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About me
I started my transition as a teenager because I felt uncomfortable with the expectations placed on women and my own self-image. I took testosterone and had top surgery, believing it was the solution to my problems. In my mid-twenties, I realized my true desire was just to be a gender-nonconforming woman, not a man, so I began to detransition. I now live as a woman again, managing the permanent physical changes from my surgery. My journey taught me that I needed self-acceptance, not a different body.
My detransition story
My whole experience with transition started when I was a teenager. I was really uncomfortable with the expectations placed on women in society. I saw how much pressure there was to be good at fashion and makeup, and I felt like I could never be that effortlessly feminine girl I saw everywhere. I also started to believe that being an ugly man would be easier than being an ugly woman. At the time, I rationalized my feelings as gender dysphoria, but looking back, I think a lot of it was just low self-esteem and a deep discomfort with puberty and the role I was expected to play.
I came to believe that gender dysphoria is a form of body dysmorphia. The symptoms felt exactly the same to me: a distorted self-image and a severe displeasure with my body, fixated on features that were sex-based. I wanted an unrealistic ideal self that I now realize could never be fully satisfied, no matter how much I changed my body.
I medically transitioned. I took testosterone and I got top surgery. The surgeon made me completely flat, just skin and muscle over my ribs. At the time, it felt like a solution. I even felt like being trans put me in a different category where I didn't have to compare myself to other men or women. I thought, maybe I was a 3/10 woman, but I could be an 8/10 trans guy. It was a way to cope.
But in my mid-twenties, I started to realize how flawed that thinking was. I began to detransition. I’ve been taking estrogen for about a year and a half now. There’s been no regrowth of breast tissue for me, probably because they removed it all and I was skinny at the time of surgery. I’ve thought about trying to gain weight to see if fat would distribute there, but I’ve decided against it. I’m lucky I haven't had any serious health complications from my surgery, but I now live with a high risk of osteoporosis and cancer from the hormones.
I don't regret my transition in the sense that it brought me to where I am now, but I do regret not understanding my own motivations back then. I think I was influenced by online communities and a desire to escape. What I really wanted was permission to be a gender-nonconforming woman, to date women, and to live without restrictive expectations. Instead, I was enabled to conform in the opposite direction. I think medically transitioning gay or gender-nonconforming kids is a form of conversion therapy; it reinforces stereotypes instead of breaking them.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's a social concept, and my body is just my body. I’m in a long-term relationship with a man who has more conservative views, and it works for us, but I understand the misogyny that exists everywhere. I’ve learned to dress in a way that accentuates my hips and waist to feel more comfortable in my body now.
I worry about the narrative that very few people regret transitioning. I think it's impossible to know how many people just haven't regretted it yet. Every detransitioner was once a trans person who seemed satisfied. I just hope more people can find genuine self-acceptance without needing to go through what I did.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Teenager | Began feeling intense discomfort with female puberty and social expectations. |
| Late Teens | Started identifying as transgender and began taking testosterone. |
| Early 20s | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| Mid-20s | Began to realize my motivations were flawed and started to detransition. |
| Mid-20s | Stopped testosterone and began taking estrogen. |
| Present (Late 20s) | Living as a detransitioned woman, managing the long-term health impacts. |
Top Comments by /u/rabbitrune:
yeah it really bothers me too that they talk about how "inspiring" it is that there is research suggesting it may be possible, but there rarely seems to be concern about like the human baby itself, and how morally wrong it would be to involuntarily subject a human being to that kind of experimentation. every single time ive seen this discussion that doesnt even factor into how they talk about it ever. not to even mention the biological complexity it takes to build a human baby, there is so much that goes into it that isnt just contained by a uterus. imo it's a combination of fetishization but also just having an abundance of delusional blind faith in medicine.
gender dysphoria IS body dysmorphia. the symptoms are literally 1:1. the person suffering from either is negatively impacted by their body image to the point of impacting their health and wellbeing. both are based on desiring an unrealistic and impossible ideal self that will probably never be satisfied in most cases since there will always be aspects about the body that artificial hormones and cosmetic surgery cant fix.
if an anorexic person says she wouldnt be happy in society being a normal healthy weight and wants to be underweight enough to kill herself over it, she wouldnt get prescribed weight loss medication because that's indulging the body dysmorphia mindset. however if a person says she wouldnt be happy in society being a normal woman and wants to be a man enough to kill herself over it, that is celebrated and she is given steroids and cosmetic surgery often covered by insurance.
