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- Personal Experience: They reference their own desistance, mentioning being "gnc, gay," and having "depression and autism."
- Consistent, Passionate Argumentation: Their comments show a deep, consistent engagement with complex ideological and biological arguments, which is expected from a passionate detransitioner/desister.
- Nuanced Understanding: They acknowledge that not all proponents of gender ideology are malicious, drawing parallels to cults and abusive relationships, which shows a reasoned, not scripted, perspective.
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About me
I was born female and started feeling deep discomfort with my body when I hit puberty. I was influenced by online communities to believe I was a trans man, which led me to take testosterone and have surgery. The pandemic gave me space to realize my feelings came from trauma and internalized homophobia, not from being born in the wrong body. I now have serious health issues and regret my transition. I am finally accepting myself as a detransitioned female and working to heal.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition is deeply tied to a lot of confusion, pain, and outside influences that I didn't understand at the time. Looking back, I see a person who was vulnerable and looking for an escape from myself.
I was born female. I was always a bit gender non-conforming and I'm gay. Growing up, I was bullied for not fitting in, which gave me really low self-esteem. I also have depression and autism, which made everything feel more intense and confusing. I think a lot of my discomfort started during puberty; I hated the changes my body was going through, especially developing breasts. It felt wrong and foreign to me.
I got deeply involved in online communities that promoted transition as the only solution for these feelings. I was influenced heavily by what I read and by friends I made who were also questioning their gender. It felt like I had finally found a place where I belonged and an explanation for why I always felt so different. At the time, it felt like a choice I was making, but now I see it more like being drawn into a cult. You don't feel like you're choosing it; you feel chosen. You're vulnerable, and it offers a simple answer to all your complex problems.
I started identifying as non-binary first, but that quickly escalated to identifying as a trans man. I began taking testosterone. I eventually got top surgery to remove my breasts. I truly believed this was what I needed to be happy and to finally feel comfortable in my own skin.
The Covid pandemic was actually a turning point for me. Being isolated from those online echo chambers gave me space to think. I started to question everything. I began to realize that my feelings were more about hating puberty and my body because of bullying and internalized homophobia—I was a lesbian who felt uncomfortable with the female body I was supposed to have. I was using transition as a form of escapism from my depression and anxiety.
I now have serious regrets about transitioning. The testosterone and surgery have caused serious health complications that I have to deal with now. I am now infertile, which is a profound loss that I didn't fully grasp the weight of when I was making those decisions. My body’s ability to process nutrients and maintain a healthy weight has been messed up, and I’m dealing with what might be lasting thyroid or organ issues.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I now believe that sex is a biological reality. Female means the sex that can bear offspring, and that definition is consistent for the vast, vast majority of people. I think the idea of an internal "gender identity" separate from sex is confusing and, in my case, was used to lead me down a path that wasn't right for me. I benefited greatly from therapy that was not affirming. A therapist who helped me question why I felt these things, instead of just affirming them, was crucial in helping me see the truth.
I don't think transition was the right solution for my problems. My problems were rooted in trauma, autism, low self-esteem, and an eating disorder, not in being born in the wrong body. I was trying to escape myself, and transition offered a way to do that. I was an idiot for falling for it, but I'm just glad I found my way out.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty; began to feel intense discomfort with my body and hated developing breasts. |
| 16 | Was bullied for being gay and gender non-conforming; depression and anxiety got much worse. |
| 18 | Heavily influenced online; began identifying as non-binary. |
| 19 | Socially transitioned to identifying as a trans man. |
| 20 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 22 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 24 (During Covid) | Began to detransition; stopped testosterone. Started non-affirming therapy. |
| 25 | Fully accepted myself as a detransitioned female. |
Top Comments by /u/pmmeaslice:
You want to erase the term that describes half of the population and in 99.999 percent of cases their actual sex?
In reference to women when it is not their sex (outside of those who co-opt it for a gender identity), its only when they are some form of extremely rare chromosomal intersex condition.
Why do you want to get rid of defining human beings properly by their sex?
Someone else said it not me but it bears repeating:
If not affirming them means they'll kill themselves, where are all the tons of known "crossdressing" aka trans people who unalived from not being affirmed in history? Where are all the dead kids? Where are they? Where do they lie? What do we know even just in simple interview of family oral history, diaries, and patient records from like.....every decade in the last century? What about before that?
Where are the famous people who unalived themselves because they weren't "affirmed?" We at minimum would know a trans noble from somewhere - like france during the sun king, or china in the tan dynasty, or some prince of the nubian empire?
We know gays and lesbians from all of history. Where are the trans?
No, acknowledging something is self contradictory and inconsistent isn't erasing it, how can I erase something that doesn't really exist?
You haven't actually proved how it doesn't exist? In fact when you say something is self contradictory and inconsistent that actually proves it exists but you just don't agree with it.
How can you have an opinion on something that doesn't exist?
And how does something being inconsistent or to you "self-contradictory" make it disappear?
You still haven't justified how its self contradictory or inconsistent either.
Let me help you:
A car is a well defined term. Some cars break down, or lose wheels or even have only 3 or more, like 6.
