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The user's perspective is consistent and passionate, aligning with the expected views of a desister who did not medically transition. The arguments are detailed, emotionally charged, and reference personal experiences (e.g., learning to be feminine at 21). The language is natural, with variations in tone and personal asides, which is not typical of automated scripts. The account appears to be a genuine, if strongly opinionated, individual.
About me
I started feeling uncomfortable with my body as a teenager, and I thought becoming a boy was the answer. I almost started taking hormones, but I kept delaying because something felt wrong. I realized through therapy that my desire to transition came from depression and a fear of the difficulties women face. Now, at 21, I'm learning to love being a woman and appreciate my body. I believe the real solution is to love your true self, not to change it.
My detransition story
My journey with all of this started when I was a teenager. I was really uncomfortable with my body during puberty, which I now know is a pretty normal feeling for a lot of girls. I hated developing breasts and I felt like I didn't fit in. I started to believe that maybe I was supposed to be a boy. I think a lot of this was influenced by what I saw online and by some of my friends who were also questioning their gender. There was a lot of pressure and it felt like a social contagion.
I identified as non-binary for a while, and then later as a trans man. I was convinced that medical transition was the only way to be happy. I was told that hormones were reversible and that puberty blockers were just a "pause button," but I've since learned that's not true at all. I was lucky because I never actually took hormones or had any surgeries. I got really close to starting testosterone, but I kept delaying it because something deep down felt wrong.
Looking back, I understand that my desire to transition came from a place of low self-esteem and depression. I didn't love myself. I thought changing my body was the answer, but it was just a way to escape my problems. I was trying to run away from being a woman because I saw all the difficulties women face and I didn't want to deal with that. I had to learn that you can be a girl and still do whatever you want—play video games, play soccer, be tough. You don't need to change your body to fit a stereotype.
I benefited hugely from therapy that wasn't just about affirming me. A good therapist should question you and help you dig into the why behind your feelings, not just rubber-stamp a medical path. Through that, I started to work through my issues. I'm 21 now and I'm just now learning to be comfortable being feminine. I'm buying makeup and wearing dresses for the first time and learning to appreciate my body for what it is.
I have major regrets about even going as far as I did socially. I regret the years I spent thinking I was something I'm not. I believe that if I had gone through with medical transition, I would have deeply regretted it. My thoughts on gender now are that biological sex is real and can't be changed. You can change your appearance, but you can't change your sex. I think it's okay to be a man who wears dresses or a woman who is masculine. The problem is when you try to force everyone else to participate in your identity, especially when it invades private spaces like women's bathrooms and locker rooms. Women have fought hard for their rights and their safety, and that needs to be respected.
The whole experience has taught me that the most important thing is to learn to love your true self. You don't need expensive body modifications or to take medication for the rest of your life. You just need to be yourself.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13-14 | Started puberty, felt very uncomfortable with my body, especially hated my breasts. |
| 15 | Began identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities and friends. |
| 16-17 | Socially transitioned to living as a trans man. Considered taking testosterone but kept delaying. |
| 20 | Started non-affirming therapy that questioned my reasons for wanting to transition. |
| 21 | Realized I was running from being a woman. Stopped identifying as trans. Began learning to be comfortable as a feminine woman. |
Top Comments by /u/presqueilot:
"Gender affirmation care" shouldn't even be a real thing. Therapists are not meant to "affirm" you, they're meant to push back and question things.
Also, I wanted to be Vegeta from DBZ when I was in middle school, so no, minors don't know what they want to be. I have no problem with tax paying adults to do whatever the frick they want, but let's be real here. Kids don't know what they want.
So I support this new law.
Please just be yourself. It’s okay to dress the way you want, act the way you want, etc. But essentially you and everybody else is chasing a dream/goal they cannot achieve. There’s no way around biological sex..
I know it sounds harsh, and I’m sorry. I had a trans friend kill herself recently, because even after all the support she knew deep inside the reality.
Please just learn to love yourself. Your true self. You don’t need expensive body modifications. You don’t need to sell your body to big pharma and take medication forever. You don’t need to convince yourself lies in order to live happily.
"Near non-existent issues" yeah, no. Minors transitioning and making the mistake is the literal reason why this subreddit exists. This isn't virtue signaling.
Virtue signaling is when a trans-women wins a miss america pageant despite being a bio-male and being overweight.
These are republicans taking action.
That's perfectly OK. What TERFs stand for is pretty much, be who you are but you're still a man (or whatever you were born as). If you are man who likes to wear dresses and heels, that's completely okay.
