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About me
My journey began with childhood trauma that made me deeply uncomfortable being male. I got lost in online communities that encouraged me to blame my body instead of addressing my pain, which led to years of depression and addiction. I finally found healing by stepping away, talking about my abuse, and confronting my trauma directly. I now believe medical transition is a harmful imitation that ignores the real issues, and I've found true peace through my faith. I am learning to live as my real self, healed and whole.
My detransition story
My whole journey with identity started with the sexual abuse I suffered as a child. For a long time, I couldn't handle what happened to me, and it made me feel extremely uncomfortable being male. I associated masculinity with the abuse, so I wanted to get away from it. This led to a lot of confusion, depression, and addiction in my life. I had huge identity issues, but I never medically transitioned.
I believe my problems, and the problems I see in many others, are rooted in things like trauma, not in being born in the wrong body. I got deeply into online communities, and I saw how it works like a social contagion. Vulnerable people, especially young ones, encourage each other down this path. It wasn't until I stepped away from all that madness and finally opened up to my friends and family about the abuse that things started to click for me. I realized my addiction and identity issues were all connected to the trauma.
I don't believe a person can truly transition to the opposite sex. You can only become a poor imitation. Because of this, I see hormones and surgeries as a harmful response to deeper problems. You wouldn't encourage a depressed person's suicidal thoughts; you'd try to treat the root cause of the depression. It's the same here. The underlying issues need to be addressed through therapy and honest conversation, not through medical procedures that wreck havoc on the body. From what I've seen, depression and suicide often increase after hormone therapy, which shows it doesn't work.
For me, the only thing that brought true peace was finding strength in Jesus Christ. Nothing else worked. I hope others can find that same peace and learn to live as their real selves, not as an imitation. It might be hard to go back if you've started down the transition path, but your real family and friends will welcome you back with open arms, just happy to have you back on the right path. We all make mistakes when we're young and influenced by bad things; what matters is finding your way back.
I don't have any regrets about transitioning medically because I never did it. But I do have strong regrets about the time I spent lost in identity issues and addiction, and I see the path of medical transition as one filled with regret for those who go down it. It's a difficult thing to watch, especially when I believe the real problems aren't being solved.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood | Suffered sexual abuse. |
| Teens to Early 20s | Felt extreme discomfort with being male and masculinity. Struggled with identity issues, depression, and addiction. |
| 20s | Stopped engaging with online communities and opened up to family and friends about the abuse. Understood the link between my trauma and my identity struggles. |
| 20s | Found peace and strength through my faith in Jesus Christ. |
Top Comments by /u/nggardly_user:
Hey there, first of all you're not a freak. I hope you can find some peace from the confusion. I know it can be hard to accept your masculinity (I was sexually abused as a child so I felt extremely uncomfortable being male or at all masculine until my 20's) but ultimately you can get better and be at true peace. "Trainsition" never makes you into he opposite sex that's the big problem. You might be able to convince people but you are constantly at war with your body to stop it being the way it naturally is. I can't help with anything related to hormones or medical stuff but I can talk to you about getting through identity issues to reclaim masculinity if you would like.
Well the issue for me is that it's predicated on the notion that one can really "transition" to begin with. You never become the opposite sex just a poor imitation so it should never be a treatment let alone for kids. You don't encourage a depressed persons suicidal thoughts, or a schizophrenics delusions. They need treatment but it sure isn't hormones and surgery
I recommend limit in access to the internet. It's a social contagion and young vulnerable people encourage each other. I never fully knew my addiction and identity issues were related to my childhood sexual abuse until I stopped all the madness and actually opened up to my friends and family and it all clicked. Your son may not be lying but it could still be the abuse. It's a difficult line to walk not wanting to push the child away but also not wanting to let them make decisions that will likely wreck havoc on their bodies.
Keeping your child away from discords, subreddits or other forums about transgenderism is important. I would also encourage you to try and use therapy or just talking among your family to address the root cause. Someone doesn't have deep seated identity issues to the point of wanting to take hormones or dangerous surgery if they are happy and well adjusted so there must be underlying issues. Sexual abuse is extremely common among transgender identifying people so my money is on that. Take this with a grain of salt I've never had a child go through this, my experience is only observing others (non family) and my own issues with identity, abuse, addiction and depression.
Good luck with this, I wish you the best for your family. I pray that your son will find answers that actually work to solve his problems, ultimately I hope he can find strength and peace in Jesus Christ our Lord, nothing else brought me peace until I knew Christ. Either way I hope your family makes it through this, I can tell you care.
I seriously doubt that and if true that is immoral and disgusting deception. All transsexuals I've seen at least mtf look extremely manly. Even if looks were there they're never women. And the "vagina" never works it's a gaping surgical wound. Like all transsexuals, you're a fetishist. You've let your fetish take over your life. From the outside it's clear to us that is the case hence you wanting to lactate for example. I recommend all transsexuals cease pornography and the whole thing will become less prevalent
Most doctors wouldn't ever say hormones and experimental surgeries are a fix for dysphoria. Just because some association said so doesn't make it right. Especially since depression and suicide increase after hormone therapy. It doesn't work, and you can never transition to the opposite sex only a poor facsimile. Telling anyone otherwise is downright abuse
It'll always be better to live as your real self not an imitation of the opposite sex. It might be hard going back, but no matter how far down the wrong road you've gotten your family and friends will hopefully still welcome you with open arms and say welcome back. When the prodigal son returned, his father wasn't angry he blew all his money, or dishonored him. He was just happy to have his son back
It won't be easy but hopefully people will understand. They should be happy to have you back and on the right path not angry at themistake. We all do stupid stuff when we're young and influenced by evil forces. I couldn't handle my sexual abuse as a child so I became a drug addict and had huge identity issues though I never transitioned. My famil was just happy I was forsaking the awful lifestyle I was living