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The comments express a consistent, nuanced, and emotionally resonant perspective. The user identifies as a gender-nonconforming (GNC) woman discussing the trauma of female puberty and societal misogyny, which aligns with the experiences of some desisters who detransition for feminist reasons. The arguments are complex, self-reflective, and contain personal anecdotes, which are difficult for bots to fabricate consistently. The passion and anger present are appropriate given the topic and the user's stated experiences.
About me
I'm a female computer engineer, and my gender distress started with the trauma of female puberty, when I began to envy male bodies. I believed my female body was the problem, especially as I felt constantly underestimated in my male-dominated field. I eventually realized the issue wasn't my body but the misogynistic way society treats women. After identifying as non-binary, I came to understand my feelings were rooted in internalized sexism, not a male identity. I am now a gender non-conforming woman, learning to accept my body while challenging the sexist world we live in.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started with a deep discomfort during puberty. I was born female, and when my body started changing, it felt like a traumatic experience. I saw boys my age getting taller, stronger, and faster, while I felt like I was just accumulating fat in places that made me feel like an object. It was exhausting and I felt more vulnerable than ever. I remember feeling intense envy towards males because their bodies seemed so much better and easier to live in. I really hated being a woman.
For a long time, I believed my body itself was the problem. I felt that after puberty, people—both men and women—no longer saw me as a full human being but as something lesser, a complement to men. Society teaches us to see women that way, and it’s a deeply misogynistic view that everyone internalizes. My body felt like it wasn't for me to use and enjoy, but for others to look at.
A big part of my experience was working in a male-dominated field. I'm a computer engineer, and it was incredibly draining to constantly feel underestimated and like I had to prove myself twice as much. I saw how men were often celebrated for entering female-dominated spaces, while women in my field were overlooked. This reinforced my feeling that to be a woman was to be seen as lesser.
Over time, my perspective shifted. I started to realize that the problem wasn't my female body. My body is perfectly functional and capable of carrying me through life. The problem was how society and I myself had learned to look at it. I began to understand that puberty discomfort wasn't about being in the wrong body, but about being in a body that the world suddenly starts treating differently and often poorly. Learning about feminism was crucial for me. I wish I had known about it before puberty; it would have saved me so much pain.
I never medically transitioned. My journey was entirely a social and internal one. I identified for a time as non-binary because the box of "woman" felt so restrictive and painful due to all these societal pressures. But I came to see that my desire to escape being a woman was rooted in internalized misogyny and a deep discomfort with how women are treated, not in having a male gender identity.
I don't regret exploring these feelings, because it led me to a place of greater self-acceptance. I’m starting to accept my body as it is. Our female bodies are beautiful in their own way. I don't have to love every part of it, but I'm learning not to hate it. The goal isn't to have a masculine body; it's to achieve your life goals with the body you have.
I now see myself as a gender non-conforming (GNC) woman. I've always gotten along better with boys, and that's okay. There are many of us, and we can find community and support with each other. My thoughts on gender now are that it's often a reflection of these painful social realities. For me, transitioning wasn't the answer; changing my perspective and challenging the sexist world we live in was.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| During Puberty | - | Experienced intense discomfort and trauma with female puberty, envying male physical development. |
| Early 20s | 2020 | Came to the realization that my body was not the problem, but rather societal misogyny and internalized self-hatred. Began identifying as a gender non-conforming woman and found acceptance. |
Top Comments by /u/riyuma11:
Yea I see puberty as a fucking traumatic experience for women
You see how men start to grow. They are suddenly taller, faster, stronger and you as a woman just start to accumulate fat in random places that make people look at you as if you were suddenly a fucking object. More vulnerable than ever.
I really hate being a woman but I'm starting to accept my body as it is. Our body is beautiful in its own way I guess
I think that's totally normal
They literally have a better body. They are stronger, faster, taller, thinner (don't accumulate so much fat), etc.
I've always been envious of them. To live as a woman is a fucking exhausting experience in all of fucking senses.
or you can just accept that heigh is not that of a problem and you can perfectly survive without life threatening cosmetic operations??
It's not that our body is the problem, it's how society and ourselves look at it.
You don't need to be tall or strong or overall have a masculine body to achieve your life goals in most cases. You have a perfect functioning body with its good things and bad things than can carry you wherever you want. I don't say that you have to absolutely love your body, just don't hate it.
That's not true. For example, look at the top 10 beauty youtubers, 50/50 men and women. That does not happen in stem. As a computer engineer I can tell you that women are really underestimated and it's really draining to work in that field. You always have to prove yourself and it's really difficult to escalate without people thinking it's because you're a woman and not because of your skills.
Everytime a man enters in a "female" field suddenly becomes the master in that field. Look at chefs, the most known chefs are males, look at the fashion business, almost all the known designers are males.
Also, look at the CEOs of almost every company, they are always males. You can't deny the obvious representation of women in media and everywhere as dumb and infantilized sexual objects.
Men suffer too because of the sexist view we have of the world, but they suffer when are viewed somehow as femenine, because to be a woman or look like one is bad. The reason why women mock on "weak, femenine" men is because of their own misogyny.
That's a really sexist and misogynist vision of our world. Look at schools, look at grades. Girls always score better in literally everything (maths, pyshics, everything). When puberty arrives, in the western world, girls grades in sciences start to fall (not weird given the situation I've described before), but not in asian countries for example. Also, there aren't studies that show differences between male and female brains. All that you've exposed are stereotypes that are unsustainable once you enter the real world and meet both men and women.
You can say women are not CEO's because as you've said women are dumber, but that's a little unfair given the fact that less than 100 years ago women were nothing but slaves for men. There are a lot of studies that show that people see women as dumber and you happen to. Women are just starting to play in this game.
Just one thing, if you think all of that you've said about women, you probably haven't met a lot of women. I've met a lot of men given my career path (my best friends are all men) and I can confirm that no, they are not smarter or more interested in hobbies than I am or most women that I've met. What I've observed is that they usually see themselves as far more intelligent that they are. Like always.
Call it whatever, the thing is that everyone (men and women) no longer see you as a human being of the same category as theirs. I know this can sound stupid but both men and women are misogynist. Society educate us to see women as lesser, as a complement of the main human that is a man.
After puberty your body suddenly is more visible than the rest of your traits and it's not even a body that you like. It's not a strong body, it's not a body you can use for yourself but an object for the rest to contemplate.
Me too, but in that moment, during puberty, I felt that way, and I think a lot of other women too. Not because it makes sense, but because the world teach us to think that way. It's so sad, really.
That's why we need all women to know about feminism. I wish someone would have taught me about all of this before puberty.
yea I totally empathize with you
as a gnc woman I've always get along better with boys and I totally get the different treatment and it sucks BUT don't worry because there are a lot of us (gnc men and women) and believe me, that's the people you should seek for