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About me
I was born female and my journey started after I went through conversion therapy, which made me feel terrible about being a lesbian. I began identifying as a gay trans man and started testosterone, but the medical process was careless and my life became risky and traumatic. I detransitioned because I had to finally admit the identity I built wasn't real, and I stopped hormones in 2020. I now live fully as a woman again, working in a feminine field and dating women, but I'm still healing from internalized shame. My voice is permanently changed, and I'm learning to make peace with the permanent effects of that time.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition is deeply tied to my sexuality and a lot of internal confusion. I was born female and before I ever thought about transitioning, I was only ever attracted to other women. But when I was around 13 or 14, I was put through Lutheran conversion therapy. Coming out of that, I felt gross about being a lesbian and I started to identify as a gay trans man. It was like I latched onto this completely different identity to escape the feelings that therapy gave me.
I was on testosterone for years. The process of getting on T was way too easy; I got no real instructions on how to inject, discard needles, or the side effects. My T levels were never even checked. I got my prescription from a holistic therapy place, which felt really shady. I lived as a gay trans guy and had a lot of risky and traumatic experiences with men because of the way I was portraying myself. My identity became a hyperfixation and I got really into gay male culture.
But I always knew, internally, that I was bisexual. I just wasn't living that truth. The whole reason I detransitioned was because I finally had to admit that men don't get pregnant. I was so deep into this identity that I had created for myself, and it wasn't real. I started detransitioning in 2020 by just slowly presenting more feminine. I only told a few people; I started a new job and moved without ever disclosing my past. I don't really talk about detransitioning with people because even my LGBT friends don't get it.
I don't regret transitioning because I think younger me was just trying to run from how the world views women, especially being conventionally attractive and sexualized every day. But I do have regrets about the medical side of it. My voice is permanently deep from testosterone, and while that bothers me sometimes, I've learned to live with it. I also have some serious unresolved issues about internalized misogyny that I’m still working through. I viewed my own female body as useless for a long time, and that’s something I’m healing from.
Now, as a detransitioned woman, I'm openly bisexual but I exclusively date women. I work in a very feminine field doing hair, makeup, and nails, which is ironic considering my past. Exploring femininity again felt performative and uncomfortable at first, just like exploring masculinity had been when I transitioned. I'm still fighting off the gross feeling I got from conversion therapy about trying to date women as a woman.
I benefited from stepping away from the whole identity politics thing. I refuse to be a political pawn for either side of the debate. My experience is my own.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
Age | Event |
---|---|
13-14 | Put through Lutheran conversion therapy. |
14 | Began identifying as a gay trans man. |
15 | Started testosterone therapy. |
15-22 | Lived socially and medically as a trans man. |
22 | Began detransitioning, stopped testosterone. |
23 | Living fully as a detransitioned woman. |
Top Comments by /u/riverspiritscorpio:
Literally every trans man from my hometown was the stereotyped blue haired corset and skirt wearing but on T kind of FTM. Most of the reason why I went so masc during my transition lmfao.
Yes all of them have detransitioned and married regular ol gamer dudes. Weird phenomenon imo. No hate to anyone, we all make our own choices.
I hate when these made up statistics come out for people to weaponize. Like you said, I know a bunch of detrans people irl (most who never medically transitioned) but just being that most of the trans identifying people I know detransed. It has to be a bigger number.
But also, look what happens to detrans women (i haven't seen a ton of open detrans men in the media) who come forward about it. Their story and life is always hijacked by right wingers and left wingers alike to try to discredit each other. No one cares about actual detrans individuals, its all still about whether trans people's feelings are hurt by detrans people or whether trans people deserve rights at all.
It's just gross. That's why only a couple people in my life know about it. I refuse to be a political pawn 🤷♀️
Yeah.. I used to have a lot of friends in certain (toxic) video game competitions and can't interact with any of them anymore because like half of them in this very male dominated game are now "uwu dress go spinny, I'm just a widdle transbian" identifying. And of course they can't just want to feel more comfortable looking feminine, all of their twitters are plastered with "femboy breedable trad wife" (literally quoting someone's bio). No effort put into passing except wearing mini skirts to local events. It's disgusting I'm sorry. People and their public kinks have gone too far.
No offense but that female body you keep calling useless is keeping you alive every single day. I would suggest getting some form of intense therapy before getting pregnant because you very obviously internally hate women. If you have dysphoria you're not going to magically love your pregnant female body.
Also surrogates have to be completely open about doctors visits and things like that, do you really want the body parts you've hated actively for years to be the center of your life for a year?
I'm not trying to be mean but you said your identity revolves around a persona you created at 13, definitely get that sorted out first. No one this uncertain about this stuff should be trying to get pregnant sorry.
I detransitioned by just slowly presenting more feminine. I only specifically told like 3 people but other than that, it went fine. Started a new job and moved without ever disclosing how I had identified as trans just a couple months earlier. Everyone has a different path with this stuff, it's totally understandable to want to go forward not acknowledging the past trans identity. Just live your life 💗
I've been wanting to make a post like this for awhile, my process getting on t was WAYYY too easy. I'm not sure about you but I got no info or instructions about injecting, discarding needles, or side effects. I definitely never had my "t levels checked". Super bizarre that a life changing hormone can be so unregulated. I think how shady it all felt put me off before detransitioning ever even crossed my mind.
And the way that this treatment isn't connected to therapy makes no sense to me. It takes 15 minutes for doctors to say "yeah you're definitely trans for life" when they don't even challenge you on the identity.
Letting teens inject themselves with anything new without supervision is nuts.
This. It was said to be so hard to get on hormones when really all of my trans friends got on hormones through a,,,, MEDITATION/REIKI/HOLISTIC THERAPY place. No idea how that was even legal or allowed but yeah. My roommate got his e prescription after one session.
The detrans to right wing bigot pipeline seems mostly made up by both political sides to divide our experiences from "real" trans people.
Like sorry I didn't detransition to be told by right wing men that oh good I'm back to reality time to find a husband and get in the kitchen and pop out a nuclear family. (Which is totally fine if you DO detransition for a more traditional family, one big reason for me was having a family in the future but I still don't hate trans people or live on extreme 1950s gender norms lol)
On the other side though I didn't detransition so I could live my life patting trans people on the back for doing basic shit or make them feel better collectively about my experiences.
I've been bullied by trans men and cis lesbians after opening up about detransitioning. I'm afab too (and went the ultra feminine detrans route) so when people find out about my history they assume I have a dick and start basically going after me for being a trap in their eyes. Has a cis straight dude EVER thought I had a dick or been on T? No absolutely not lol.
I'm not sure why you're getting so defensive when you're asking for advice. No you don't sound like you're in a good space to be a surrogate because pregnancy isn't just "pushing it out". It's heightened emotions for 9 months surrounding your birth sex. It sounds like you're trying to prove something to yourself by using your body to it's "fullest extent" for monetary gain. That's not healthy. There are plenty of other ways to make money and there are plenty of other ways to accept being born female.
And yes,,, delusionally thinking you're a man does affect the thought process with getting pregnant for any reason. It's literally why I detransitioned. Men don't get pregnant.