that's my take on it, at least.
i did date a basement-dwelling closeted AGP for a couple months when i was a naive college student.
he had a troubled past and certain mental illnesses. he was very delusional about the entire situation, and thought that just simply taking a very high dose of estrogen would turn him into a cute anime-like girl. when i tried helping him shave his legs for the first time he got so mad at every tiny nick of blood he yelled in frustration and punched a wall because he wanted perfectly smooth legs, and literally never actually considered the amount of work that it takes to maintain cosmetic feminine hygeine.
once i pointed out a woman in a tv show that could be a resemblance of what he would look like after transitioning, and he got so so mad because he thought she was "ugly". this guy looks like jon snow from game of thrones and literally believed estrogen injections would turn him into zooey deschanel.
i dumped him and he actually completely snapped out of the AGP thing a couple months later.
you didn't medically transition so i dont even get why it's too relevant? everybody goes through phases as a teenager. also plenty of right wing men appreciate tomboys. don't expect him to "respect your identity" as a "masculine GNC" woman because that doesnt mean anything to him, you are as much of a woman as any other woman. expect typical traditional misogyny and be ready to cope with it or break up.
i am in a long term relationship with someone who is in the right-wing direction... it's not everyone's cup of tea, but it works for me i can't imagine being in a relationship with someone who doesn't share my political views.
dysmorphia is actually defined in multiple sources as being overly concerned with perceived flaws that may or may not exist, and experiencing severe displeasure. gender dysphoria also presents a distorted self image around features that happen to be sex based. you could take your statement and argue that it goes either way for the two conditions.
The concept of transitioning gay or gender-nonconforming children as being conversion therapy is very difficult for people to grasp and it is so frustrating. Typically conversion therapy is associated with religious camps or repression, and it is a very unfamiliar concept that medically transitioning a child to conform better to gender stereotypes is literally just reinforcing gender stereotypes for them to fit into. In my opinion it will be a long time before that concept really sinks in for trans "rights" activists, since they are so convinced that transness breaks gender norms. saying a boy isnt truly male (or has a "choice" to opt out of being male) because he has no interest in stereotypical masculinity is just a catch-22 in the entire logic. they just dismiss it by saying well there are people who identify as gay in the gender they transition to. which coincidentally has resulted in massive societal judgement towards actual gay people who dont want to date trans people, and that is a whole another topic that coincidentally pressures lesbians into accepting dick and the other way around. but honestly i mostly see that in anti-terf hate.
Pretty much all i wanted as a teenage girl was to escape the expectations to conform, and to feel the reckless abandon that i saw boys enjoying, and to date girls like how i saw boys dating girls. instead of being reassured that it's okay to not conform as a girl, i was enabled into conforming in the opposite direction. there was no reason why i couldnt have done everything that i did in my life exactly 100% the same without cosmetic medical intervention and now i live with an extremely high risk of osteoperosis and cancer.
imo i dont even think the whole "only 1% of people regret transitioning" has any point to it because there's no way to tell how many trans people simply dont regret it YET. every regretful detrans person was once an obliviously satisfied trans person.
yes honestly it was a huge factor for me even if i didnt totally realize it at the time. as a teenager i started to see how women are treated in society. being an ugly man is easier than being an ugly woman, unfortunately. at the time i rationalized this as being uncomfortable with the expectation to be good at fashion and makeup and giving up the idea that i would ever be effortlessly feminine that i see the majority of women are.
plus i felt like being trans puts you in a different league, so i could spare myself some grace in comparing myself to cis men and women. i may have been (or currently am) a 3/10 woman, but i was an 8/10 trans guy. idk. once i hit my mid twenties i realized how dumb that is.
hey, YOU came to this community and saw people talking about their experiences being pressured and groomed and enabled to seek out "life saving" cosmetic treatments, many of which were minors at the time, and then started crying about how this community is full of evil bigots lmfao. don't "girl" me and get a grip
i wasnt aware that caring about medical malpractice and abuse of minors makes someone a raging conservative diva. why dont you go care about something more important like whether your hairstyle and clothes for tomorrow are empowering enough, bestie ^_^