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About me
I was born female and as a teenager, I became deeply uncomfortable with my body and being a woman, so I transitioned to male for seven years. I had surgeries and took testosterone, believing it was my only path to happiness, but I eventually realized I could never actually become male and was tired of fighting my biology. I deeply regret my hysterectomy, a permanent decision I made when I was too young, which has left me infertile. Now, I am detransitioning, taking estrogen, and working to feel comfortable again as a woman. I'm learning self-acceptance and building a new life focused on my mental health.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was long and complicated. I was born female, and as a teenager, I became incredibly uncomfortable with my body. I hated the attention that came with being a girl and I really disliked my breasts. I felt like I just didn't want to be a woman at all. I enjoyed masculine things and loved being seen as a guy. At the time, I truly believed I was a man trapped in a woman's body.
I now see that a lot of my feelings were just a normal part of puberty. I think most teens, especially girls, feel uncomfortable with their changing bodies, but I coped with it differently. I started to transition socially and then medically. I was on testosterone for seven years. I also had top surgery and a complete hysterectomy, which included the removal of my ovaries.
For a long time, I thought this was the only way to feel better. But after many years, I had a kind of "click" moment. I realized that no matter how much testosterone I took or how many surgeries I had, I would never actually become male. Medicine has its limits. I saw that I was always going to be dysphoric because there would always be something else to fix. I was tired of fighting my biology and I was always anxious that people would find out I was trans.
I don't regret transitioning because I think I needed to go through it to get to where I am now, but I do have some big regrets. I completely regret the hysterectomy. It was an elective surgery I didn't need, and I was only about 20 years old. I wasn't mature enough to make such a permanent decision. Now I am infertile and have to use synthetic hormones for the rest of my life.
I've been detransitioning now for over ten months. It's been a lot of work to feel comfortable again. I've been focusing on small, attainable goals for myself, like growing my hair back, losing the weight I gained on testosterone, and getting laser hair removal for my beard. I take estrogen now because of my hysterectomy. I had a lot of hair loss from testosterone, but I've recovered about 80% of my hairline using treatments like oral minoxidil and biotin.
My views on gender have changed. I now see gender dysphoria as a psychiatric condition, similar to something like anorexia. I think the focus should be on self-acceptance and mental health care, rather than immediately affirming the idea that you can become the opposite sex. For me, transition was treated as the only solution, but it wasn't the right one.
I'm focusing on building a life now where I feel more in control. I plan to eventually move somewhere new where no one knows my past, so I can have some peace of mind. I'm learning to be kind to myself and to see myself as a woman, even though I have a low voice and a male name on my documents. It's a slow and difficult road, but I feel like I'm finally doing the right thing for me.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13-14 | Started feeling severe discomfort with female puberty and being seen as a girl. |
| 15-16 | Began social transition to male. |
| 16 | Started testosterone (T). |
| 20 | Underwent a complete hysterectomy with oophorectomy (removal of ovaries). |
| 23 | Had top surgery. |
| 24 | Had a "click" moment and realized I needed to stop transitioning. |
| 24 | Stopped testosterone after 7 years and began detransitioning. Started taking estrogen. |
| 24-25 | Began laser hair removal and focused on hair regrowth and weight loss. |
| 25 | Underwent breast augmentation surgery. |
Top Comments by /u/riprovevole:
The way that I see it, it's a mental illness — like others such as anorexia for an instance. The thing is that with the way medicine and social media 'advanced', instead of focusing on self acceptance and feeling better about yourself, people are deemed to believe they can become the opposite sex and pushed into transition as the gold standard treatment and get affirmance that this is the right thing to do.
I truly believed in it for several years and deemed transition to be extremely necessary at that point of my life. Although it wasn't right for me, I don't think it's my place to put my opinion regarding other people decisions.
With that being said, I do view gender dysphoria as a psychiatric condition (as I did when I 'was' trans, but thought that transition was the only thing I could do to alleviate my pain) that is getting treated with mutilation instead of mental health care.
I completely regret the hysterectomy. It was an elective surgery that I didn't need, and I have now to buy and use synthetic hormones for the rest of my life as my ovaries were also removed in the process. I was like 20, nowadays I look back and definitely wasn't mature enough to make such a big decision.
