This story is from the comments by /u/pekingnoodle that are listed below, summarised with AI.
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Based on the provided comments, the account "pekingnoodle" shows no serious red flags and appears to be authentic.
The comments display a high degree of internal consistency, personal experience, and a coherent, developed worldview over a long period (over a year). The user shares specific, detailed advice (e.g., on fertility, supplements like inositol, and surgical complications like neuropathy) that reflects deep personal investment and knowledge gained from lived experience. The tone is passionate, often angry, and highly critical of gender ideology, which is consistent with the stated experiences of many detransitioners and desisters. The writing style is nuanced, varies in emotional tone, and engages in complex arguments, which is not typical of bots or simple troll accounts.
About me
I started transitioning because I was deeply uncomfortable with female puberty and felt I didn't fit in with other girls. I took testosterone for years, but I eventually realized I was just being seen as a masculine woman and I hated the loneliness of being perceived as a man. I canceled my planned top surgery after learning about the serious risks, which I'm so grateful for now. I stopped testosterone, my body recovered, and I was later able to have children. Now I see my body as a whole system to be accepted, not changed, and I've built a happy life focused on my family.
My detransition story
My journey into transition started when I was very young and deeply uncomfortable with the changes of female puberty. I hated developing breasts and felt a strong sense that I didn't fit in with other girls. I now believe this was a mix of puberty discomfort, general teenage angst, and being influenced by the online communities I was in. I started identifying as non-binary, which felt like a way to escape the pressures of being a woman. This eventually led me to believe I was a gay man trapped in a female body, which I now see was heavily influenced by internalized homophobia and a distorted view of relationships I got from online spaces.
I began taking testosterone. I was on it for a significant amount of time, though less than some. I thought I was fully passing as male, but I later realized that most people were just being polite or humoring me; they likely saw me as a very masculine woman or a tomboy. The real turning point came when the physical changes from testosterone became more pronounced. I started to notice how women and children would react to me with fear or discomfort in public spaces. I experienced firsthand the loneliness of being perceived as a man and realized I had never understood what it truly meant to live as one. I was playing a pretend game that had serious, real-world consequences.
I considered top surgery and even had it scheduled at one point, but I canceled it. I am so grateful I did. From my own research and talking to others, I learned about the serious risks, especially lifelong neuropathic pain. I came to see that removing healthy body parts is a drastic, irreversible solution to a temporary feeling. My body is not a Mr. Potatohead; it's an entire interconnected system, and damaging one part can have unforeseen consequences for the whole.
I decided to detransition. I stopped taking testosterone cold turkey about 18 years ago. It was a difficult few weeks with some mood swings and physical discomfort, but because I still had my ovaries, my body was able to recover. My cycles returned, and I was eventually able to conceive and have healthy children. To help regulate my hormones after stopping T, I found inositol supplements to be incredibly helpful.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I now believe you cannot change your sex. Sex is a biological reality: male or female. All the surgeries and hormones in the world can't change that; they can only create a superficial imitation. The idea of "feeling like" a man or a woman is a trap. There is no one way to "feel" like a woman—every woman feels and experiences life differently. What matters is accepting the body you were born with and living a good life within that reality.
I deeply regret transitioning. I see it as a massive mistake I made when I was confused, depressed, and influenced by a toxic online culture. I benefited greatly from stepping away from that world and from therapy that wasn't about affirming my gender identity but about addressing my underlying depression, anxiety, and OCD tendencies. I had to learn to stop obsessing over my identity and my feelings and to just live my life, focusing on helping others and being a good person.
My main regret is the time and health I lost. However, I don't dwell on it. I've moved on and built a happy life. I’m now focused on my family and living a truthful, grounded life. I hope my story can help others avoid the same painful path I went down.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early Teens | Experienced intense puberty discomfort, hated breast development. |
| Late Teens | Identified as non-binary, then as a gay man (FTM). Heavily influenced online. |
| 20s | Started taking testosterone. Socially transitioned. |
| 20s | Realized I was not passing as male as well as I thought; noticed negative social reactions. |
| 20s | Canceled scheduled top surgery after researching risks like chronic pain. |
| 20s | Stopped testosterone cold turkey. Experienced a few weeks of adjustment. |
| 20s | Took inositol supplements to help regulate cycles post-detransition. |
| 20s | Conceived less than a year after stopping T and had healthy children. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/pekingnoodle:
The vast majority of men are exclusively attracted to women. That means biological women and includes every major and minor defining trait of biological femaleness: fertility, sex organs, secondary sexual traits, and so on.
Most are extremely repelled at the idea- let alone the reality- of a fake vagina made from a degloved penis or part of a man's intestines.
This has been so heavily censored online you have to go deep into the dark of anonymous forums to hear the truth spelled out for you, largely. Most people know to be polite and smile and nod in public, so they don't get canceled.
You can't become a woman. It's physically and biologically impossible. What you CAN do is wreck your healthy male body with unnecessary drugs and surgeries. You can give yourself new cardiovascular problems and chronic pain, problems with very basic daily tasks you can't escape- like peeing. You can make it so pretty much no normal woman wants to have sex with you. Only a woman you trapped into a relationship before transitioning and coerce into "becoming a lesbian" or some kind of weirdo chaser who doesn't care about you as a person. And having kids? Yeah you can ruin your chances of that, too, by poisoning your body or removing gonads.
If it's worth losing your health, ability to have a happy long marriage, and a family of your own kids, as well as possibly your financial stability, so you can be a "pretty transwoman" like you saw on social media, go for it. See how that works out at age 65- if you make it that far.
