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About me
I'm a woman from Stockholm who started identifying as a trans man in my early twenties because I felt I never fit in as a girl. My journey involved taking testosterone and having top surgery, which caused permanent changes like losing sensation. What really started my detransition was exploring my attraction to men, which helped me reconnect with being a woman. I now accept the body I was born with and express myself freely within it. I’ve found peace as a flat-chested woman with a deeper voice, and I'm finally comfortable in my own skin.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition has been complicated, and looking back, I see a lot of things I didn't understand at the time.
I was born female, but I never felt like I fit in, especially when I was younger. I felt ugly and like guys weren't interested in me, so I didn't really explore my sexuality much. I think I had a lot of low self-esteem and some depression. I also had a lot of discomfort with my body during puberty; I really hated my breasts.
I got involved with the LGBT community in Stockholm, and that's when I started to explore identifying as something other than a girl. All my friends were LGBT, and it felt like a safe place to belong. I started identifying as non-binary first, and then later as a trans man. I was 100% sure it was the right path for me at the time. I think for me, it was a form of escapism from the pressures of being a woman and from my own childhood trauma.
I decided to medically transition. I took testosterone (Nebido) for about a year, but I only managed to get two shots before I decided to stop. I was worried about the long-term effects and started to have doubts. My period came back about six months after stopping, which was a relief. A big reason I stopped was because I read that testosterone can activate conditions like Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS), which might have been a problem for me.
I also had top surgery to remove my breasts. Right before the surgery, I had a massive panic attack and was crying on the table, but they went ahead with it anyway. I was happy with the flat chest at first, but now I know I lost all the sexual sensation there, which is a permanent change.
Exploring my sexuality was what really started my detransition. Before transition, I thought I was asexual. When I was living as a man, I felt a genuine attraction to women. But then I started to explore being with men for the first time, and that completely changed my path. I realized I actually prefer men. It's frustrating, but connecting with my attraction to men helped me reconnect with being a woman.
I don't really talk about being detransitioned with my friends and family; I feel more comfortable sharing my story with strangers online, even though I get a lot of hate on places like TikTok. People can be very mean and say it's all my fault, which pushes me away from the mainstream trans community.
I don't regret my journey because it led me to where I am now, but I do see things differently. I think a lot of young people, especially those who are autistic or have trauma, get caught up in the idea of transition without exploring other ways to be happy, like just being a non-conforming girl. The human brain isn't fully developed until 25, and making permanent changes before then is a huge deal. I benefited from stepping back and reconnecting with my biological gender. I present as a woman now, but I'm flat-chested and have a deeper voice, and I've found that there are men, especially in communities like bodybuilding, who are open-minded and accepting.
I don't think gender is as simple as I once believed. Now I believe in just accepting the body you were born with and expressing yourself however you want within that.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Puberty | Experienced significant discomfort with my developing female body, hated my breasts. |
| Early 20s | Got involved with the LGBT community in Stockholm. Began identifying as non-binary, then as a trans man (FtM). |
| 23 | Started testosterone (Nebido) injections. |
| 24 | Stopped testosterone after two shots. Had top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 24-25 (Present) | Period returned. Began exploring relationships with men, which led to my detransition (FtMtF). Now identifying as a cisgender woman. |
Top Comments by /u/ok5300:
Red flags but only ftm since I am that myself, not sure how it is for mtf.
Usually young teenagers who
- Obsess over gay culture
- Childhood trauma
- Autistic
- They know ppl who are trans
- “You can be ftm and still be a gay feminine boy, just like cis ppl can”
- Ftm who want to carry a child in the future
Socially transitioning at 10 is so young. You have so much to explore! I say give it a chance, a real chance. Explore your femininity, gender expression, sexuality. It will be hard but i think at some point you will find peace with your assigned gender.. Don’t forget all detrans at some point expressed same dysphoric feelings as you, we were all 100% sure about being trans. And remember, the human brain is not fully developed until we are 25 years old!!
No usually it’s people going tru heavy things in their childhood unrelated to gender identity and then years later come out as trans. Then ofc as trans you can also experience trauma.
Yes but would they live happyliy equal life if they didn’t transition and instead got another type of support that didn’t involve HRT and altering your body ? This generation of trans is very new, will they still be happy in 10,20 years?
They certainly do but that can affect how you view yourself, what your goals are etc especially if you are neurodivergent.
I also had a panic attack, I was crying like crazy lying there. Thought they would cancel seeing how distressed I was but before I knew it was under anesthesia. I was happy with my top surgery after but interesting to reflect on that incident knowing what I know now.
I went through this. Can’t explain it. Maybe childhood trauma ruined womanhood for me. Maybe I was just a late bloomer.
I think this behavior indicates a possible detransitioning happening if the person allows themselves to connect to their bio gender. Some ppl are just more comfortable living in denial.
It’s realistic
Early in my detransition I started dating straight-ish men trough grindr. It took time to find decent men on that app but once I did things were just so simple, since those straight-ish men are already open minded enough to date ts women they have no problem dating detrans women. Top surgery or not.
Lately I’ve been trying straight apps. It works but it’s slightly more difficult. I always tell them beforehand, I don’t write it in my profile.
Going out clubbing is also something that works. I don’t even cover my flat chest, and I still get lucky with men.
I’ve had most success dating men who are into bodybuilding/gym. In that world it’s common for women to take T. Those men are no strangers to women with deep voice, small breast etc.
FtMtF. Currently detransitioning. Never celebrated pride before. It was after I got introduced to the lgbt community in Stockholm that I started exploring my biological gender. All my friends now are lgbt. Many believe I’m a transwoman but I don’t mind. I present female but I’m flat chested (don’t hide it) and my voice is a bit darker.
I celebrate pride bc although I’m cis and straight-ish, it’s my safe place. My differences are celebrated all the time. I want to spread & feel the love extra on pride🏳️🌈
If I remember correctly<< I read about someone ftm stopping t and having similar problems with their hormones not returning to normal cis female range. She got diagnosed with Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), a condition that she probably had her whole life but got “activated” as a result from the testosterone.
What’s wrong with being a non conforming girl and using he/him pronouns? Think how cis males do drag and use she/her pronouns in and out of drag.
There’s nothing you can do about your height. Cis women can build muscles. You can’t get male parts. You need to start accepting yourself and explore your cis identity. Don’t get stuck in the gender dysphoria mindset.
Afab. Pre transition I was kind of asuexual. Guys found me ugly so wasn’t really much to explore. Later, the pressure of fitting in in the butch and transman role made me “confess” to like girls, or at least bisexual. But when I identified and lived stealth as a man I genuinely felt attraction to women. Then I started exploring my sexuality with men for the first time and that kind of unplugged my detransition path. I prefer men today. Intresting observation about men being the common denominator. Frustrating but true.