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About me
My journey started from a place of deep pain, where my trauma and the agony of being a woman in this world made me feel disconnected from my own female body. I was quickly guided by online communities and medical professionals toward testosterone, with the serious health risks being downplayed to me. After two years, a health scare forced me to research the real dangers, and I realized I had been misinformed. I stopped the hormones and had a hysterectomy to treat my endometriosis, but I kept an ovary so my body could function naturally. Now, I am reconnecting with myself as a woman, understanding that my feelings came from trauma and social pressure, not from being born in the wrong body.
My detransition story
My journey into and out of transition was long and complicated, and it started from a place of deep pain. I had a lot of childhood trauma and C-PTSD, and I always felt a deep discomfort with my body, especially during and after puberty. I hated my breasts and my female reproductive system, which caused me unbearable pain from endometriosis. I felt a profound agony about what it meant to be a woman in America, a feeling my friends and I called "gender agony" rather than dysphoria. It wasn't that I hated being a woman, but I was horrified by the oppression and vulnerability that came with it.
When I was 26, I was in the middle of a massive identity crisis. I first came out as non-binary and genderfluid. I turned to online communities for answers, and they became a powerful echo chamber. I was constantly fed the narrative that if I didn't identify with my birth sex, I must be trans. Any other possibility was discouraged or labeled as internalized transphobia. I was influenced online to believe that medical transition was the only legitimate path to resolving my feelings.
This belief was reinforced by the medical professionals I saw. When I told my first therapist, she said she couldn't help me and referred me out. When I told my primary care physician, she also said she could no longer see me and sent me to an informed consent clinic. There, a nurse practitioner had me sign the HRT paperwork in one 15-minute appointment. I didn't start testosterone right away; I waited almost a year, but from that first appointment, every follow-up was about HRT or pushing me toward top surgery. The risks were downplayed. I was told the cardiovascular risks would be similar to a biological male's, which I later discovered was dangerously false; the risks for a female on testosterone are much, much higher.
I was on testosterone for two years. I started with gel and then switched to injections. At first, I looked forward to shot day, but it eventually became a source of dread. I nearly broke down every time I had to do it. The turning point came when I developed a severe, mysterious bruise on my leg. A friend expressed concern about blood clots, which prompted me to actually read the informed consent paperwork and do my own research. I was horrified to realize how misinformed I had been about the serious health complications, like the significantly increased risk of blood clots, heart attack, and stroke. I realized I didn't want to be a slave to the medical industry for the rest of my life, risking an early death.
I also had a hysterectomy, but I kept one ovary. This wasn't for gender affirmation; it was to finally address my debilitating endometriosis and to free myself from a lifetime of medication. Keeping the ovary means my body can produce its own hormones naturally.
My detransition was also a mental awakening. Through non-affirming therapy that focused on my trauma and dissociation, I began to reconnect with my body and my reality. I remembered that I am a scientist; I know biology, and I know how dangerous it is to experiment with your endocrine system. I had been so deep in the ideology that I ignored basic facts. I came to see the modern trans community as cult-like, where affirmation is mandatory and questioning is forbidden. I felt socially pressured and medically forced into a path that wasn't right for me.
I don't regret my hysterectomy because it solved a real medical problem, but I deeply regret ever taking testosterone. I don't believe I am trans. My feelings were a response to trauma, internalized misogyny, and the social pressure of being female. I now identify as a bisexual woman. I believe in abolishing the strict gender binary, but I also believe we must acknowledge the reality of biological sex.
I faced a lot of harassment for speaking about this, called a TERF and told to be quiet. But this is my truth. I was lost in a cult of ideology, and I’m finally finding my way back to myself.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started birth control for endometriosis. |
| 26 | Came out as non-binary/genderfluid to therapist and doctor; was referred to an informed consent clinic and signed HRT paperwork. |
| 27 | Underwent tubal ligation (tubes tied) to stop birth control. |
| 27 | Began testosterone HRT (topical, then injections). |
| 29 | Developed a suspected blood clot, prompting research into HRT risks and the decision to detransition. |
| 29 | Underwent hysterectomy (keeping one ovary) to treat endometriosis and end hormonal medication. |
| 29 | Stopped testosterone. |
Top Comments by /u/realisticred:
Many male to constructed females are typically autogynophiles, they literally get off on the objectification/oppression of women, often propagated through porn consumption and the sex industry. Being a woman has absolutely nothing to do with clothing, make up, attitudes or behaviors but these are often the first things that are focused on when a man transitions into a woman (RE: Dylan Mulvaney). It's also another way to control women's bodies. If anyone can "be a women" then there is no need to have a distinction between the sexes (in a sexually dimorphic species) and now men can be part of all spaces without regard to biological differences (RE: Martine Rothblatt). Which means that more men identifying as women get to make decisions about women's bodies when they do not and will never be biological women! Identifying as a woman does not make you a woman. It makes you a man portraying a caricature of a woman based on what society has led us to believe a woman is.
