants about two years into my detransition. I missed having a feminine shape and felt I was missing out on something I threw away when I was young.
Passing as female again took time and effort. I had laser hair removal on my face, which I found deals for on Groupon. I had to be careful to choose the right type of laser, not IPL. I also worked on my voice, trying to find a natural range that wasn't too high or strained. My Adam's apple was noticeable, so I had a tracheal shave done along with my breast augmentation.
My views on gender have changed a lot. I don’t really think about it in the same way anymore. For me, it was less about an innate identity and more about other issues like depression, low self-esteem, and a desire to escape my past. I benefited from stepping away from gender-affirming spaces and thinking for myself.
Detransition was the right choice for me. It’s been two years now, and I feel like I’m finally done with all of it and can just live my life peacefully.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 17 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 19 | Had a hysterectomy and oophorectomy. |
| 22 | Stopped testosterone and began detransitioning. |
| 22 | Started taking estrogen. |
| 23 | Had breast augmentation and a tracheal shave. |
Top Comments by /u/mushroomgf:
Hmm. If I were in your shoes I would take a hiatus on your social media presence and take the time to focus on testing the waters with detransition.
Detransition, especially once you stop taking T, can be pretty arduous at times for the first several months in particular. And you may appreciate the privacy at that time to focus on what you think about everything and not what others think.
I've always been a fan of anonymity for that reason.
Don't feel like you owe anyone your story if you are not in a stable place to share, or if you simply don't want to.
Hey! I was on T for 5 years and had a mastectomy and hysto/ooohorectomy. I also had a deep voice and dark facial hair, and I'm 5'8.
I've been detransitioned for 2 years and I have no issues passing as female or being out in public and talking to strangers.
The beginning will be rough, but it definitely gets easier and some day you most likely will reach the point where u dont even think about trans/detrans stuff that often. You can detransition as slow as you want and you can take time to question as long as you want. I got off T and I started presenting as female in public about a year after.
My voice is better now due to some voice training. Its still deep but no one ever gives me any trouble 🤷♀️. I had laser on my face to get rid of most of my facial hair. And my head hair got a lot more thick off T.
Detransition was very emotionally hard for me for the first 6 months and it slowly got better to where at 2 years I'm kind of over it now and I feel like I am done and can just exist peacefully now.
Hi I was on T for 5 years and I've been off for 1.5 years now. I can pass if I hide my adams apple and am cognizant of how deep im speaking lol. I am getting my adams apple shaved this summer so hopefully no problems after that!
How long it takes for you to start passing as a female depends on how fast ur body reacts, just like how long it takes to pass when you transiton! Have patience but also have hope. Take a couple progress pictures so you can look back and realize how much you change in the coming months. Gaining a couple pounds after stopping T tends to help give a more feminine appearance as well.
When you get around to looking for laser hair removal look on groupon for deals. Avoid IPL, its not permanent, look for places that do alexandrite(for fair skin and dark hair), or diode or nd:yag(for lighter hair/darker skin) and youll generally do 10-12 sessions for full results.
I rushed into transition because the culture puts pressure on you to transition young. The younger you transition (and the more attractive you are) the more fanfare you seem to get.
That and I didnt want to be "tainted" with any more effects from my natural puberty.
what ive done is stop straining for a voice as high as all the other girls around me, it hurts my throat, i cant maintain it for long, and it sounds obviously fake.
what i do is basically do the range i baby talk to my animals with, and adapt that for every day speech and it seems to work fine and is androgynous enough to not be shocking to anyone. im only 8 months into detransition so im not done tinkering with my voice however
Youll have that, some people get it in their head that detransition is a bad thing snd that you're regressing into a shitty person or something. Don't let their own issues stop you on your pathway to self acceptance and growth, they will wise up sooner or later.
i had a hysterectomy at 19, and i detransitioned 3 years later. it was very mentally taxing to deal with the grief and regret over that surgery when i decided i wanted to be female again. to the point it made me push my desires down and continue living as male for quite a while longer than i would have otherwise. But it gets easier. It just takes a looonngg time to grieve, and come to terms with the side effects of it. I was a mess for the first ~3-4 months into my detransition. I'm 9 months into my detransition now (and 6 months on estrogen) and i am feeling at peace with it for the time being, it still greatly bothers me but it doesnt feel like a black hole in my heart anymore. i can function and still feel grateful for my life and the blessings i have, and continue creating the life i want.
Ultimately you will be healthier on estrogen than you would be on T for the rest of your life, so that brings me comfort to know that i am finally doing what is best for my physical health. most of my grief is around the sterile aspect of it, and missing out on a lot of female bonding regarding periods and pregnancy etc. but being on hrt forever is definitely another large reason why my hysto was such an awful choice.
I made a post similar to this a couple months ago but since then I've been using foam minoxidil for women maybe once or twice a week (im very bad at using it consistently) and i think ive seen more progress than usual.
I'm honestly surprised how slow this process of regrowing my temples is but I'm happy it seems like it's going to continue to regrow for the next couple years.
The area all the new baby hairs are in is basically what my pre t hair line was so im hoping itll fill in denser with time
Hi! Plastic surgeons generally offer financing through loan services. For example my surgeon works with carecredit who offers 6-12months 0% apr or 24-60 months with 14% apr (yikes). Approval for this will be dependent on your credit score and your income to debt ratio. Breast augmentation generally costs 6k-9k for implants only. Generally the women I know who get breast augmentation after top surgery only need implants and nothing else.
I am concerned about you going into breast augmentation to "fix" yourself only to find you are still unhappy. I strongly suggest getting counseling before pursuing surgery, and a plastic surgeon would urge the same, especially since you have childhood sexual trauma. You so not need breasts to feel like a woman, many women are completely flat. I know that isnt the most helpful thing to hear because you are dealing with the grief and loss of what you had, but don't limit yourself to having to be a specific body shape.
If you want more info on breast augmention or reconstruction let me know, I am getting implants in a couple weeks so I am studied up on it.
I switched jobs when I got tired of pretending to be male and I had made enough physical progress in my detransition to pass as female again.
I worked in a male dominated trade job and got sick of the guys there treating me progressively worse the more feminine I looked. Now I'm working as a teaching assistant for the time being, wayyy better and everyone only knows me as a girl now.