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About me
I'm a masculine woman who started transitioning because I felt out of place and hated the changes of puberty. Online communities convinced me that my discomfort meant I was a man, and I began living as one in my early twenties. I wanted hormones and surgery but couldn't afford them, which gave me time to question everything. I realized my idea of being a man was just based on stereotypes, not who I truly am. I'm now at peace, accepting myself as a woman who doesn't conform to feminine expectations.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I just felt completely out of place. I was a tomboy from the start and never really fit in with the super girly girls. I think a lot of my discomfort began during puberty when my body started developing. I hated my breasts; they felt alien and wrong on me, like they didn't belong. I had a lot of anxiety and low self-esteem, and looking back, I think I was deeply uncomfortable with the expectations that came with being a woman rather than with being a woman myself.
I found a lot of community and answers online, but I now see I was heavily influenced by what I read in certain spaces. The message was that if you didn't fit the stereotype, you must be trans. It felt like an escape from all the discomfort and a way to finally be seen for who I felt I was inside. I started to socially transition in my early twenties, asking people to use a different name and male pronouns for me. I thought I had finally found my true self.
I even started looking into medical transition. I was desperate to get top surgery because I hated my chest so much. I wanted to take testosterone to look more masculine. But I couldn't afford it. My job's health insurance wouldn't cover it, and that financial barrier is honestly what saved me. It forced me to wait and gave me time to really think.
During that time, I started to pull apart all the ideas I had absorbed. I realized that my idea of "feeling like a man" was just a collection of stereotypes—liking trucks, hiking, not wearing makeup. That's not what being a man is. That's just being a person with interests. I'm a female who is masculine, and that's okay. It doesn't make me less of a woman. I was medicalizing my own gender nonconformity.
I also started to see the darker side of the community I was in. If you questioned anything or talked about the real, serious health complications from hormones or surgeries, you were instantly called a transphobe or a TERF. There was no discussion, just insults. I saw a complete lack of empathy for women, for gay people, and especially for people like me who detransitioned. We were treated like enemies who had betrayed them. It felt like a cult that couldn't tolerate anyone leaving.
I never ended up taking hormones or having any surgery. I am so grateful for that now. I found my way back to understanding that I am, and always was, a biological woman. My body is female, and that's a simple fact of my chromosomes. I don't regret exploring my identity because it led me to a place of self-acceptance, but I deeply regret ever buying into the idea that I needed to change my body to be happy. I regret the time I lost and the anger I felt. I'm just a woman who doesn't like stereotypes, and that's perfectly fine.
Age | Event |
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12-13 | Started puberty; began feeling intense discomfort with breast development and female expectations. |
20-21 | Heavily influenced by online communities; began socially transitioning to male. |
22 | Wanted to pursue testosterone and top surgery but was unable to due to cost and lack of insurance coverage. |
23 | Began to question my transition; realized my "male identity" was based on stereotypes, not an internal sense of self. |
24 | Stopped identifying as trans; accepted myself as a masculine, gender-nonconforming woman. |
Top Comments by /u/presquenord:
Your voice? You sound like a tomboy. Aka masc woman but still a woman.
Your face? You look feminine idk what’s up with those people. However I’d try experimenting with makeup if you’re uncertain. Makeup can really change your facial features if you get good at it! Without it though, you look like a girl
The truth is being a man or a woman is completely biological. If you have XY you’re a man, and if you have XX chromosomes you’re a woman. Some people have an extra chromosome but other than that, you just are what you were born as.
I am a tomboy. A biological woman. I was socially transitioned because I thought I was a man. How can I feel like a man if I never was a man? How would I know that feeling? Well I took a bunch of typical male stereotypes and thought that was what it meant to be a man. But no, fishing, hiking, liking trucks doesn’t make you a man. It’s just sexism and stereotypes. So yes, gender nonconformity is being medicalized. It happens to feminine males as well.
Remember, every cured patient is one less customer to Big Pharma. So if they get you to transition (even though it’s literally impossible to transition to the opposite sex) you’ll be a cash cow and reliable income to big pharma forever. You are medicalized forever.
And hey, even if you break lose from the false hope they’ve sold you, they’ll at least get to sell you your own natural hormones!
So yes, people are being used for sure
Also, I’ve noticed whenever there is discussion (like let’s say, about HRT), if you bring up negatives, you’re insulted by being called a “TERF or a Transphobe” however they never call us wrong? Are we wrong about the side effects of HRT? They DONT provide information to back up their statements. They do not care about facts or anyone else’s opinions.
“Trans women are women”
“Ok, how? If being a woman isn’t being fem (cause what about fem gay men?) and it isn’t body parts or organs (that’s transphobic to say) then what is a woman?” What was the point in the women’s rights marches? Why couldn’t they just identify as men and buy land, vote, etc?”
“STOP REPEATING RIGHT WING TALKING POINTS, BIGOT”
Very typical narcissistic behaviour. Except they plan to always see themselves as truly being the victim and vulnerable.
Many radical activists have spent years not giving a crap about anybody else and gaslighting society.
Not caring about women/children and calling Lesbians/Gay people "transphobic" for not being attracted to them.
Them being upset about this just goes to show it was never about "helping people find their true selves". It's a cult, and that's why once you leave and "de-transitioned" you're not someone who "found their true self", but an ENEMY.
So I applaud Florida.
Okay I get what you mean. I’ll say, they definitely have a superiority complex. I mean the lack of empathy towards the women in Scotland prisons, taking sports competitions from young girls, and yet, some of them even tweet that they’re “more woman than cis-woman”. They also shut the door completely on destrans folks. It’s definitely mysogyny/sexism on crack. Not all of them, but some of the radicals one in the media.
And then it’s like “you need to respect us and we demand all spaces and if you don’t comply I’ll stalk you and get you fired from your job, TERF!”
Worth noting here is that the bill requires 100% coverage of any detransition cost (which itself is loosely defined) and it specifies that this is
regardless
of the rate of coverage provided for transition, the amount of coverage, where the treatment took place, or when that coverage was.
I think the reason is because transitioning and gender-affirming care has a domino effect. So they might have just covered HRT or T/E, but that may have also caused facial hair (which needs constant shaving/removal), or damages to reproductive organs, etc.
So i think a detransitioner can argue that in court. That "Yeah sure, you did just cover HRT, but now I have to take same-sex hormones, and I have other effects".
Also I think with this, it's a great deterrent. I was saved from having top surgery cause I couldn't afford it. My jobs health insurance wouldn't cover it. I eventually found my true self to not be trans. So maybe a workplace will think twice before blindly "affirming" anybody and everybody.
I get it but damn… I mean I’ll see a news story about a r*pist being sent to jail and then the activists would be commenting like “They even deadnamed her” or like “Wrong pronouns” bro… this is a literal criminal… they don’t deserve respect. LIKE WHAT