Does that make a car a bicycle? Is the word car "self-contradictory" and "inconsistent?"
Does the definition of cars not exist?
How is the definition of sex non-existent because as far as I can tell, its like if there is any way a simple definition has "out of order" parts to it, therefore the definition doesn't exist?
Like if I find a fire-truck that isnt' red, therefore fire-trucks don't exist?
Can means actively able
No it doesn't! Can means could. Could does not mean will. Will is explicit. Can is possible. Possible is only potential. Potential is only probable. Probable is not a guarantee.
I think the analogy with dog isn't good
So what? Your opinoin is just an opinion?
How do you even define a dog or any specie?
Dog: A unique domesticated sub-species of the canis genus, a four legged wolf companion of humans.
What? Cats can absolutely lose that ability lmao, how about just losing the claws?
I was thinking more genetically, like being born without the ability in some form of disorder. But see, now are you going to tell me such a cat that can't retract its claws is not a cat?
Or are you saying the definition of cat "does not exist?"
You're really gonna talk about scientific consensus when it's currently pro trans?
[citation needed]
Define pro-trans objectively please (hint: I think your idea of universally pro-trans is actually not as comprehensive as you think. I.e. most people support trans people living as stealth as they can, but don't support erasing the definitions of sex.)
Show me that the world supports this objective definition of trans such that it erases the definition of sex
(and this is where you beg the question) Explain to me where and how popular beliefs are better for society just because they are popular.
I don't think it's consistent at all, what are you using as your "female" definition?
Female:
of or denoting the sex that can bear offspring or produce eggs, distinguished biologically by the production of gametes (ova) which can be fertilized by male gametes.
Its really not hard. That literally defines 99.9999% of women and girls.
, because they want transgender people to get fucked.
This is just your feeling.
Well I'm just trying to say that lot of scientists and medical institutions are very pro trans healthcare
Lots of them!
Like Diane Ehrensaft, you should google her. She was the leading psychologist responsible for the satanic panic in the 80s, which resulted in thousands of people being falsely accused of ritual child abuse, and many many more children hurt including real abuse victims in extremely questionable "re-memory" therapy sessions and other terrible types of experimental therapy .
She now is one of the leading voices in "gender affirming care." (yep, she's one of their top spokesmans.) Notice a trend there?
So tell me what you know about the Satanic Panic?
I'm not erasing definition of sex, I'm pointing out that it doesn't really exist when it's so inconsistent.
HAHAHA. Do you realize you just contradicted yourself?
"I'm not erasing. . . . [but I think] it doesn't exist."
Lol.
What are you referring to?
Please specify again what you are asking about, I lost the context here.
Female - Doesn't majority of people who had ability to bear offspring lose it because of age?
Read the definition again. It says "can." Can is not will or should. Another way of saying it is "ordered to." Speaking of menopause, no man (male) on earth will ever have menopause. Because its literally physically impossible for a male.
Another way of clarifying for you:
No dog is capable of retracting its claws like a cat. Maybe some cats lose this ability (doubt it but lets pretend.)
You might as well say a dog is capable of retracting its claws like a cat. Do you think the definition of dog doesn't exist?
That's why I have problems with defining it by biology, it's just inconsistent.
You definitely have problems, yes.
Its literally consistent in 99.999% of cases, and how is it not proper?
Do you believe in the values of the historical enlightenment? I.e. that reaching a scientific and secular consensus on reality and using that to base our language and understanding is of primary importance to civilization?
no, but you're making implication that it is not a choice
You're right I am making that implication.
and you tell me what made these people the way they are?
Why do people join cults, or grow up with really low-self confidence? Or marry an abusive partner?
Who benefits from "making people trans"
I haven't even mentioned motives, you're straw manning me. Does everyone have to benefit from everything all the time? So a parent has to be maliciously plotting to have their child grow up with low-self esteem in order for the child to grow up with low self esteem?
I mean cults for sure have motives - but I wouldn't say such motives are 100% selfish or evil. Lots of cults are full of people who genuinely believe they are doing good, and many are started by people like that, I think.
I do think there are some evil people motivated to do harm to others with trans ideology, but I do not think this is all people. Did you hear about the WPATH founders all being members of child castration fetish groups?
I appreciate the self-honesty. I consider this myself. I was a moron and I'm not afraid of admitting it.
I can add that there were co-factors - like the fact I'm already gnc, gay and was bullied for it growing up. As well as having depression and autism. But facts are facts. I was had. I was an idiot. I'm just glad I got myself out of it. (Covid helped.)
People join cults because they can be dragged and indoctrinated into them since they were like children.
Good, now explain to me where the idea of a gender identity comes from.
I don't know what WPTAH is,
WPATH.
Here:
Its got all the receipts for you.
Just letting you know but don't take diet advice from unqualified people online. Your body equilibrium is more than just "calories in calories out" and you may have gained weight due to some serious organ, thyroid or digestion issue that is preventing your body from processing fats/calories properly.
Do not just cut in order to lose weight...if you can get a full health checkup, particularly thyroid and liver check. For all you know you may even have kidney issues now, we collectively are informed so very little on the long term effects of endocrine dysruption on young bodies and their ability to process nutrients.