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Reddit user /u/njhggvvghhbjjjjj's Detransition Story

male
internalised homophobia
took hormones
regrets transitioning
influenced online
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The comments display a consistent, passionate, and highly personal viewpoint that aligns with a specific, critical perspective found within some detransitioner communities. The user shares detailed personal anecdotes (living in Germany, attending a trans group in Berlin, being married while transitioned) and expresses a complex, nuanced opinion that evolves through the conversation. This is not the behavior of a simple bot. The account presents as a real, opinionated person who is a desister/detransitioner.

About me

I started because I believed I was a woman trapped in a man's body, and getting hormones in Germany was surprisingly easy. After living as a woman and even getting married, I realized the community was obsessed with transition and saw HRT as a magic solution. I stopped hormones a year ago and finally saw how much they had changed my personality and thinking. I now believe my transition was driven by deeper issues, not by being truly trans. Today, I am focused on self-acceptance and am much happier living in reality.

My detransition story

My whole journey with this started because I believed I was a woman trapped in a man's body. That's what I thought being trans was. I was living in Germany, and getting on hormones was surprisingly easy. After just three visits to a doctor, I was prescribed HRT. I started taking estrogen.

For a while, I really leaned into it. I passed as a woman, which I know now is a privilege many of my trans friends didn't have. I even got married to a man and wore a wedding dress. From the outside, it probably looked like I had achieved the perfect trans life. But inside, things weren't that simple.

Being part of the trans community in Berlin, I noticed that everything revolved around transition. It was like an obsession. There was no talk about hobbies, careers, or building a life outside of being trans. It felt like we were all stuck in this loop, and I started to think that HRT was being seen as a magical pill that would solve all your problems. But it's not; it's a very powerful and dangerous drug.

After being on HRT for a while, I decided to stop. I've been off hormones for a year now. Coming off them made me see how much they had affected my brain, my emotions, and my whole way of thinking. My personality changed. It made me realize that combining this powerful medication with other mental health issues, which many people in the community have, can be a complete disaster.

Looking back, I don't think I was ever a "real transsexual," as some people call it. I think my reasons for transitioning were more complicated. I believe things like internalised homophobia and other mental health struggles can trick a person into thinking they are trans. I saw this in a lot of my friends, too. We were all searching for a solution to deeper problems.

My thoughts on gender now are that we need to be more realistic. There is biology. A man on estrogen is still a man on estrogen. I don't understand the intense need to be called a "woman" or a "man" and to expect the entire world to see you through your own eyes. That's just not possible. What the trans community really needs, in my opinion, is a focus on self-love, self-respect, and realistic expectations. People need to learn to be proud of who they actually are, not who they think they should be.

I do have some regrets about transitioning. I regret not addressing my underlying issues first. I regret that the medical system made it so easy for me to get hormones without a deeper exploration of my mental state. I think medical transition should always be the absolute last option after everything else has been tried. I worry about the future, because I think we are going to see a lot of people detransition, and the harm from the hormones can be permanent.

My life now is about accepting reality and myself. I am happier and more at peace. I don't live in a victim role anymore. I just want to be proud of who I am.

Here is a timeline of my journey:

My Age Year Event
- - Started living as a trans woman and began HRT in Germany.
- - Got married to a man while living as a woman.
- 2023 Stopped taking hormones (detransitioned).
- 2024 Currently off hormones for one year.

Top Comments by /u/njhggvvghhbjjjjj:

7 comments • Posting since December 29, 2023
Reddit user njhggvvghhbjjjjj (Socially Trans - Regrets Transition) comments that attractiveness is not defined by gender, praises a detransitioned man's appearance and strength, and encourages him to stay true to himself.
26 pointsJan 3, 2024
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Fem doesn’t mean beautiful. Never did never will. Or person, human is attractive or si not no matter of gender. And you are attractive man! Be proud of yourself, you went through a lot, through not many “ordinary “ people ever will. Btw you look much happier and handsome as a man , so do not change yourself for anyone. I wish you all the best from my heart ❤️

Reddit user njhggvvghhbjjjjj (Socially Trans - Regrets Transition) comments that doctors should require complete mental stability before prescribing HRT, expressing concern over treating patients with bipolar disorder, depression, or suicidal ideation and predicting a future wave of detransitioners with permanent physical damage.
13 pointsJan 1, 2024
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I think that for big thing like transition person needs to be completely mentally stable. Many trans people have other mental problems and diagnoses. I can’t understand that doctors can put someone with bipolar , suicidal or medical depressed on HRT. In a future ( near) future we will see many people detransition. But harm from hormones will stay.

