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Based on the provided comments, the account "pkr247365" appears to be authentic.
There are no serious red flags indicating it is a bot or a fake account. The user demonstrates:
- Deep, consistent, and nuanced engagement with complex topics like autogynephilia (AGP), detransition, and gender theory over a sustained period.
- Personal experience is frequently cited, including specific details about their sexuality (heterosexual, asexual phases), struggles, and introspective journey.
- A clear, developed worldview that is critical of affirmation-only therapy and aligns with a specific school of thought (Blanchard's typology), which is a real position held by some detransitioners and desisters.
- Varied and appropriate responses to different users, offering both practical advice and philosophical perspectives, which is not typical of bot behavior.
The passion and criticism expressed are consistent with a genuine individual who has personally grappled with these issues.
About me
I started out deeply confused, thinking I was a woman trapped in a man's body. Through a lot of research, I realized my feelings were best explained by autogynephilia, a complex condition where I idolized and wanted to become a woman. I considered transitioning but realized it would have been an escape from, not a path to, my authentic self. I decided to focus on my mental health, accept my male body, and build a meaningful life. I'm now confident I made the right choice for my long-term happiness and feel like I've truly found peace.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started with confusion and a deep discomfort that I didn't understand. For a long time, I thought my feelings meant I was a woman trapped in a man's body. I now understand that my experience is best explained by autogynephilia (AGP). This isn't just about sexual arousal; it's a complex condition that involves idolizing women, feeling attached to the idea of becoming one, and finding comfort when I would cross-dress. My sexuality is a part of this; I'm analloerotic, meaning my sexual desire is directed inwards, not towards other people.
I spent a huge amount of time researching this, reading everything I could from experts like Blanchard and Anne Lawrence. I needed to understand what was going on inside me. This self-diagnosis and deep introspection were crucial for me. Without it, I'm terrified to think where I might have ended up. I encountered so-called "gender experts" online whose advice was completely backwards and would have just confused me more. Their approach of affirmation-only therapy, where every positive feeling is your "true gender" and every negative one is internalized transphobia, seemed dangerous to me. People need real understanding and support, not just someone to tell them what they want to hear.
I seriously considered transition. I thought about freezing sperm and taking hormones. But through my research and a lot of hard thinking, I realized that transitioning wouldn't serve my long-term physical, mental, and emotional health. For me, it felt like an escape, a way to run from myself rather than toward my authentic self. I realized I was becoming self-absorbed, more focused on being attractive to myself as a woman than on forming real connections with others. I was faking an identity instead of building a real one.
I decided to manage my AGP instead. I worked on my underlying mental health first because you can't make good decisions when you're in a bad state. I changed my perception of my own body, learning to see my genitals not as something wrong, but as a healthy, functional part of me that can give pleasure. I focused on building a meaningful life—on my studies, on planning for a future career, and on the idea of one day having a family. I asked myself a different question: not "Am I trans?" but "Will transitioning lead to my long-term happiness 10 or 20 years from now?" For me, the answer was a clear no.
I don't believe there's an innate "trans identity." I see it as a medical procedure that can help some people, but it's not an identity. The whole idea that gender is a social construct but that people can be born in the wrong body never made logical sense to me. It feels like an overcorrection, especially on social media, where the negative aspects of transition are often hidden. I have no regrets about not transitioning. I feel like I dodged a bullet. I'm moving in the right direction now, confident in myself and who I am. I am the consciousness behind all these thoughts and conflicts, and I have the power to choose a path that leads to a genuine, lasting peace.
| Age | Date (if known) | Event |
|---|---|---|
| - | - | Researched autogynephilia (AGP) extensively and came to self-understanding. |
| - | - | Seriously considered medical transition (HRT, surgery) but decided against it. |
| - | - | Worked on underlying mental health and self-perception. |
| - | - | Learned to manage AGP and accept my body. |
| - | - | Focused on building a future (studies, career, potential family). |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/pkr247365:
I've done a lot of thinking alone, a lot of research, and in my opinion the whole idea doesn't really hold up to scrutiny. There's no tangible reality backing it up.
Exactly, they have deconstructed everything so that they can bend reality into whatever they need it to be in order for everyone to feel nice.
I think it's an overcorrection that came as a reaction to the social prejudice trans persons had to face the previous decades and social media provided a fertile ground for it. I understand the political and personal motives and i strongly believe that everyone is entitled to express their views. It seems though that some people in their effort to reduce stigma, went a step too far and now they are actively trying to glorify transition as a lifestyle by hiding all the negative aspects and dangers surrounding it.
People need accurate information not glorification, they need deeper understanding not a superficial lifestyle and finally they need meaningful support not affirmation.
