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About me
I was born female and began transitioning at 19, trying to escape myself through chronic depression. My journey was exhausting, and I grew tired of trying to be someone I wasn't. Healing my mental health was the key to untangling my gender confusion. I've detransitioned and now find peace in finally being myself again, though I live with some regrets. I'm moving forward, focused on my healing and even sharing my story to help others.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender has been a long and complicated one, and it took me a long time to understand why I did what I did. I was born female, and I started transitioning when I was 19 years old. For me, a lot of it was rooted in deep unhappiness that I now see was chronic depression. I didn't feel good about myself and I think I was trying to escape from who I was.
Looking back, I can see that my parents' actions and a lot of poor parenting played a big part in leading me to transition. For a while, I felt really angry at them, especially because I was so young. But I've somehow managed to find a way to forgive them. I've realized that not everyone can handle the full truth, and sometimes talking to them feels like talking to children, where I have to explain things very gently because they can't handle taking accountability.
The process of transitioning itself was exhausting. I spent so much time and energy trying to be and look like something I wasn't. I had fun for a while and I was even an attractive man; when I look at old photos I sometimes still miss that person. But trying to be someone else all the time is draining, and I eventually got tired of it. My body got tired of it, too. It led to a feeling of not being seen for who I really was.
What really helped me start to untangle everything was beginning to work on my underlying mental health. I started seeking help for my chronic depression, and that healing journey ended up having everything to do with my gender confusion. I never thought I would detransition, but that's where I ended up. It takes a lot of hard work and humility to love yourself as you are and to admit you might have taken a wrong path.
I've benefited a lot from different kinds of therapy. Regular therapy with the right therapist has been helpful, but alternative therapies were key for my healing. Things like energy work, reiki, dance, and especially plant medicines like psychedelics helped me immensely. Ayahuasca, in particular, was a major part of my journey to finding self-acceptance. Having a supportive community has also been crucial.
When it comes to gender itself, I've come to believe that we are all constantly changing beings, and gender is just one way to experience that changing nature. You're always you, no matter what. For me, it's not really about "passing" as one thing or another. It's about being true to yourself. Feminine men are beautiful, and sometimes I think it's better to think less about the identity labels and just do what feels right for you.
I do have some regrets about transitioning. There's some pain in the choices I've made that I now have to live with. But there's also so much ease and peace in finally finding myself again and just letting myself be. All we can do in this life is be ourselves. It’s exhausting to try and be someone else.
As part of my detransition, I've been getting laser hair removal for my facial hair. I was surprised it was affordable; I pay $55 a month. Before that, I used sugar waxing, which I made myself, and that's actually what helped me realize I wanted to get rid of my facial hair because I liked how I looked with a smooth face.
Now, I'm focused on moving forward. I've even started a podcast called The Bridge where I have conversations about these kinds of topics, because I think it's important to talk about them.
Here is a timeline of the main events in my journey:
Age | Event |
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19 | Began my transition (taking testosterone and living as a man). |
Around 25-26 | Began sugar waxing my facial hair, which made me realize I preferred my face without hair. |
26 | Started laser hair removal treatments. |
26-27 | Began my detransition journey, stopping hormones and starting to live again as a woman. This was after a period of deep healing work on my depression. |
Top Comments by /u/mxxx889:
Hi friend - I was confused by your descriptor and wasn’t sure what was your birth sex and what gender you transitioned to be. Needless to say, you look very androgynous.
When it comes down to it, it’s not really about passing. It’s about being true to yourself. For me, the process of transitioning and trying so hard to be and look like something I wasn’t took so much effort. It led to extreme exhaustion and a feeling of not being seen for who I really was.
It takes hard work to love yourself as you are. It takes a lot of humility to admit you did something you regret and want to change your path. That’s amazing. To be here right now on this page asking these questions is something you should be proud of.
Plant medicine (specifically Ayahuasca) helped me immensely on my journey to finding self acceptance. Feel free to reach out. Much love <3
That’s really tough. It makes sense to be angry at your parents. You were so young. Gosh. I admire your strength and am so happy you have begun a journey of self love and acceptance.
