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About me
I started feeling deeply uncomfortable with my female body as a teenager and thought that meant I was a boy. I socially transitioned to live as a man, but I was too scared of the medical risks to take hormones. Trying to date was impossible because my political views clashed with the only people open to dating a trans man, and I felt completely alone. I realized a lot of my desire to transition was about escaping depression and discomfort, not a true male identity. Now, I've accepted that I won't ever be fully happy, but I'm living as a female again because it offers a more practical chance at a normal life and relationships.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender has been confusing and, honestly, really lonely. It all started when I was a teenager and began feeling deeply uncomfortable with my body during puberty. I hated developing breasts and everything that came with being female. I didn't feel like a girl, and I thought that meant I must be a boy. A lot of my feelings were tied to a deep depression and low self-esteem. I never felt good enough as I was.
I started identifying as a trans man in my late teens. I only ever transitioned socially; I changed my name and pronouns, but I never took hormones or had any surgeries. I was too scared of the serious health complications and the possibility of becoming infertile. Even though I wanted to look male, the medical risks always held me back.
A huge part of my struggle was dating. When I lived as a trans man, my dating pool completely disappeared. It felt like almost nobody on earth is attracted to trans men. I’m only interested in men, specifically cis men, and gay men just aren't interested in someone without a penis. The only people who seemed open to dating trans men were other trans people or very liberal people. This became a massive problem for me because my own political views are very far-right. The kind of person who is willing to date a trans person would never want to date someone with my beliefs, and vice versa. I found myself in a position where it was completely impossible to find anyone. I felt invisible and unwanted.
I started to realize that it's way easier to date as a female. As a female, there are simply more people who are interested in you. I began to think that maybe I should just go back to living as a woman, even if I was miserable, because at least then people would like me and want to date me. I never felt happy as a female, but I felt like living as a trans man was a lie that made my life impossible.
I don’t regret exploring my gender, because I needed to try it to understand myself. But I do regret the years I spent isolated and believing that I was unlovable because of my identity. I’ve come to see that a lot of my desire to transition was about escaping the discomfort of puberty and my own depression, rather than having a true male identity. I’ve pretty much accepted now that I will never be truly happy with any identity, but for practical reasons, like having a chance at a relationship, I am living again as a female.
Here is a timeline of the main events:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14-15 | Started puberty; felt intense discomfort and hated my developing female body. |
| 18 | Began identifying as a trans man and started a social transition (name/pronouns). |
| 19-21 | Struggled severely with dating and isolation; realized my political views made dating impossible as a trans man. |
| 22 | Stopped identifying as trans and returned to living as female, primarily due to the impossibility of dating and a desire for a normal life. |
Top Comments by /u/nucleartornado:
It's way easier to date as a female. It is literally almost impossible to date anyone as a gay trans man. There's more people who want women than people who want trans men. I notice a lot of trans men tend to end up dating each other or other trans people. That's an issue i ran into. My dating pool became so small that it was completely nonexistent because of my political beliefs. Nobody who was attracted to trans people wanted to date me because I was too as you say "based" for them. I ended up becoming completely unable to date anyone. As a female I've noticed way more dating opportunities. It really seems like almost nobody on earth is attracted to trans men. People only seem to like trans women. You could still find someone as a trans guy but that guy would have to be bisexual or be another trans persom, you probably won't find a gay man becquse they really only want people with penises. But you want kids should probably just go for a bisexual guy if you can find one or just detrans and become female. Dating is almost impossible if you are a trans guy and depending on your views it can become actually completely impossible.
I'm pretty sure it reduces your dating pool. I've never even dated anyone trans or detrans but I had people tell me they weren't interested in trans people many times when I asked people out. My dating pool became nonexistent at one point because I was trans and had political views that anyone willing to date a trans person wouldn't agree with, so dating became completely impossible for me.
I think it's easy to find dates if you're mtf because those people are very popular for sexual activities. People tend to like them alot and "shemale" porn is very popular. But if you're ftm nobody wants you. There is no demand for ftm's nobody cares unlike how they care about mtf's and shemales and femboys and all of those things.
I imagine more people would only be in it for the sex, they'd want to have sex with that person but wouldn't really want to date them or be seen with them. I'm pretty sure there is people who would want to date someone like that too but it'd be slightly harder to find.
I'm in the exact same situation as you. But I don't want HRT or anything medical due to the complications and effect it can have on health. I never feel happy as a female but I feel like it's better than identifying male and living a lie and not being able to date anyone due to people not being interested in dating trans men. I've pretty much accepted at this point that I will never be happy. It's probably bad advice to tell you to be female and miserable but at least then people will like you. Most people tend to like women and want to date them while nobody seems to like trans men or want to date them.
It's easy for dating if you have liberal political views. Most people willing to date trans people are liberals. They wouldn't want to date anyone even slightly conservative and that caused issues for me because my political views are extremely far right. Nobody who would want to date a trans person would want to date someone with my views, therefore my dating pool became nonexistent. Also a lot of people who date trans people seem to be other trans people and I'm really only interested in dating cis people.