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- Personal, nuanced experience with detransition (social, medical, and emotional aspects).
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About me
My journey started from a place of deep hurt, and I thought becoming a man would fix everything. I took testosterone and had surgery, but it caused painful health problems that made me realize my female body needed its natural hormones to function. Coming to this truth was hard, and I lost all my friends when I decided to detransition. Through therapy, I worked through my trauma and learned my discomfort came from that, not from being trans. I have regrets about the permanent changes, but I am finally healing and rediscovering myself as a woman.
My detransition story
My whole journey started from a place of deep hurt. I was convinced I was a trans man, but as it turns out, I was just a woman who was really, really hurting. I think a lot of my feelings came from trauma and a deep discomfort with my body that set in during puberty. I hated my breasts and felt completely disconnected from being a woman. I now see this was a form of escapism; I thought becoming a man would be a way to escape the pain I was in and the person I was.
I started my transition socially and then began taking testosterone. I got top surgery and had my breasts removed. For a while, I thought this was the answer. I felt like I was finally fixing something that was broken. But the physical changes from testosterone started to cause serious problems. I experienced vaginal atrophy, which was painful and frightening. The dryness and shrinkage were unbearable, and it was a huge wake-up call for me. I started to realise that my body was suffering because I was denying it the hormones it needed to function properly. My female hormones support every part of my body, including my brain, and shutting that down was causing damage.
Coming to the realisation that I wasn't trans was the hardest part. I had to face the fact that I had been wrong. When I started to detransition, all of my trans friends dropped me instantly. They called me self-hating, a TERF, and every name in the book. It felt like leaving a cult; I was an apostate to them because I had a different opinion. That was really painful, but it also confirmed that I was making the right choice for me.
Socially detransitioning wasn't easy. I had to have a lot of awkward conversations. I learned to keep it simple: "Oh, actually I don't identify that way anymore. Thank you for being supportive of me, even when it was difficult, or confusing. Can you please use she/her and my original name instead?" Pushing through those conversations was worth it. The relief I felt afterwards was immense. I realised how much my family had missed me, and most importantly, how much I had missed myself.
I benefited immensely from non-affirming therapy. I was hesitant at first, but working through my trauma gave me the tools I needed to understand myself. It didn't magically fix everything, but it helped me see that my dysphoria was coming from body dysmorphia linked to my trauma, not from being transgender. I also found that taking ballet classes helped me reconnect with my body in a positive way. It forced me to view my body differently, as something capable and strong.
I do have regrets about my transition. I regret the permanent changes to my body and the health complications I experienced from taking testosterone. I am now infertile, which is a deep loss. But I don't regret the journey itself because it led me back to who I truly am. My thoughts on gender now are that it's a very personal thing, but the current community can be incredibly damaging. It encourages people to make irreversible decisions without addressing the underlying issues that might be causing their distress, like trauma, low self-esteem, or depression.
Looking back, I can see how influenced I was by online spaces and my friends at the time. I was in a vulnerable place, and it was easy to get swept up in it. Now, I'm just focused on healing and living my life as the woman I am.
Age | Event |
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(Age not specified) | Began socially transitioning to male. |
(Age not specified) | Started taking testosterone. |
(Age not specified) | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
(Age not specified) | Experienced severe vaginal atrophy and other health complications from testosterone. |
(Age not specified) | Stopped testosterone and began medical detransition. |
(Age not specified) | Began therapy to address underlying trauma. |
(Age not specified) | Socially detransitioned, asking people to use she/her pronouns and my original name. |
(Age not specified) | Started taking ballet classes to rebuild a positive relationship with my body. |
Top Comments by /u/pliesandroses:
I'm going to be very, very honest with you because I feel you need this honesty. Please know I am not being malicious in any way, and this is coming from a place of caring, because I was convinced I was FTM, but as it turns out, I was just really, really hurting.
If you get reverse dysphoria, being transgender is not where your dysphoria is coming from. I think you need to chat with a therapist, because this sounds more like body dysmorphia from trauma than being a trans man.