Hey dear, I've been through something similar, and what I did was this — first and foremost, I always started the conversation by THANKING those who supported me. I said that they support was essential to my well being, as I thought I was doing what was best for me at that time. And then I proceed to tell them that I don't feel 'trans' anymore, and that I'm okay with being who I am now — I don't need to be 'stuck 'at that label forever. You can adapt this with your words, I haven't had an issue with anyone I told this so far, and I was very nervous/anxious as well Wish you the best
Hello, I was on T for 7 years. Coming out of T I was able to lose a lot of weight (13kgs in 7 months, I now have a 20.3 BMI ), but that has been allied with a very strict diet and I plan on exercising soon. Getting your hormonal levels checked every few months is a wise idea once you decide to detransition. You don't need to go to the same doctor who prescribed you hormones, but definitely find a professional who is knowledgeable and willing to help you. If you need anyone to talk to, my inbox is open, best of luck to you :)
Hey, may I ask how long did it take for the hairs to fall off after your treatment? I just had my first session 8 days ago and so far there hasn't been any results. As far as if it's normal or not, I'm not sure, but you have some great results, happy for you!
Hello,
I was on T for seven years and have been detransitioning for ten months now. It has definitely taken me a lot of time and WORK to look female again, but now I look undeniably female even with my male name (that I haven't been able to change yet because the legal system in my country is awful) and my low voice, even if I wear men's clothes. What I did was to pick certain female role models that I liked and based off my style out of it — this helped a lot. I do invest a fair amount of time on hair products for growth/hair loss, skin care and taking care of myself. I experienced hair loss during T and was able to revert it. It was a bit gruesome to practice self care at first, but now I feel very good about it. Eyebrows, hair and nice skin goes a long way. In this meantime I've been to the endocrinologist twice to see about my levels / E dosage since I no longer have ovaries. Even if you didn't have a hysterectomy, it'd be good to do a blood panel to see where you are at and if there are any issues that might be causing an imbalance for you. Hang in there, be kind to yourself and give yourself some time to heal. Feel free to message me if you need a friend to talk or rant.
I was also on T for 7 years, and I can relate to your experience a bit. Last year I had a "click" that I didn't have to be trans anymore (I don't know how else I could put it, I just felt like while I was fine as a guy, I didn't have to do that anymore) — though I also felt the realization that no matter how much hormones or extra surgeries I took, I wouldn't become male. I started taking estrogen and building small goals for myself (getting nice hair, losing the weight I gained on T, beard removal and so on) and it has been a very slow and difficult road but I feel like I'm doing the right thing. I hope your journey goes well, I'm here if you need to talk!
Hello, I suggest looking into padded bras if this is something that is really bothering you. You could layer a couple of bras for extra volume — most likely you'll have something discreet but noticeable. They also sell silicone boobs for crossdressers and stuff, personally I didn't feel like this was for me, but it's an option depending on the kind of clothes you want to wear.
There are certain points and questions that I feel that for me, were important. I feel that I transitioned not necessarily because 'I was a man in a woman's body'(though I did believe that at the time), but because I just didn't want to be a woman. I didn't want to be seen as a woman or a girl and liked more masculine things. I didn't like the attention I was starting to get and truly enjoyed getting seen as a guy. I was really dysphoric about every little detail of my body. What I realized (many years later) is that most teens are uncomfortable with their bodies, especially girls, and I just coped with that differently. Several years after my transition (I've medically transitioned and took T for 7 years) I just realized that I was always going to be dysphoric. There would always be a next surgery to do, or something that I was unhappy about, because honestly it's impossible to really become male, medicine has its limits and things often go wrong. I didn't detransition because I no longer wanted to be male, but I was tired and sick of trying to fight my biology and was always worried people would find out I was trans. Nowadays I feel I have a lot more control over my body and more attainable goals for myself. If you are unsure, maybe (?) you could go on hormone blockers instead of T, which is very aggressive on the body. Whatever you do, I genuinely wish you good luck on your journey!!
Yes, if I think a relationship is going anywhere I disclose it in the first date —mainly because I had surgeries and am infertile, so if the other person has a problem about it, I'd rather not waste both of our time.
So far I haven't had a problem with it, I'll say that I keep it vague and distant though and really filter the person before bringing this up (I would not date a transphobic person).