Some of the most handsome men (Instagram models, fitness channel youtubers, etc) are on Testosterone and once they start it's for life because the body stops producing it. It sucks you gonna have to take T, but you will be able to regulate its level better than people who rely on their body's natural production. Testosterone can fluxuate allot and its not uncommon to drop really low for some people.
Who you are is not a name or a set of physical characteristics. When you know who you are, how others perceive you cant change that. Your relationship with yourself goes much much deeper, it involves love and hate, respect and resentment, trust and doubt, pride and regret, honesty and deception. It's a real relationship and it's for life, there is no divorce, you have to work it out. So you have to constantly negotiate between the different aspects of yourself. One part wants one thing, another part wants a totally different thing. There is constant conflict inside everyone, for some of us the conflict touches the core of our identity.
What is your identity? Who are you? Are you the sum of these conflicting parts? Are you the part of you that is the strongest? No, you the consciousness who observes them, who has the power to transform yourself. Transformation might mean changing some parts of you, or abandoning them or bringing them back to life, it's part of the process. Someone once said "the human capacity for internal transformation is the antidote for unbearable tragedy".
You did it once because you were in pain, but you did it too rapidly, you didn't maintain any of your structure and it feels like you've teared yourself to shreds. Use your experience to bring yourself into an alignment that is no longer self- contradictory. Take care of yourself, define who you are, refine your personality, choose a destination.
Also I have done some research on AGP, and its normal for cis women and lesbians to feel this way.
No its not at all normal. There is allot of misinformation about AGP, a common misconception is that it only involves sexual arousal. Actually that's only one part of AGP, it also involves idolising women, attachment to the idea of becoming one and feelings of comfort when you cross dress. I highly recommend reading Anne Lawrence's article "becoming what we love" for a detailed analysis.
You are oversimplifying and comparing radically different conditions.
How the medical community treats children with gender dysphoria has nothing to do with how it treats detransition. Detransitioning often requires far less medical treatment, in many cases it means stop needing medical treatment. It becomes part of the debate about medical intervention only because it proves that the affirmation protocol used by gender therapists and clinics is flawed. A flawed method of treatment needs to change.
It's not about who has the right to do what. It's not about detransitioners vs transitioner, that's childish. The moral judgment falls on the medical community, they have the responsibility to provide the best possible treatment to their patients and in many many cases they fail to do so.
It's not about body autonomy, it's about proper treatment. You cant give insulin to people who don't have diabetes. You need to test first and see who really has diabetes and who's symptoms have a different cause.
Get out of your SJW bubble and try to understand the simple fact that the curt decision had to do with how the medical system works. No one is against you and your rights, there is no enemy here.
This is in the core of affirmation therapy. You have a "true" gender that you repress inside yourself because of internalised transphobia and only transition will set you free. Every positive feeling is expression of your true gender, every negative one is transphobia. True gender is defined as "whatever you want to be", man, woman, nonbinary, agender, demigender..
I kid you not I have heard these things given as advise, from professional therapists who claim to be gender experts.
What i get out of this is a dysphoria with some male characteristics (genitals and hair), an envy for women and a massive confusion about your identity, your desires and your future.
I really don't know what to make out of all this, but i am writing to tell you the one thing i'm absolutely certain about. If you don't know who you are, don't let anyone tell you. Figure it out on your own, introspect and experiment without doing anything drastic. Get some experiences and then decide when you have more clarity. Take the time, don't push yourself. If you don't feel comfortable there might be a good reason.
PS. your genitals are fine, i don't like hair ether but they can be removed.
Yea, it's infuriating. I'm a self diagnosed AGP and i have been researching autogynephilia for the past couple of months, mainly by reading books, studies and articles about it but also by looking for anecdotal information on youtube. So a few days ago a video titled "some caution about crossdressing" came up in my playlist. The video was made by a professional therapist who claims to be a gender expert that has treated hundreds of patients.
Now, i'm not a doctor or a sexologist but i have read everything the true experts on the subject have written and i happen to have the "privilege" of having AGP (one of the most common reasons for crossdressing) so i know from personal experience how it feels, the motivations and the behaviours involved in it.
I can tell you with certainty that this called "gender expert" didn't have a clue about what she was talking about. Every single thing she said in the video was completely backwards. She didn't understand crossdresing behaviour and she was giving advise based on a a perception that in my case did not apply at all.
I cant speak for everyone, maybe her concept does apply to some people (not people with AGP) and even if it doesn't maybe transition is the correct treatment for some, but the though that i could be misdiagnosed by someone like her, scared the s@#t out of me. I spend allot of time doing introspection and researching this condition to finally be able to understand what is going on with me. If i didn't have the education, the time and the courage, i could have ended up in a professional therapist like her telling me bullshit and confusing me even more.
Right now i face allot of difficulties but i am happy because i know i am moving towards the right direction, i am finally confident in myself and i know i will make it. Who knows how many years, how much confusion and pain a clueless professional therapist like her could have caused me.