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About me
From a very young age, I felt I should have been a boy because my family was so strict about gender roles. I started my social transition as a teenager after pretending to be male online made me genuinely happy, not for any sexual reason. My family completely rejected it, which was very painful. Now, I've detransitioned because I realized my feelings were heavily influenced by outside pressures and a desire to escape those strict expectations. I see gender as much more complicated than I once did.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was just a little kid, around three years old. I remember feeling like I should have been a boy because my family was very strict about what girls could and couldn't do. They made me feel like I could never be happy or have a real life unless I was male. I saw gay male couples on TV when I was about eight and thought that was what I wanted to be when I grew up; a gay man.
I didn't even know what "transgender" meant until I was eleven. I found a documentary about trans teenagers on YouTube and immediately identified with it. But my experience feels very different from a lot of the kids I see today. It seems like many parents now are pushing their kids to transition because it's trendy, for social status. My family was the complete opposite; they never accepted it. I feel like a lot of these kids are being used by their parents for attention, and I don't believe they actually want to be the other gender.
When I was a teenager, almost all of my friends were gay boys. I was attracted to them, but not because they were fashionable or artsy. The guys I liked acted like regular straight guys; you wouldn't even know they were gay unless you asked. They were just teenagers who played video games. I think I was attracted to them mostly because they liked other men.
I started my social transition because it felt good. I had been pretending to be male online and in some parts of my life for a while, and it felt really nice to convince everyone I was male. That feeling of happiness is what made me decide to officially say I was trans and start living that way. It wasn't a sexual feeling for me; it just made me happy. I already had other fetishes from a very young age, like a scat fetish, but the feeling of being seen as male wasn't like that for me.
My family never acknowledged my transition at all. My mom completely ignored it, and my brother used it as an opportunity to insult me and call me horrible names. Nobody ever used my correct pronouns; the closest I ever got was a janitor at a McDonald's accidentally calling me "sir."
I don't really have strong feelings about clothes. I'm female and only wear men's clothes, but I feel like clothes don't define your gender. A man can wear women's clothes and still be a man. People should just wear whatever makes them happy.
Looking back, I don't plan on pursuing transition anymore. My thoughts on gender now are that it's a lot more complicated than I thought, and a lot of outside pressures, like family expectations or social trends, can really influence how you feel about yourself.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 3 | First remember wanting to be a boy because of strict family rules about gender. |
| 8 | Saw gay male couples on TV and wanted to grow up to be a gay man. |
| 11 | Found out what transgender was from a YouTube documentary and identified with it. |
| Teenager | Socially transitioned after feeling happy from pretending to be male online. |
| Teenager | Family refused to acknowledge my transition or use my pronouns. |
| Now | Have detransitioned and no longer plan to pursue transition. |
Top Comments by /u/nuclearcheesedburger:
My family never even acknowledged my transitioned or ever called me my pronouns. My mom ignored that I was trans and my brother would use it at every oppurnity to insult me or call me f*ggot because I had a trans flag in my room for a few years even after I've taken it down and detransitioned. I'm surprised your family actually even used your pronouns. I never had anyone ever do that to me. Closest thing anyone ever did was when a janitor accidentally called me sir at a McDonald's.
Why don't you just buy women's clothes? I feel like clothes don't really matter and someone can still be male and wear women's clothes. I'm female and only wear men's clothes. I don't feel like you should have to be forced to wear something you don't want to just so you can feel like a man. Lots of men wear women's clothes. You should look at femboys. They usually do that and are still male. There's no reason a male can't wear female clothes and still be male. I feel like you should wear whatever makes you happy and not worry about it. There's lots of men who dress feminine and are still men.
When I was a kid as long as I could remember I wanted to be male since like age 3. I just thought I should have been male because my family wouldn't let me do certain things because those things were "for boys" I ended up wishing I was male from a very young age. Even at like 8 years old I would see gay male couples on TV and think that I wanted to grow up to be a gay male. I didn't even know what transgender was untilage 11 when I found out being trans was a thing from watching documentaries and I found one about trans teenagers I started indenying as that immediately. In my case it was my family pushing me and making me feel like I could never be happy or have a real life unless I was male, but for most of these trans kids I see it seems like the opposite. A lot of these kids it seems like the parents are pushing it on them for social status because it's trendy at the moment to have a trans kid. I don't believe these kids are the same as I was since the parents are very accepting of the trans thing and mine were the opposite. I feel like it's parents using their kids for attention. I don't believe any of these kids actually want to be the other gender it's the parents trying to become relevant.
I've never felt anything from crossdressing so crossdressing isn't a fetish for me, the idea of being male seems like it is but I don't really care about clothes. I already have a lot of fetishes already. I've never heard of that person though. I don't think I like gay men because they are fashionable or artsy or anything. The gay men I've liked acted more like straight men. I never liked any stereotypically gay men. Mostly guys that you could not tell are gay unless you asked them. 90% of my friends when I was a teen were gay male teenagers. They never acted stereotypically gay or feminine. They were mostly regular teenagers who played a lot of video games and I was attracted to them most because they liked other men not because they acted a certain way. I don't plan on pursuing it anymore.
When I was a kid I was obsessed with poop and I used to draw pictures of it for hours and thinking about it. I also used to go to the bathroom in my pants and it made me feel good. I didn't realize what I was feeling was sexual until I was a bit older and I realized I had a scat fetish. So that's an example of me technically having a fetish when I was young.
I started transitioning because it felt good after I had been just pretending to be male for so long, it felt nice when I was doing it and convinced everyone around me that I was male when I wasn't. I just decided to start saying I was trans at that point. I already knew what trans is but I wasn't publicly saying I was or really interacting with the community or anything. After I realized how happy I felt from pretending to male, I decided I needed to transition. But the feeling never felt really sexual to me. It just felt like I was happy not really aroused or anything. I've never had any sexual trauma or anything like that. At the time I started transitioning it wasn't very big basically nobody talked about it. The only reason I knew what being trans was, was from a random documentary on YouTube I found about transgender kids. It was a few years before being trans became a big popular thing.