Women are adult human females that have a distinct reproductive structure and sex characteristics related to their biology. Men are adult human males that have a distinct reproductive structure and sex characteristics related to their biology, the ONLY "exception" to sexual dimorphism are intersex individuals/those with chromosomal anomalies. Which prove that biology is not perfect and have absolutely no bearing on being trans.
Many women transition to constructed males to try to escape the absolute horror that comes with being a biological woman in patriarchal binary capitalists societies.
Also before you start calling me a terf, maybe actually read what I have written and ask me some questions. I am open to discussion and often have sources for the things I say.
From my perspective, it all boils down to affirmation without question or critical thinking. Affirmation without substance or foundation.
When medical professionals are defaulting to the patient and not adhering to the science is dangerous. In what other field of medicine do patients go to the doctor, state their problem, and the doctor almost immediately agrees with the patient. Then signs off on treatment with such powerful and physiologically altering things like surgery and hormones with little to no hesitation, questioning, or resistance?
Affirmation is not medicine. Affirmation is not science. Affirmation does not question. Affirmation is blind and insidious to reality and biology.
I am in the United States, West Coast born and raised. This opinion is based on that cultural and societal context.
I feel the new wave of the LGBT+ community has been co-opted and rebranded as a fad by corporations within the US and is mainly being sold to people through the medical industry (it is a for-profit, private business here) and validated by social media/those within the LGBT+/SJW community in the real world. I liken it to the promotion of breast implants and butt implants in the US. The same social conditioning and propaganda has been used on women for decades - being sold this idea they are are not a woman/valuable/their true self if they don't look like Kim K/other celebrities. This same idealism, and its progression/reinforcement within US society is mirrored in new wave LBGT+ beliefs.
People within the LGBT+ community have been sold this idea that they can be whoever, and whatever, they want in this society based on a fantasy/idealism, and the medical industry is the ONLY solution (or suicide). I had a FtM friend tell me that being medicalized is part of being trans and got mad at me for not agreeing with her. She was only 24 and already completely medicalized - she will die early if she loses access to HRT. The only reason she didn't get bottom surgery was because the "science and techniques aren't "there" yet.
Furthermore, anyone (mostly white trans-identified males as they're often the loudest in the LGBT+ community) can be oppressed/identify as a minority now because they decide to identify as a polyamorous, kinky, furry, trans-masculine, non-binary femme that uses clown pronouns (deep sigh). So you MUST respect, validate, allow them to have full access to all spaces, and protect them (white males) because they're oppressed!
New wave LGBT+ communities are not based in reality, and no one should have to validate them because of it. ESPECIALLY CHILDREN. None of those things are actual identities/genders, they're just labels based on ideas/idealism of the self (narcissists) - based on social media/online personas that do not exist in real life. Yet these ideas have become so pervasive and make so much money that even the medical industry will affirm these ideas too. Just read and initial some paperwork, take a blood test, self-mutilate, self-sterilize, and ultimately sign your health/life over to the medical industry in the name of your identity. What part of this is healthcare? What part of this is benefitting you and/or your child's health? In what other area of "medicine" does someone get to design their own medical treatment based on *feelings* or ideas about who or what they should be? We won't let children get piercings or tattoos or drink or drive or make other HUGE life altering decisions over their own bodies - yet if a child *feels* they have the wrong body (gender dysphoria is NORMAL) then put them on blockers, cut off their genitals, and sacrifice their future for an identity that most ADULTS don't even understand.
If you're truly secure in your identity then you would not need constant validation from the outside world to be your "true self." If medically transitioning was actually safe then why is it so hard to access the information/studies regarding HRT, puberty blockers, and the factual/scientific history of where trans-ness comes from (RE: Martin Rothblatt, John Money, Harry Benjamin etc)? If transitioning children was actually safe and based in science why is the information not easily accessible? Why is there so much money being thrown at "protecting trans kids/trans lives?"
Also, being trans is based on cultural and societal stereotypes, not science. The man who designed the trans flag based it on the stereotypical colors assigned to babies FFS! Why would you want an identity based on a man who used babies/stereotypes to promote your own identity? Why would you take pride in something that is based on the mutilation, torture , and experimentation of CHILDREN (John Money and Reimer twins; Marci Lee Bowers and the children he operates on)?!
The LGBT+ community has fallen from grace, and has lost their way. It's like a cult now and if you question the cult then you're ostracized like an FLDS apostate. or worse, your life is ruined/threatened by the very people you're questioning. I want no part of this LGBT+ "community" anymore and as time goes on I find it harder and harder to separate the "good" ones from the "bad" ones.
Peer pressure from friends, family, community, and doctors is a force.
Affirmation without question or hesitation is a force.
Online communities that only show one side of a perspective or push a specific narrative is a force.
I don't believe a single person who has faced their trans identity had a gun to their head when making these decisions, but there are absolutely covert forces at play within all aspects of trans identities these days.
