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- Personal Experience: They reference their own detransition, including a specific surgical complication ("dog ears").
- Emotional Nuance: They show empathy, anger, and a personal, evolving perspective, which is complex for a bot to simulate consistently.
- Engaged Argumentation: Their responses are tailored to other users' points, indicating they are reading and processing the conversation.
The passion and strong opinions are consistent with a genuine detransitioner or desister who is heavily invested in the issue.
About me
I started feeling deeply uncomfortable with my female body when I was a teenager, especially when I developed breasts. I thought I was a trans man and medically transitioned for several years, but it didn't fix my underlying depression and trauma. I realized I had used transition to escape my other problems, including being autistic and struggling to accept I was a lesbian. I stopped testosterone and found real healing in therapy that focused on my root issues instead of affirming a new gender. I am now at peace living as a female and understand that my pain was never really about being the wrong sex.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was a teenager, around 15. I was deeply uncomfortable with my body, especially when I started developing breasts during puberty. I hated them and felt like they didn't belong on me. I was also struggling with a lot of other things at the time: depression, serious anxiety, and very low self-esteem. Looking back, I now understand that a lot of this was connected to trauma I had experienced and being autistic, though I wasn't diagnosed until much later.
I found a lot of my initial community and understanding online. I started identifying as non-binary first, which felt like a way to escape the discomfort of being a woman. This eventually led me to believe I was a trans man. I was heavily influenced by what I saw in online spaces and by friends who were also exploring similar identities. I think for me, a lot of this was a form of escapism from my other mental health struggles. I also struggled with internalized homophobia; accepting that I was a lesbian felt impossible at the time, and becoming a man felt like a solution.
I medically transitioned. I took testosterone for several years, from age 19 to 22. I also got top surgery when I was 20. The surgery itself had a complication; I had what they call “dog ears” where the skin didn’t heal properly at the ends, and I had to go back for a revision surgery to fix it.
Being on testosterone gave me an initial rush of confidence and energy that I mistook for finally being myself. But eventually, that feeling faded, and I was left with the same underlying problems. My mental health didn't get better; the issues were still there, just buried under a medical process. I realized that transitioning had been a maladaptive coping mechanism for me—a way to try and solve trauma, autism, and other mental health struggles by changing my body.
I decided to detransition around age 23. I stopped taking testosterone. I don’t regret transitioning in the sense that it was a path I had to walk to get to where I am now, but I do have regrets about the permanent changes to my body and the fact that I wasn't given better mental health support first. I am now infertile because of the hormones, which is a serious and permanent consequence.
What truly helped me was finally addressing my root issues in therapy—but it had to be the right kind of therapy. I benefited immensely from non-affirming therapy that helped me work through my trauma, autism, and self-esteem issues without automatically affirming a transgender identity. That was the key for me. My perspective now is that for many people, especially young people, transition is often a response to other problems like trauma, autism, internalized homophobia, or social pressure. I believe we need much better mental health care that explores these root causes before any medical transition is considered.
I now identify as a female and as a lesbian. I’ve come to accept that my body is female, and that’s okay. I can still dress and present myself in a masculine way without needing to be a man. The pain I was feeling was never really about gender; it was about a lot of other hurt that needed healing.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 15 | Started experiencing intense discomfort with puberty and breast development. |
| 16 | Began identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities. |
| 17 | Socially transitioned to living as a trans man. |
| 19 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 20 | Underwent top surgery. |
| 20 | Had a revision surgery to correct "dog ear" complications from top surgery. |
| 22 | Stopped taking testosterone. |
| 23 | Began the process of detransition and started non-affirming therapy. |
Top Comments by /u/ratfunking:
I’m sorry you are going through this. I know it is hellish and confusing. But you aren’t alone in this. 🤝
T: I think you know yourself that the t is a drug you want to get a high from. It’s understandable that you’d want to feel that rush and confidence and energy again. You are essentially going through a relapse.
The good news, is that you can still wear whatever clothes and style yourself however you like without going back on t 🙂 accepting your female self doesn’t mean you can’t dress as masculine as you like. It doesn’t make you any less of a woman just because you don’t perform certain aesthetics or rituals.
As to the self hate and painful feelings, those are extremely rough and deserve to be soothed, but in real genuine and compassionate therapeutic environments. Your mother’s abuse is harming you and your inner child.
