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Reddit user /u/opossumbastard's Detransition Story

Transitioned: 12 -> Detransitioned: 20
female
took hormones
regrets transitioning
trauma
got top surgery
serious health complications
body dysmorphia
retransition
had religious background
took puberty blockers
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About me

I started when I was twelve, after a teacher I trusted outed me at my Christian school, which led to me being shunned by everyone I knew. That trauma, combined with starting hormone blockers and testosterone at thirteen, made my whole identity revolve around being trans. At twenty, I was diagnosed with a dissociative disorder, and I realized my transition was a misunderstanding of my real mental health struggles. I regret the medical changes, like my deep voice and having had top surgery, because I now understand I never had a problem with being female. I'm detransitioning now, trying to accept myself as a woman again while dealing with the permanent physical consequences.

My detransition story

My whole journey with transition and detransition is tangled up with a lot of pain and confusion. It started when I was 12 years old. I was at a private Christian school, and I told a teacher I thought I could trust that I was trans. That was a huge mistake. She told the whole school. I lost all my friends, I was kicked out for "going against God's word," and my parents even got letters from other parents recommending conversion therapy for me. My church excommunicated me. At twelve years old, I was told I was a sinner who was going to burn in hell. That religious and social rejection was deeply traumatizing.

That trauma, on top of the medical transition I started so young, really messed me up. It made my whole personality become wrapped up in my gender identity. Even now, I struggle to separate who I am from being "trans."

I started medical transition at 13 with hormone blockers. I was on testosterone for six years and had top surgery. Looking back, I realize I never had true gender dysphoria. I had body dysmorphia. I didn't hate having breasts because I was female; I hated my breasts because they never developed properly due to the hormone blockers. If I had waited, I might have realized that I just hated how my body looked in general, not my specific sex characteristics.

When I was 20, I was finally diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). I started detransitioning around that time. I think if my doctors had recognized the signs of DID when I was younger, I never would have transitioned. I resent them for missing that. There are still parts of me (alters) who identify as male and have dysphoria, but for the system as a whole, detransitioning was the best decision. Now I'm stuck being seen as a man when I just want to be seen as female again. I regret transitioning because it was based on a misunderstanding of my own mind and body, compounded by the trauma of being rejected.

I've had to deal with the physical consequences, like laser hair removal for my facial hair. I had ten sessions. The pain gets worse each time because they increase the power. It was manageable with ice and being gentle with my skin, but I stopped going because of the pain. I'm okay with just shaving the few hairs that are left.

As for my friends, most of the trans friends I had have detransitioned too. The few who are still trans are cool about it; they respect my choice and I respect theirs. I don't think it's right to cut people out just because they made a different decision than you.

Here is a timeline of my journey:

Age Event
12 Came out as trans at school, was outed by a teacher, and faced severe religious and social rejection.
13 Started hormone blockers.
13-19 Was on testosterone for 6 years.
Sometime between 13-19 Had top surgery.
20 Was diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) and began detransitioning.
20+ Underwent 10 sessions of laser hair removal.

Top Comments by /u/opossumbastard:

5 comments • Posting since February 7, 2022
Reddit user opossumbastard (detrans female) comments that she did not cut off trans friends, as most detransitioned with her, and believes it's "weird" to cut people out solely over their transition status.
29 pointsDec 7, 2024
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No, most of them have detransitioned right along with me, lol. The few trans people I still have in my life are chill though. They respect my decision to detransition, and I respect their decision to continue transitioning. It's a non-issue. Honestly I think it's weird to cut someone out of your life based solely on their decision to transition, like, trans people aren't some boogyman you have to run away and isolate yourself from just because you decided to detransition.

Reddit user opossumbastard (detrans female) explains how her DID diagnosis at 20 led her to detransition after 6 years on testosterone and top surgery, stating that if doctors had recognized her symptoms earlier, she likely would not have transitioned.
27 pointsNov 1, 2024
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Fellow detrans woman with DID here. I started transitioning at 12 y.o., was on testosterone for 6 years, had top surgery, etc. I was diagnosed with DID at 20 y.o. and began detransitioning around the same time. There are still alters in my system who identify as male and have dysphoria, but overall detransitioning was the best choice we could have made for the system as a whole. If my DID had been caught by my doctors when I was younger I don't think I would have transitioned; I resent them for failing to recognize the obvious symptoms of my DID, but life goes on. I'm glad you've been able to find peace with your gender journey friend, it's good you were able to realize these things about yourself before getting further along in your transition! <3

Reddit user opossumbastard (detrans female) explains how she realized she didn't have gender dysphoria but body dysmorphia after top surgery, and now regrets being seen as a man.
14 pointsFeb 28, 2022
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When I got top surgery and realized I never had dysphoria, I had body dysmorphia. I never had a problem with having boobs, I just had a problem with my boobs because they never developed properly due to starting hormone blockers at 13. If I had delayed medically transitioning I would have realized that I didn't hate my biological sex characteristics, I just hated how my body looked in general.

Now I'm stuck as a man when all I want is to be seen as female again.

Reddit user opossumbastard (detrans female) explains how being outed as trans at 12 by a teacher at her Christian school led to severe trauma, ostracization, and excommunication, which became deeply intertwined with her medical transition and current regrets.
5 pointsFeb 7, 2022
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Mine was traumatizing for a different reason.

I came out at 12. I went to a private Christian school at the time. I told one of my most trusted teachers that I was trans, and she proceeded to out me to the entire school. I lost all my friends, I was kicked out of school for "going against God's word", and my so-called "friends" parents sent my parents recommendations for conversion camps and therapies for me. I was excommunicated from my church. Told at 12 years old that I was a sinner and I was going to burn in hell for this.

The trauma that comes from that type of religious and social rejection, on top of the trauma from medically transitioning at such a young age, really fucked me over. It caused my personality to become so intertwined with my gender identity that I still struggle to separate the two.

And now that I'm questioning if transitioning was even the right thing for me, it brings all of that trauma up again. Why did I put myself through this if in the end I'm regretting it? How would I have turned out if I didn't come out at all, and hadnt gone through being ostracized by my peers and community? I can't change the past, but it's hard to not question what could have gone different.

Reddit user opossumbastard (detrans female) explains what to expect from laser hair removal, advising on pain management, aftercare with ice, and exfoliation to remove dead hairs.
3 pointsNov 13, 2024
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The pain is going to get progressively worse each appointment because they'll increase the power of the laser every time. It sucks, but it's manageable! Putting ice or a cold wet washcloth on your face when you get home from the appointment really helps with the minor swelling and irritation. Exfoliate your face like 4 days after each appointment to help remove any of the dead hairs that are left over. Otherwise be super gentle with your skin to avoid getting any unnecessary irritation.

I had 10 sessions. It didn't get all of it, but I haven't bothered to schedule any follow up appointments because of the pain tbh. Im okay with having to shave the few hairs that are left over 🥲 I hope your appointment goes well!!