"Bottom surgery" won't give you a penis. It will mutilate your arm or leg, leaving you with chronic pain and weakness, and install a roll of flesh from that part of your body on top of your crotch flesh. It won't look, act, or feel like a real penis. It will cost over a hundred thousand dollars- either to you or to the taxpayers of your country- and likely result in chronic UTIs and a half dozen or more revision surgeries to try to fix it.
Do you want that?
Periods are an "inconvenience"? The uterus is a major organ. It's not just an annoying baby basket. When you remove it you bring on a lot of problems to your entire body. Even if you leave your ovaries intact, the risk piles on for all of the following:
Early onset dementia: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3702015/ https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/03/190327161245.htm https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2785986
Heart disease: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5916687/ https://www.ahajournals.org/doi/10.1161/STROKEAHA.121.037305 https://obgyn.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/aogs.14531
Severe depression, anxiety, and other mental health complications: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9689206/ https://ijmhs.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/1752-4458-3-18
Osteoporosis and bone fractures including breaking the bones in your back: https://www.ajog.org/article/S0002-9378(19)30359-X/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7707488/
Sexual dysfunction: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0301211520300567 https://hersfoundation.org/adverse-effects-data/
Pelvic prolapse (organs like your vagina, bladder, or rectum falling out of the body, causing chronic pain and incontinence) :
https://www.ajog.org/article/S0002-9378(20)31296-5/fulltext
Mastectomy also carries with it all the risks of general surgery (infection, excessive bleeding, reactions to anesthesia, all of which can be serious up to the point of fatal). In addition you should know that it carries the risk of life-long chronic pain, including hard-to-treat nerve pain called neuropathy:
https://www.cancer.org/cancer/managing-cancer/side-effects/pain/post-mastectomy-pain-syndrome.html
Per that link, as many as 1 in 5 to 1 in 3 women experience neuropathic pain after a mastectomy.
You are not a Mr. Potatohead. You are a holistic human being, mind, body, and spirit, with all the parts you have being designed to work together to keep you functioning and doing the important things you will want to do in life.
Don't treat yourself like a mere object.
Why would you take on the risks of major surgery for no particular reason other than "aesthetics"? If a time traveler showed up in your house and told you that you'd die on the table, would you say "haha oh well worth it" or would you rush to cancel everything before it's too late?
Mastectomy carries with it all the risks of general surgery (infection, excessive bleeding, reactions to anesthesia, all of which can be serious up to the point of fatal). In addition you should know that it carries the risk of life-long chronic pain, including hard-to-treat nerve pain called neuropathy:
https://www.cancer.org/cancer/managing-cancer/side-effects/pain/post-mastectomy-pain-syndrome.html
Per that link, as many as 1 in 5 to 1 in 3 women experience neuropathic pain after a mastectomy.
You are not a Mr. Potatohead. You are a holistic human being, mind, body, and spirit, with all the parts you have being designed to work together to keep you functioning and doing the important things you will want to do in life.
Don't treat yourself like a mere object.
Also they don't tell you how many women get neuropathy- nerve pain that is excruciating, difficult to treat (ibuprofen doesn't touch it, opoids barely do) and life-long. That is a risk of any major surgery but especially mastectomy because of where it is on your body.
You can put this surgery off and do it later if you decide you really, really want to. But if you go through with it you can never undo it. Even if you get breast implants later, you can't breastfeed and you could still be stuck with disabling chronic pain.
I've done "the obvious ones" to inflict maximum discomfort on people who seem like they deserve it. This was especially fun in the context of prenatal care. Like I'm sitting here with my vagina catching the breeze under the sheet, 9 months pregnant, what do you think sis?
I used to do comedy so I can do a pretty devastating deadpan- that helps.
Normalize being normal and being offended by people assuming you are not normal tbh.
Please please please do not go through with the surgery. If you have doubts about it now, think how you will feel in a week if you have lost parts of your body you can never, ever get back. You will be in pain, with messy and annoying recovery things to deal with. The pain meds will wear off and you will be laying there alone with your thoughts.
Please wait. This isn't a life-saving medical procedure. It's elective surgery. Nothing bad will happen to you if you push it out a month, a year, a decade, or get it never. But if you go through with it, you could have a lifetime of regret and despair.
There is nothing wrong with what you are feeling and thinking.
Feeling: you had a horrible, life-altering experience and you had to "wake up" from the thoughts that took you there. You are similar to someone who recovered from addiction or being in a cult in this way. Of course you are pained to see others suffering the same delusions and or addictions.
Thoughts: it IS offensive for people to imitate the shallowest stereotypes of the opposite sex and say that means they ARE that. You're not wrong. Maybe it isn't "nice" but the truth isn't always nice!
I know a lot of it is valid since men can often be problematic,
Friend, "problematic" is the human condition.
You are female. You have a female body, even if it has been superficially altered. And- as your writing and your worries really speak volumes to demonstrate- you were raised with female socialization.
The end goal for you should be self-acceptance. Learn to love the person you are. Gender labels are not ultimately an important part of that- but your body, otoh IS, because it's the only thing that lets you be alive and take part in all the joys and challenges life has to offer. Be good to your body, be kind and patient with yourself. And start working on worrying a lot less about what other people think of you. I know that's easier said than done. But I have found that with each decade it gets easier. If you ever have met a badass grandma who doesn't give a shit, she just does what she wants? That's pretty common in smarter old ladies because we learn along the way that you have to be tough and take care of yourself and a lot of people will drop you when you need them, so you can't put too much weight on their opinions.