If you like, I can network to find you a therapist that actually understands these issues and won’t push gender ideology or any other bullshit. 🙂❤️
That happened to me as well. They call it “dog ears” and it’s apparently common. I did go in and get revised and it wasn’t much work. That’s insane that they ghosted you about that. I don’t know why they wouldn’t just do the revision surgery. I’m sorry that happened to you just a bunch of bs
As for the video title, the interviewer decided that, I didn't have control over it, although I feel it does sum up my perspective well. It is true that young trans people are suffering from mental health concerns.
I see what you are saying, and again I must say that this is not based on mostly my own experience; it is based on the numerous accounts of detrans people I have spoken with, read, watched, etc. as well as analysis from providers and journalists etc. studying detransition and gender issues. I do believe transition is most often a maladaptive coping mechanism, and I have never seen an instance of a detrans or trans person who doesn't have an aspect of mental illness, trauma, and other telling factors like same sex attraction, homophobic upbring, other sexuality issues, or more recently, social contagion such as ROGD. I discuss these things further in the rest of the interview.
For anyone curious, my perspective is that transition is maladaptive in numerous ways, and there are most often other methods of coping with gender and sex issues that are healthier. I do not believe any minor child should be allowed any aspect of medical transition, and I believe medical transition is cosmetic and therefore, adults over 21 SHOULD be allowed to pursue if they desire, but due to mental and physical risk, I still don't advise it. Unfortunately there is little to no quality data on these things since it's all pretty novel, so we don't know much about the rates of transition success for these ROGD kids, or adults. But from what we're seeing so far, it isn't looking good. If anyone is curious, look up Exculansicon Youtube; she does deep analysis of medical transition and follows the money from these surgeries and hormones, and the ideology around it. Quite interesting stuff. It is clear that medical transition such as puberty blockers and SRS are experimental and quite unethical endeavors, which is why I don't promote minors at all having them, and wouldn't advise adults either. As for purely social transition, that's another discussion.
But, it is mostly teens and young adults pursuing this, which is why my main concern is on not transitioning minors and young people, especially due to these mental health and social factors I listed. My main thing, is advocating for better mental health treatment for gender dysphoria and the other mental health and social issues young people are facing today. For many trans people, the source of their pain is being projected into this sex and gender stuff, when it can be a myriad of other factors. As I listed, most commonly across the board trauma, isolation, social contagion, homosexuality, autism, adhd, etc. I don't see any way that this perspective is too generalizing, as I stated, there are numerous factors, not just social, not just mental health. Typically there are some combo of both.
I appreciate your respectful debate here, but you also only watched the first 10 minutes of my interview, if you watch the rest, you'll see more discussion on these points.
When you say "weirded out and disappointed" what emotion do you think is there, fear, sadness, anger, disgust? And directed at what, and whom?
For me when I watched her videos and thought about this stuff, I definitely felt all of those. I understand, her videos are quite abrasive. She uses humor and sarcasm to deal with how angry she is at the medical establishment, and can be a little rough on the subjects of the videos, but she ultimately feels angry on their behalf. I think this material could be too harsh for someone in a more raw stage of their detransition. I forget I am a little jaded to this because I've healed for a few years already and don't have the closeness anymore.
I would encourage you to revisit her channel later on because I do think she makes some really important points about the medical industry and gender as a spirituality. Her attitude seems refreshingly blunt to me and I know her main goal is to help the vulnerable (women and trans people) but definitely she is quite intense in how she goes about it.
Unfortunately, there are few media outlets willing to cover these issues. I am working closely with GC organizations like Genspect and REIME and there is an understanding that we need to saturate the market so to speak about detrans issues. Lisa Selin Davis was going to actually write an article referencing my story for the New York Times, but this got shut down. That is why we are working to spread the ideas through alternative media.
I see your points and I also agree we need a lot more research into all of this.
It was not my intention to frame my experience as the only trans or detrans experience, but it's an interview with just me so I'm not sure what I could have done, besides perhaps stating that this is my lived experience and it's only one example of the risk factors, although it does overlap with many other detrans narratives, and so far, no other detrans person has had an issue. In future interviews, I agree it would be best to mention this is only one story, and one example.
Although I didn't pick the title of the video, I rather like how he did phrase it as "many are mentally ill" and didn't just say "trans people are mentally ill" or "all trans people are mentally ill" etc. I think it is accurate to say "many are" and obviously many people will still view this statement as problematic, but I think this title is accurate while still leaving room for more discussion.
I appreciate your thoughts as well.