It is disempowering and harmful to assume that direct and blatant force is at play here, when the reality indicates it is much more subtle and nuanced.
Can we stop calling each others TERFs as well? I attempt to share anything and then get shut down, my shit reported, and harassed in my messages by others within this community!
De-transitioning is hard enough, and being shut down or harassed does not help.
Because men are the dominant figure in patriarchal society. They literally are born with access to the world and any space they want to occupy.
Goodness forbid an oppressed class of people - women - get specific things in a society that is literally male dominated on almost every single level.
How is stating a fact being rude? What did I say that insulted you (or anyone)?
I am an angry woman being told that men should be given preferential treatment when they literally dominate most societies across the globe. If the truth about reality insults you then be a better man, so that women like me don't have to be angry and insulting.
I transitioned because I felt like I had no choice. I first came out as genderfluid/queer/non-binary to my therapist and she told me she could no longer help me. She referred me to my current therapist.
I came out to my primary care physician. She told me she could no longer see me as a patient and I was referred to an informed consent clinic. I spoke with the nurse practitioner assigned as my primary care provider and in one 15 min appointment I had signed the documents to begin HRT (testosterone). I did not start medically transitioning until almost a year later. Went from topical testosterone to injections. I have officially been on testosterone for 2 years.
I remember struggling with identifying as trans - I didn't want to be trans but everything else seemed to suggest otherwise because I didn't identify with the sex I was assigned at birth (online echo chambers mostly). I was in the middle of an identity crisis and no one questioned me. I was 26 years old, white, and able bodied so no one batted an eye or raised a concern (medically speaking).
Come to find out, informed consent isn't so informed when you don't fully read the paperwork and your "doctor" downplays the risks of fucking with your endocrine system (never saw a specialist/endocrinologist). Well, I am pretty sure I threw a small blood clot in my leg about a month ago (the shadow of the bruise is still there). A friend mentioned the increased health risks of being on T long term and I did my own research/reviewed my "informed" consent paperwork. Come to find out I had no idea what I had signed up for!
My reason for de-transitioning - I don't want to die early because I literally felt I had no choice but to go down this path. I do not want to be a slave to the American medical industry until my early death from a stroke or heart attack or clot in my lungs!
Don't get me wrong, my physiological body has been fucked most of my life due to endometriosis and birth control from the age of 14 (got my tubes tied at 27 and I was finally free of birth control but my endometriosis is unbearable). I also have C-PTSD and severe childhood trauma, and the trauma of being born female in America. So going on testosterone also felt like the right choice - turns out it did not stop my cycle and I have to be on estrogen blockers as well to not be in contact pain. Turns out, looking like a man is not what I wanted either.
I am having a hysterectomy this month - going to keep 1 ovary so that I can stop being dependent on medications and give my body a chance to exist as it is biologically supposed to. Without the unbearable pain of endometriosis and without having to stab myself like a masochist every week (I used to look forward to shot day and now I nearly break down every time I have to do it).
Lastly, getting critical of American trans-ideology helped me see how cultish being trans has become and I want no part of it.
So much more to my story but that's the short version.
As a lesbian, I literally can not exist in the same movement as transgender people. Unless its a transgender man who is sexually attracted to women, which makes her a lesbian.
I am so sorry that being a lesbian has been taken from you, and all other women. Feminism has failed us, and like the LGB community has been twisted/killed in this modern era and no longer holds the same message or meaning. No amount of surgery, hormones, or validation will make a biological male that is sexually attracted to other women a lesbian - it's heterosexuality, autogynephilia, and often misogyny, wrapped in a new package and stolen identities.
Women deserve to have their own labels, their own spaces, their own identities. Men already have control of the world so why do they also need to have our identities?!
I realized I was not trans when a friend brought up concern for my health when I told her about a mysterious hematoma (a severe bruise) I developed overnight in my leg. She reminded me of the cardiovascular risks of testosterone, I looked into the research myself, and the "informed" consent paperwork I had signed to go on HRT and felt deeply misled by my doctor.
If you're a biological female taking testosterone it does not turn you into a man, which is essentially how my doctor and the paperwork portrays the process of HRT, and has serious health side effects. The risks of blood clots and heart attacks is 2x as high as that of biological males and 4x as high in biological females. This shattered me. I was so hell bent on gender affirmation that I forgot/ignored science! Thankfully the only surgery I had was a hysterectomy, but not for gender affirmation (which is its own cult), and decided to keep 1 ovary so I do not have to be on any form of HRT for life.
I realized I was sick of being a slave to the medical industry and realize no amount of body modifications or presentation would change the fact that I am a biological female. My own internalized misogyny and agony of being a woman was really what I was running from when identifying as a non-binary transmasc person.
I've come to accept that I am a scientist, a bisexual woman, and a gender binary abolitionist. Which is a terrifying thing to accept in the United States since our culture is dominated by a patriarchal binary!