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The user's perspective is consistent and nuanced over a four-year period. They describe a personal struggle with autogynephilia (AGP), sissy hypno, and considering transition, which aligns with a desister's experience (someone who considered but did not medically transition). Their passion and anger are consistent with the genuine trauma and strong feelings many detransitioners/desisters express. The language is natural, with personal anecdotes and evolving political views, which is atypical for a scripted bot.
About me
I'm a man who started questioning my gender in my late twenties, driven by a fascination with transwomen and what I now see as a sexual fantasy. My journey was really about untangling that fantasy from deep-seated trauma, self-hatred, and a feeling that I could never be a 'real man.' I felt immense online pressure to transition and believed it was my only path to happiness, but I came to see it as a harmful form of escapism. I resisted that pressure and chose not to medically transition. Now I'm happily married with a child, and I've found peace by learning to accept myself as a feminine man.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started with a deep fascination with transwomen and what I later understood to be autogynephilia (AGP). For a long time, I saw transwomen as women, completely and without question. But as I started to question my own gender, that view completely fell apart for me. I began to see it as a kind of delusion.
A big part of my experience was dealing with sissy hypnosis and trans porn. It was a real problem for me, especially when I was stressed or fighting with my girlfriend. I’d fall into it, then feel terrible. I realized it was a form of escapism that made me dissociate from my real life. I had to make a conscious effort to stay away from it because it just made things worse in the long run.
I also struggled with a lot of internalised issues. I now believe that for me, and maybe for many others, the desire to transition wasn't about being a woman, but came from a place of self-hatred and internalised misandry. I had a difficult childhood with an abusive stepmother, a neglectful father, and being bullied at school, which led to feelings of emasculation. The idea of transitioning started to feel like a form of self-harm, something I felt pressured to do but didn't actually want. There was a point where I genuinely believed the online rhetoric that if I didn't transition, I would end up miserable, abandoning my family, and killing myself. It was terrifying.
But I didn't transition. I got through that pressure. I'm still married, I have my child, and I'm happy. For me, the answer wasn't becoming a woman; it was about learning to be okay with being a feminine man. I think society has a very narrow view of masculinity, and it pushes feminine men to believe that the only way to be themselves is to change their bodies. I wish we could broaden what it means to be a man so that people like me, and transwomen, could live comfortably without feeling the need to transition.
I have a lot of thoughts on the online trans community. I hate "egg culture" – those memes that say things like "cis people never question their gender" or that every little sign, like choosing a female character in a video game, means you're trans. Of course men can like lingerie or enjoy playing as female characters without it meaning they're women! An avatar is a character you're role-playing, not necessarily a reflection of your identity. I questioned my gender intensely, and I'm not trans.
Looking back, I don't regret exploring these feelings, but I am deeply relieved I didn't medically transition. I think the whole industry can be predatory, feeding on people's insecurities. My journey was about untangling sexual fantasies, trauma, and low self-esteem from the idea of gender identity. I'm in a much better place now, having accepted that I can be a man who doesn't fit the traditional mold.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood | Experienced emasculation from family abuse and school bullying. Developed a fascination with lingerie and femininity. |
| Late 20s / Early 30s | Began intensely questioning my gender, influenced by online communities and AGP. Felt extreme pressure to transition. |
| Around age 33 | Resisted pressure to transition, realizing it was a form of escapism and potential self-harm rooted in trauma. |
| Present (6+ years later) | Living happily as a man, married with a child. Have accepted myself as a feminine man without needing to transition. |
Top Comments by /u/mushroomyakuza:
I cannot reasonably communicate with most of these people except a select few.
You were once like this, so you know just how pointless any attempt at conversation is. Ignore them, you're not talking to a person, you're talking to someone possessed by ideology.
I know it's not a generality. But I've been keeping that inside me for so long, because I thought I shouldn't say bad things about the trans community etc... Now I just don't care anymore. I've seen the trans militant spaces, and there is always stories about abuse and assault and let's be real, most of them are males. I know that not all males, but I needed to share this.
Teacher and safeguarding person here. Please report this person immediately.
Honestly, I'm more than up for a collaborative effort. I wasn't sure if this post would be just screaming into the void, but...sigh.
This video just really irked me. It was exactly the kind of nonsense I feared it might be and I genuinely came to it with an open mind. I've moved significantly to the left over the last couple years as I've come to accept my own AGP and identity. But really, this reminded me of the terrible, unsubstantiated dross much of leftist YouTube, especially ContraPoints and PhilosophyTube routinely put out (though both have got a lot better in their defence).
like everyone else knew something i didn’t.
If you could see this about someone, along with 90%+ of other people, you'd say that person had mental illness and wasn't in touch with reality. If someone feels too fat and becomes anorexic or bulemic, or if someone insists they need to cut off a limb, we do not affirm them. We tell them they have a mental illness. But gender, for some reason, is different.
Yeah, I got told repeatedly that if I didn't transition ASAP I would end up a miserable divorced hun abandoning my wife and children to eventually become a suicide statistic. It's been 6 years since that hugboxing, I didn't transition, wife still here, child too. I get that they believe this stuff...but it's projection. What's true for someone else may not be true for me.
Sorry you've been led down this path. I only have one question because I think its vital people understand the motivating factors. Do you subscribe to Blanchard's typology or HSTS and AGP TS? Which are you? Did you / do you derive sexual pleasure from crossdressing and living as a woman?
Please don't downvote. This is just me trying to voice, like you, a highly unpopular discussion point. We can't solve the issue if we can't discuss it.
I have no idea how the adults around me justifies pushing me further and further from reality.
Really? You don't see rampant judgement if someone so much as dares to question a teenagers gender identity? People lose their jobs, homes, families for this. It is entrenched, among parents, doctors, the media and almost every trans person alive lambasting it from a soapbox. I'm not surprised at all.
An anime drawing of a young boy gazing at lingerie in a shop window.
• A post saying 'Have you ever thought about why you always pick the girl characters in games?'.
• Several memes giving 'reminders' that cis people never question their gender and if you've ever questioned your gender you must be trans.
I hate these so much. I was obsessed with pantyhose as a kid and to this day I am obsessed with lingerie. Yes, I get off on cross dressing sometimes, but it's not exactly surprising men like lingerie.
The videogame one can be reduced to the same thing: why watch a male avatar and you can watch one you're attracted to? An avatar is not a representation of you, it's a character you are role playing (and isn't that just too close to the truth?)
Cis people can and do question their gender, I'm one of them! Urrrgh I hate egg culture soooooo much.
Thank you for writing this. I'm sorry you've been through so much shit. I really hope you become comfortable with yourself, whichever way that lands, trans or not. Thanks for raising awareness. But word of warning - I'm absolutely certain this story will be used as "evidence" by certain groups. There's nothing you can do about that. Don't delete this. You are giving visibility to people who seriously need it.
Have a blessed day.
I couldn't access this because I'm not a member or something but I watched a video they put labelled RIP - this person was seriously suffering. Their body language shows you a level of severe anxiety. They were visibly distressed. It was genuinely quite hard to watch. This poor kid.