It's just that, this is your own identity. This is your own self perception. You cannot force it on other people, it's yours to deal with only. Women have faced a lot of obstacles in history, and they are even facing them now as they continue to fight for reproductive rights, equal pay, etc. Women do not have to take care of bio-men. It's not their job to make you feel comfortable and welcomed. They do not appreciate those who barge into their private spaces, they worked hard for what they have.
A lot of people are not aware of the current medicine limits. Literally look at this reddit channel. Lots of detransitioners were told that replacement hormones were "reversible" and that they could just put a "pause" on puberty, obviously that's not the case but that's still being sold.
When I say "Love yourself" I mean go to therapy. Trans people DO of course exist, but they've only ever been less than 1% of the population. The sudden spike is due to social contagion. That's why there is a spike in detransitioners also.
What you should do is try your best to live normally without getting anything medical done. Possibly seek mental help/therapy (if you look at posts in this channel, a lot of people have transitioned due to past traumas/other mental illnesses), if everything else fails.... then lastly would be to transition. If you absolutely can't live without transitioning, go for it.
The whole TERF thing is going on because women have fought so hard to fight for their spaces and rights. As a biological man, you will never understand what it means to us. We still have to fight to this day for equal pay rights, etc. Claiming to be a woman and transitioning does not mean you can take over women's spaces (unless they allow you to, but never by FORCE like some trans people do).
As long as trans people are asking cis people for stuff ie. "Please use my pronouns and refer to me as____" you also have to listen to cis people "I don't want to change my clothes in front of you" etc. It's a two way street. You cannot demand something and not return anything.
I’m a girl and I sometimes play as guys in video games just cause they’re handsome or something haha. It doesn’t mean anything.
I know some dudes that play as girl characters cause their hot, or like if we play dead by daylight, they play as girls so their character is smaller to hide.
But nah video games don’t really matter, those are people who are chronically online
OK listen. Just because you empathize with women, doesn't mean you understand it. That's like saying, as a white person, you understand what it feels like to be a black person. You don't. You may empathize but you will not experience it.
The social contagion is everywhere. It's on Tiktok, it's being taught in classrooms in California, it's in children's books.
In Loundon County School District, a young girl was r*ped by a trans (male) student in a skirt. The school covered it up to avoid being "transphobic" that same student assaulted numerous other girls. They have since been sent to another school.
In California, they are allowing trans-women who have been convicted of sexual assault and domestic violence in women's prisons because of their identity.
This is just a couple reasons why feminists feel threatened.
The thing is, even if you transition there are just things you will never experience. You know how everyone is trying to fit-in? You won't fit-in with women because you aren't one, no matter what.
What do you hate so much about your body? Also, I don't know how old you are but if you haven't finished puberty, that's normal. It's literally normal to not feel comfortable during the process. Estrogen btw is not a magic pill. You won't really expect any changes except maybe smoother skin and longer/faster growing hair.
Yeah trans women have their struggles but it’s not the same. You didn’t go through the same experiences as us. Idk if you heard of the Loundon County Case. A trans women went into the women’s restroom and brutally r*ped a girl. He then committed 3 other sexual assaults before finally moving over to another school.
Although the majority of trans women are not predators of course, this still unfortunately opens the door to cases like this one. In California they allowed trans-women into women’s prisons and there have been reports of r*pe there also. Women are just tired. We know it’s not all but we just want our own private space.
Also just do whatever you want in life. I’m a girl who plays video games and plays soccer, people say those are boy things but honestly you can do whatever the fuck you want. You don’t need to take artificial drugs and get surgery to do whatever you want. Don’t sell your body to big pharma.
This is why you should stop with the "you can't understand my pain" BS, it's literally like the incel meme with the guy who has knives in his back lol, feeling threatened by men isn't exclusive to women, actually lot of men feel like that.
You're again just essentializing.
This is exactly what TERFs are talking about. You know nothing. This is actually why women feel threatened by you. If you really wanted to be a woman, you'd start by respecting women. Which this shows that you do not. You're acting like another man trying to desensitize and denounce what women have gone through and you are attempting to assert dominance. I cannot believe you'd say something this disgusting. Transition if you want to but...
YOU WILL NEVER BE A WOMAN! Having long hair, coloured nails, taking HRT.. none of that will change this fact. Which is why you need to accept this. You cannot change this. Painting your nails and having long hair doesn't mean you are the same as me. You are masquerading as a woman.