Also, your boyfriend doesn't sound like he values you at all as a human, and was only along for the ride for the sex, and for him to instantly turn your crisis around to how much he needs to have sex right now and how he needs to be poly to be satisfied sounds abusive. Do you have any friends or family you can stay with? Distancing yourself from this person sounds like it will be the most helpful.
You can find lots of online jobs at Rat Race Rebellion. I wish you luck, girl.
I know that you feel this way right now, but you will never know what you can do unless you speak to a professional. Don't count your egg baskets quite so, yes? They may be able to do something. It might not be what you perfectly want, but it might alleviate this.
They can likely help remove the breast implants, firstly, and give you back a male chest. They can also likely do a similar surgery to what trans men receive. It won't be the same, but it could be easier. You could get off of hormones, and reboost your testosterone, and get back to yourself.
You've convinced yourself for years that testosterone and male things are evil. This is a demon that you've conjured, and your mind is afraid of it. <3 That's normal. You're okay, dude, more than. You need to peek under the bed and realise that nothing is there that can hurt you.
Ripping off the bandaid, so to speak, might help. Testosterone won't hurt you. There are parts of your brain, muscles, organs, joints, etc. that can really benefit from returning to the natural levels of testosterone, and you'll likely feel much better.. Think of it not as going to do something bad, hairy, nasty, etc. Think of it as self care, giving your body what it needs.
I have to take umbrage with that backhanded comment about every community having bad apples. I am detrans, and I was dropped by all of my trans friends the instant I quit. I have been called transphobic, terf, every name in the book for having a different opinion than the trans majority. It doesn't mean I hate them -- I don't. I just view the community in a highly critical way now, after seeing both sides.
I'm not trying to be rude with these questions, I am being very honest, however.
How good is your insurance, because the cancer risks are so high? Being as you are female, and they have proven that female hormones support every part of the body including the brain, do you have coverage for depression treatment/medicine, and problems with memory? Will you be able to financially handle organ atrophy? Will you be able to handle when your vagina begins to atrophy, and the pain of dryness and shrinkage?
As someone who used to feel similar after trauma... I am going to say that you should strongly consider seeing a therapist. I was hesitant to see one, but getting my feelings out and working through trauma really helped put me back on course. It didn't bippidi boppidi boo my problems, but it gave me the tools I needed.
It can reverse, even with shrinkage. I know that the fear and the pain of atrophy are something that is indescribable to someone who has never experienced it, and I just want you to know that it's gonna be okay. It will go back to normal, but you need to get off the T and get your estrogen/progesterone levels high again. Your body is doing this because it has nothing left to support your genital/reproductive health with. If you still have a uterus/ovaries, you might want to have those checked up on as well.
Those suppositories do not work, especially for people at the atrophy point. The only thing they do is add some oil and lubrication to it, but it goes away quickly. In the meantime until your hormones have regulated enough, pick up a vaginal conditioner (Viamax organic glide is amazing for this) and apply it as needed (for atrophy, this will be multiple times a day and before you go to bed. That is okay. You need the moisture/conditioning, trust me, I've been there). If you need someone to talk to who gets it, please DM me, no judgment.
They're a cult. Once I realised I wasn't a trans man, that I was a woman who had been traumatised, suddenly my trans friends dropped me, pretended not to know me, called me self hating, a terf, etc. It's because I left the cult, I was an apostate, and that's the way they're treating you.
It wasn't easy for me to detrans socially. It took a few awkward conversations, but you need to push through them. You'll feel relief once you do. Don't over-explain, don't apologise for breathing, just keep it basic, is what I learned. "Oh, actually I don't identify that way anymore. Thank you for being supportive of me, even when it was difficult, or confusing. Can you please use (natal pronouns) and (preferred name) instead? I understand this might take some adjustment on your part. Thank you for being willing to work with me. I'm currently in therapy to finish sorting things out."