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About me
I started hating my developing female body as a teenager and found the idea of transitioning online. I took testosterone and had surgery, thinking it would fix my deep unhappiness and self-hatred. I eventually realized I hadn't solved my underlying mental health issues and that I was never really a man. I now live with permanent changes and significant regrets from that time. My journey has been about accepting that I am a woman and learning to heal the pain I was trying to escape.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was a teenager, feeling deeply uncomfortable with my body during puberty. I was born female, and when I started developing breasts, I hated it. It felt wrong and foreign. I now see that a lot of this was tangled up with general body issues and what I’d call body dysmorphia. I also struggled with depression and really low self-esteem. I didn't feel pretty or right in my own skin.
I spent a lot of time online, and that’s where I first learned about transitioning. It felt like an answer. I thought if I could just change my body to look more masculine, all that discomfort and self-hatred would go away. It felt like an escape from being a woman, which seemed to be the source of my problems. I started identifying as non-binary first, and then later as a trans man. I think I was heavily influenced by what I saw online and by friends in those spaces who affirmed this new identity.
I ended up taking testosterone for about two years. I got top surgery as well. At the time, I was convinced it was the right path. I thought I was fixing myself. But the changes from testosterone were permanent and more intense than I’d imagined. My voice dropped, I grew facial hair, and my body shape changed. After the initial rush of "fixing" things wore off, I realized I hadn't solved the underlying issues. My depression and anxiety were still there. I had just added new problems to the old ones.
I started to detransition after a period of serious reflection. I began to understand that my desire to transition was rooted in a deep discomfort with puberty and my developing body, not in being truly male. I had a lot of internalized issues to work through, and transitioning was a way to avoid dealing with them. I don't think I was ever really a man. I was a woman who was deeply unhappy and saw transition as a solution.
I have significant regrets about my transition, especially the permanent changes like my voice and the fact that I am now infertile. The top surgery is something I have to live with every day, and while I don't hate my flat chest the way I hated my breasts, I know it was a drastic step to take for a problem that needed psychological healing, not physical alteration. I benefited greatly from therapy that wasn't just about affirming my gender identity, but about digging into the root causes of my distress.
Looking back, I see how my thoughts were influenced. I don't think gender is something you can change. A woman is not something you become; it's something you are. I was trying to use medical technology to become something I could never be, and in the process, I permanently altered the body I was born with. My journey has been about accepting that my hardware was never the problem; it was the software all along.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty; began to feel intense discomfort and hatred toward my developing breasts. |
| 16 | Spent a lot of time online; discovered transgender identities; began identifying as non-binary. |
| 17 | Socially transitioned to living as a man; changed my name and pronouns. |
| 18 | Started testosterone hormone therapy. |
| 19 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 20 | Stopped taking testosterone; began the process of detransition. |
| 21 | Started therapy focused on underlying issues like depression and body dysmorphia. |
Top Comments by /u/oldfrostedone:
That medium article was cringe. This woman was so flabbergasted that the rabid cult she felt accepted into had inevitably turned on her that she felt the need to write entire article to explain herself. Probably in the hope that they would reconsider and welcome her back into the fold so she can feel like a Snowflake Ambassador again.
And my heart goes out to her if she ever sees her "daughter's" internet history and realizes what's truly motivating this transition.
You have a naturally pretty feminine face, I can't imagine you'd have any problem passing as your birth sex. I hope this doesn't sound rude, but you never really looked like a man in your previous pictures. This is what most of the girls on T look like at my college, just women with facial hair, probably not anything like they imagine themselves to look in their minds.
Sending you strength and praying for your continued healing, my friend.
See that's the problem, the reason we don't want you in our spaces is because we don't see you as women, you aren't women, no matter how much effort you put into appearance. Men are never welcome in women's private spaces, and disguising yourself as one of us for the thrill of violating feminine areas just shows how predatory and dangerous this subsection of males really are.
I think you should focus on trying to heal your mind before permanently cutting off important pieces of your body. You're experiencing a software problem that needs to be addressed, your hardware is perfectly fine.
Read some of the stories on this sub about people who went through with the surgery thinking it was their ticket to happiness only to find themselves trapped in a whole new nightmare. Read about the people who committed suicide because of regret from the surgery, or the people who can't find love because neither men nor women are interested in surgically constructed imitation genitalia. This surgery won't turn you into a woman, nothing will turn you into a woman, because a woman is not something you can become, it's something you just are.
I think that each generation gets socially engeneered in different ways. In the 90's everyone wanted to be stick thin with a flat butt, while today girls want to be curvy and eating disorders are barely spoken of. Teens unhappy in their bodies today aren't starving themselves, instead they're getting castrated and sterilized in yet another idealized pursuit.
Why would you want to force someone vulnerable into a situation they could get attacked in?
Show me where I said this.
I merely mentioned an observation I had in public places. A college campus is about the last place on earth where a trans individual would be attacked, on the contrary I would be putting myself in danger by speaking out or voicing my discomfort. Which is why I quietly turn around and find another bathroom when it happens. It's not a fight worth having.