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The user expresses a coherent, personal narrative of a long transition, realization, and detransition driven by internalized misogyny and social influence. The emotional tone is passionate and angry, which is common for the subject matter. The story includes specific, personal details (e.g., timeline, name change, mental health history) that are consistent across posts and ring true for a desister/detransitioner.
About me
I started transitioning to live as a man over a decade ago as a traumatized young woman who just wanted to escape and start over. My journey was a coping mechanism for mental health struggles and internalized sexism, not because I had an innate discomfort with being female. Last year, I finally admitted I wasn't trans and detransitioned. I've come to see a real beauty in being a woman, which I learned the hard way. I now believe that for many, like me, being trans is a social influence confused with other issues.
My detransition story
My whole journey feels like I woke up from a long, confusing dream. For over ten years, I lived as a trans man, and now I’ve come back to myself as a female. It all started when I was a young, traumatized kid who just wanted to start over. I now realize I never had real gender dysphoria. I never hated my body or felt a deep discomfort with being female. Instead, my transition was a way to cope.
A huge part of why I transitioned was because of what I saw online. I was influenced by gender identity ideology for over a decade. It led me down a path where I was denying my biological sex. I was also dealing with a lot of mental health issues, including depression and anxiety that felt like a form of BPD, which made my sense of identity really unstable. I think for me, being trans was a choice, a way to escape and cope with my problems, not because of an innate feeling.
A big reason I wanted to transition was because of internalized sexism from past abuse. I think I started to believe that being a woman was less than, and that becoming a man was a way to be stronger or escape that pain. I also really hated the misogyny I saw and experienced. It’s so ironic that I ended up in a community that I now see is also deeply misogynistic. As a detransitioned female, I’ve been called a "terf" and silenced, which feels like real oppression. It’s like the movement that promised freedom just brought back female oppression in a new way.
I started by identifying as non-binary back in 2020, but that eventually led to identifying as a trans man. My social transition was a big deal. I even changed my name, but I picked a unisex name and just changed the spelling to a more female version so people could still pronounce it the same. Last year, in late November, I finally admitted to myself that I wasn't trans and came out as a detrans person.
Now, I see the world differently. I’ve learned there’s a real beauty in being a woman, but I had to learn it the hard way, by trying to be a man. I miss the time when you could just be an androgynous woman or a tomboy without everyone insisting you must be non-binary or a trans man. It feels like now there are even stricter gender roles than before, which is sick.
I don’t regret my journey because I learned so much from the pain and tears. No pain, no growth, as they say. But I do regret the damage I did to myself by not listening to the non-affirming people in my life who kept reminding me of my biological sex. They were right. I now believe that being transgender is something that might exist for a tiny minority, but for most people like me, it’s a social influence confused with other mental health issues.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| (Age not specified) | (Started over 10 years ago) | Initially transitioned to live as a man. |
| (Age not specified) | 2020 | Began to question my identity and started identifying as non-binary. |
| (Age not specified) | Late November 2024 | Realized I was not trans and publicly detransitioned back to female. |
| (Age not specified) | Now (2025) | Still sometimes identify as a man in social situations to avoid confusion during my detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/ricksalterego:
Wow! Exactly why I don’t trust therapist no more. If you got mental health issues better do your own research instead of going to therapist, or at best find a bette therapist but still take their opinion with a grain of salt.
I’m female my styles are edgy and I love color black, and I’m quite androgynous I missed the time we can identify as androgynous and am not too obsessed with labels.
I feel like the world is more sexist than ever and there’s even more strict gender roles now a days which is sick !
That’s so ironic I thought it’s a leftist feminist thing… but yeah I get why feminist are fighting against this because this movement is erasing female or woman. It’s misogynistic! Also I hated how now you cannot be a tomboy anymore it’s being erased you’re either a nonbinary or trans man if you’re a tomboy.
“Just like waking up from a long dream or getting away from a blurry phase of our life. And then we ask ourselves "what on earth am I doing?" and realized how wrong and out of reality it is.”
Yeah this is a hundred percent my case, and gender dysphoria if it’s subjective then it’s most likely confused with other mental health disorder like BPD or autism, I do have depression and anxiety as some form of BPD but being trans is more likely a cope for me. Making me not knowing who I am or have a stable sense of identity. But yeah I have zero gender dysphoria cause I never hate or feel discomfort with my body to begin with.
Fuck I wanna fucking cry !!! Me too buddy !
All I want is to pass as a girl, I’d even choose my best to dress provocatively and sexily just to pass LOL it’s my second transition !
I can’t fucking imagine you’d gone that far!
Sorry I have a bad day forgive my dramatic speech.
Yeah indeed it brought back female oppression and I find this is so backwards.
I’d faced a lot of misogyny in this community ; such as being called a terf, this is REAL OPPRESSION! Cause being a detrans female I think I’m the most oppressed type of person. I can’t even have a say on the trans issue or being gender critical !
It enforces female oppression again!
I’d faced a lot of misogyny in this community ; such as being called a terf, this is REAL OPPRESSION! Cause being a detrans female I think I’m the most oppressed type of person. I can’t even have a say on the trans issue or being gender critical !
Dang! this is sad for me it was more than ten years and I’d changed myself 360! But anyways I have a kinda unisex name I just changed it to the female version of the name - for instance Danny/Danni, this is how I do it! People still pronounce my name the same.
OP here !
To begin with I’m not trans anymore (forgot to mention that) I just detransitioned like a few months ago, but still identifies as a man in some social occasions because I don’t want people to get confused still on my detrans journey.
I’m just here asking a random question.
Not forgot to mention the reason why I transition has to do with the “gender identity ideology” I saw online too leading me down a 10 plus year transition ; I’d damaged myself only awakening up because my non affirming people kept telling me and reminding me of my biological sex… etc
I knew all of a sudden I’m not trans or nonbinary at all. It’s simply a cope. I DO NOT have gender dysphoria.
Let’s all agree on a grander scale that social influence aspect is so real.
Yeah it’s definitely something I haven’t seen there’s beauty in everything but I learn this in a hard way LOL hope you get my point my point is I’d learned the beauty of being a woman after being a man. Hope this make sense.
No pain no growth, I learn my lessons through all the tears and pain.