Reddit user njhggvvghhbjjjjj (Socially Trans - Regrets Transition) explains why they believe terms like "FTM" are misleading, arguing that biological sex cannot be changed and that the community should adopt "trans masc" and "trans fem" instead. They advocate for self-acceptance, realistic expectations, and moving away from what they see as a harmful delusion.
12 pointsDec 29, 2023
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I was banded from actual detrans and trans sub for same comment. I do not understand why some people choose to live in a lie or delusional, and feel so offend by reality. Terms should be : trans fem , and trans masculine. There is biology, and we know that man on estrogen is still man on estrogen, why to force so strong to see yourself as something that you can’t become and be angry on other People when they see what they see : man on estrogen. Why not to be proud of who you are? Why this strong feeling you need to be called “woman “ or a “man”… And to expect that world see you through your own eyes. That is not possible. Realistic expectations, self love , self respect, proudness and self awareness is what trans community needs to work on. Love to all …

Reddit user njhggvvghhbjjjjj (Socially Trans - Regrets Transition) comments that being trans is a "sad life" of mental illness, where most cannot pass or accept reality, and live in a perpetual victim role.
6 pointsJan 1, 2024
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Trans people can’t “get a prize “. GD is mental illness. Most of people support trans community just because they feel sorry for them. And trans people live their life in “ victim role “ all the time. Most of trans people do not pass. Most of them can’t accept reality. I don’t think this is a “get a prize”. Trans life is sad life. If you can’t accept yourself is the worst life ever.

Reddit user njhggvvghhbjjjjj (Socially Trans - Regrets Transition) comments that easy access to HRT in Germany, where they got it after only 3 doctor visits, allows people with other mental illnesses to mistakenly transition, believing it will solve problems unrelated to gender dysphoria.
6 pointsJan 1, 2024
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Being suicidal doesn’t have nothing to do with GD. At least I don’t share that opinion. Imagine world without HRT. You think people would just kill then self or would do best of their life? Yes I can understand that someone just have feelings to be “born as a wrong gender “ and I completely support transition for “ real transsexual people “ , but I also think that many people transition thinking this will solve other issues they have. My point is that access to HRT this days is very easy. At least in Germany where I came from. After 3 visits to a doctor I was on Hrt. Also many of my trans friends. GD can be very tricky to diagnose when people have other mental illness..

Reddit user njhggvvghhbjjjjj (Socially Trans - Regrets Transition) explains the dangers of "egg culture," warns that HRT is not a magical pill, and advocates for self-love and realistic expectations over medical transition.
5 pointsJan 1, 2024
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Exactly. And that can be very difficult to diagnose. Because how can you know you will be better as “opposite “ sex. Many times people think they should transition just because they like make up , or play football. After my transition I have realized that “life is a woman “ is much harder. Especially of a trans woman. And if you have bipolar, depression or other problem ( wich I don’t) put this “trans life style “ pressure can lead to completely catastrophe. I think medical transition should be last option. I don’t wanna be rude but from my point self love , self respect, realistic expectations are things that trans community miss . I remember when I was in FC trans group in Berlin. When I was going to meetings with trans community everything was about transition. Like ocd . Like there is no other things ( hobbies, career…) there are many things people can do to feel better with themselves and accept their body and reality. Many trans people ( especially young) think hrt is a magical pill. When on other side is very dangerous drug.

Reddit user njhggvvghhbjjjjj (Socially Trans - Regrets Transition) discusses the harmful lack of honest conversation in the trans community, explaining that while being trans is difficult in some countries, the "trans boom" often ignores the harsh realities of not passing, job discrimination, and drug use. They share their personal experience of passing and marrying but still choosing to detransition after a year off HRT, warning that hormones alter the brain and can combine disastrously with mental illness, and opining that many on HRT are not transsexual but are influenced by AGP, being gay, homophobia, or trauma.
3 pointsJan 1, 2024
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I agree with you. And yes I think we live in 2 different world’s. I think even to be gay in Turkey is difficult. Can imagine how difficult can be for trans people. I am sorry for that. But we can’t ignore that “trans boom “ happened few years ago. And we can’t ignore that in trans community there is not enough honest talk about “ trans life”. It is more or less presented like so happy life :“ transition saved my life , I am so much happier, I live best years of my life, love what hrt did to me “ … When in reality many trans people do not pass,what can be very stressful. Many of them have problems to find a job , many of them use a lot of drugs to fight with depression all this problems bring. I did pass , I married a man ( had a wedding dress) haha .. but many of my friends were not that lucky. I guess I was 1 in 100. Still I have decided to detransition. I am of hrt for a year and now I can see how hrt affect your brain , emotions, way of thinking, personality… And this thing in combination with other mental illness can be disaster. However, my opinion is that many of people who are today on Hrt are not actually transsexual. AGP , gay , homophobia ,traumatized… all this things can trick person to think they are transsexual.