I began transitioning when I was 19, but I feel similar anger at my parents as it was many of their actions and poor parenting that led me to do what I did. However, I have somehow managed to find forgiveness for them and also learned that not everyone can handle the full truth. Sometimes talking to my parents feels like talking to children; explaining things very gently because they cannot handle self-accountability.
In my own time, I do a lot of healing work to feel and process the emotions about what I have gone through, which then helps me show up to my relationships more clear-headed.
Alternative types of therapies like energy work, reiki, dance, and plant medicines (ie psychedelics) have been key for me in my own healing. Oh, and supportive community, of course. Regular therapy has been helpful too, with the right therapist.
Feel free to reach out if you ever want someone to talk to.
Kudos to you for figuring this out and beginning to accept it. If you really nurture and develop these qualities you have, you will be an amazing father and partner one day. We need more men who are caring and kind and confident.
As far as steps, think about the steps you took to transition. It’s almost kinda the same thing in reverse, lol. Think about what you need to do to begin to go back to living as your natural self, make a list, and start with the basics.
Personally I would begin by stopping the hormones, and beginning to share the news with the people closest to you. It may be a gradual journey to feeling comfortable in your skin but such is life. You’ve got this. 💜
Hi. Thanks for sharing. It sounds like you have a lot going on aside from the gender stuff. and I can relate because I’ve been there. My own journey of self-healing began with seeking help for chronic depression, and it ended up having a lot to do with my gender stuff, leading me to detransition, something I never thought I’d do. I share that to say that it’s all connected, and beginning to get help from the bottom up - that is, what is the root of the problem here? - is where it really begins. And it’ll all unfold from there.
You are meant to live, simply by the fact that you are alive! And you were alive enough to make this post, to care. I can imagine you’ve gone through a good deal of hurt in your life to feel the way you do.
I’ve been on quite the journey myself and am happy to share what has helped me. Feel free to reach out.
This is very well-said and brings up points I hadn’t thought about, although I felt there was something very sinister about the phrase.
I have a podcast called The Bridge where I have conversations about these topics. Any interest in coming on for an interview? Here’s the link: YouTube.com/@thebridge100
I thought I would not be able to afford laser either and was surprised how affordable it was when I looked into it. The place I go (Simplicity Laser), I am on a plan for two years where I pay $55/month. Sessions are once every six weeks (the length of a life cycle of a hair follicle, I believe for two years. If laser is something you really want, I’d recommend making a plan asap to figure out how to pay for it. Start putting some money in a piggy bank or a savings account or something. It’s best to start saving sooner rather than later because removing your facial hair is a lengthy process - I have had four sessions so far and it will be a few more yet before I no longer have any (super easily) visible stubble. By that point, it will have been the better part of a year. I’m grateful I started when I did.
Another suggestion for the meantime is to try sugar waxing. I was doing this before laser. You can make sugar wax yourself (sugar, lemon, water) and use it on your face. It gives you a totally smooth face as it pulls the hairs right out of the folicles, and it lasts about two weeks. I did this for about six months, and it was what helped me realize I wanted to get rid of my facial hair because I liked how I looked so much. You do have to stop waxing before getting laser though, as you don’t want to be damaging your hair follicles during laser treatment.
I can relate. I was attractive as a man, and I had fun. When I look at old photos (which aren’t even that old) I still sometimes miss it. But I am a woman. And ultimately I have realized that all we can do in this life is be ourselves. It’s exhausting to try and be someone else all the time. I eventually got tired of it, and so did my body. I’m grateful to be just letting myself be now. There’s some pain in the choices I’ve made that now I live with but so much ease and peace in finding myself again.
Hi. I get you. I just wanna say, you’re always YOU no matter what. And we are all constantly changing beings. Gender is such an interesting way to experience our changing nature. Also, feminine men are beautiful. Maybe try to think less about the identity part and just do you. Whatever feels right. Other people are gonna have their judgments regardless. All you can do is be yourself.