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Reddit user /u/notaplant999's Detransition Story

Transitioned: 15
female
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
got top surgery
now infertile
retransition
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About me

I was forced to medically transition by my mother when I was 15, even though I told her I was just questioning and wasn't ready. She pressured me into testosterone, top surgery, and a hysterectomy, and I felt completely powerless to stop it. Now that I live on my own, I'm trying to detransition but I feel lost and don't know how to be a woman. I'm terrified I'll never feel like myself again and I'm stuck with a body that doesn't feel like mine. The worst part is my mother still tells people how wonderful my transition was, even though it has left me miserable.

My detransition story

My name isn't important, but my story is. I was forced to medically transition when I was 15 years old by my mother, and it has left me with a life full of regret and pain.

It all started when I told my mom I was questioning my gender. I had no plans to do anything medical; I was just confused and trying to figure things out. But the very next day, she threw away all of my girl clothes without even asking me. It felt like she was erasing me. She immediately set up appointments for me to start hormone therapy. I told her clearly that I wasn't ready. I even tried to get my therapist to tell her to stop, but my mom didn't care. She insisted I needed to do it and said my mental health would get worse if I didn't.

She made me start testosterone even though I begged her not to. The same thing happened with top surgery and a hysterectomy. She convinced the doctors that this was what I needed and pressured me into going along with it by saying I would fall apart mentally if I didn't. The only thing I managed to avoid was bottom surgery; I put my foot down on that one.

I knew I didn't want any of this the whole time. As my body began to change from the testosterone, I became more and more distressed. I felt like I was losing myself and there was nothing I could do about it. I got a hysterectomy at 16. I sometimes get jealous when I see pregnant women, and I have recurring dreams where I have a baby and wake up very sad. I don't think anyone that young should have that surgery, even if they think they're sure. Luckily, I have one ovary left, so I don't have to be on medication for life if I stop testosterone, which I'm on a very low dose of now.

Now that I don't live with my parents, I'm trying to detransition, but it's incredibly hard. I feel like I hit a wall. I don't remember how to dress or act in a feminine way because I never got to learn as a teenager. I never learned how to do makeup. I'm trying to figure out how to wear my hair and I wear jewelry sometimes, but it's so frustrating. It makes me genuinely suicidal because I'm terrified I'll never be a pretty girl again. I don't have the money for any surgery to reverse things or for hair removal. I feel completely stuck with a body that doesn't feel like mine, with no way out.

The worst part is that my mother still goes around advocating for minors to transition, telling everyone how wonderful it was for me. She still believes it was the best thing that ever happened to me, even though I've tried to tell her it was a disaster. I never wanted any of this, and I am miserable.

Age Event
15 Told my mother I was questioning my gender. The next day, she threw out all my girl clothes and set up appointments for hormone therapy.
15 Was forced to start taking testosterone against my will, despite telling my mother and therapist I was not ready.
16 Was pressured into having top surgery.
16 Was pressured into having a hysterectomy. One ovary was left.
After moving out Began a social detransition, attempting to present and live as a woman again.

Top Comments by /u/notaplant999:

5 comments • Posting since August 15, 2023
Reddit user notaplant999 (Questioning own gender identity) explains their regret over having a hysterectomy at 16, describing jealousy of pregnant women and recurring dreams of having a baby, while cautioning against the procedure for minors.
29 pointsOct 1, 2023
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Sometimes. Not sure I really want kids but I sometimes get jealous when I see a pregnant woman. I also have reoccurring dreams where I have a baby and I wake up very sad each time. I got a hysterectomy at 16 years old. I don’t think anyone should get a hysterectomy that young even if they’re 100% certain they don’t want kids and/or are trans. Luckily, I have one ovary left so I don’t have to take any form of medication if I decide to completely stop taking testosterone (I’m on an extremely low dose right now).

Reddit user nota999 (Questioning own gender identity) explains how her mother forced her into medical transition at 15, including hormones and top surgery, threw out her girl clothes, and now advocates for minors to transition despite her disastrous experience.
16 pointsAug 15, 2023
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Yes, she put me through medical transition at 15 even though I told her I was ready. She forced me to take hormones and get top surgery even though I didn’t want it. She almost forced me to get bottom surgery but I was able to get out of that. She threw away all of my “girl clothes” the day after I told her I was questioning my gender without my permission. She now goes around advocating for minors to transition even though my transition was a disaster. I never wanted any of this and I am miserable

Reddit user nota999 (Questioning own gender identity) explains being forced by their mother to medically transition as a teenager, including HRT and surgeries, despite repeatedly stating they weren't ready.
15 pointsOct 3, 2023
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When I say “forced to transition” this is what I mean. When I was 15, I told my mother I was questioning my gender. I had no plans to medically transition. The next day, my mother throws all of my “girl clothes” away without my permission. She then sets up appointments for me to get hrt. I told her I wasn’t ready. She told me I needed to do it. Tried to get my therapist to tell my mom I wasn’t ready. My mom didn’t care. She made me go through with starting testosterone even when I insisted I wasn’t ready. Same thing happened with top surgery and hysterectomy. She convinced my doctors I needed it and tried to convince me I needed it and claimed my mental health would go down the drain if I didn’t go along with it. The only thing I was able to get out of was bottom surgery. I knew I didn’t want this the whole time and after my body started to change I became more and more distressed. I started to make efforts to detransition once I didn’t live with my parents anymore. My mother for some reason still believes that my transition was the best thing to ever happen to me even though I’ve tried to tell her is definitely wasn’t

Reddit user nota999 (Questioning own gender identity) comments on the difficulty of relearning feminine presentation after a long transition, citing frustration with hairstyles, makeup, and clothing.
12 pointsOct 3, 2023
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I’ve been trying to figure out how to wear my hair in a more feminine way. I do wear jewelry from time to time. I guess I transitioned so long ago that I don’t even remember how to dress feminine. I never learned how to do makeup either. It’s so frustrating

Reddit user nota999 (Questioning own gender identity) explains their despair after being forced to transition at 15, feeling stuck without money for surgery, and fearing they'll never be a pretty girl again.
11 pointsOct 3, 2023
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I just don’t know how to look more feminine. I feel like I’ve hit a wall and it’s making me miserable. I get genuinely suicidal because I’m terrified I’ll never be a pretty girl again. I don’t know what the answer is. I don’t have anyone to talk to about these things. I don’t have the money for surgery or hair removal. I was forced to transition at 15. I never wanted any of this and now I’m stuck with it with no way out