Because they’re insecure and afraid that it can happen to them. Deep down they know that their whole identity is fabricated and they go to extreme lengths to validate themselves so when they see people accepting themselves and not needing to be trans anymore they get scared because they realize that they could do that too but they’re so terrified of it all having been a waste that they would rather double down on their transition by trying to find any way to invalidate a detransitioned person, either by telling them they weren’t trans or didn’t have real dysphoria like them (even though there’s no difference between them and the detrans person, and the detrans person was clinically diagnosed with it). They try to act like every detrans person was just misguided and naive and not like them, even though they are just misguided and naive they are in denial about it. Most trans people are very insecure with their identities which is why they demand to be validated at all times. Detransition invalidates the need to be trans or have that identity So they feel it invalidates them personally. They’re afraid that the public won’t take them seriously anymore once they see detrans regret and that they won’t be able to access their precious hormones and surgeries which they have convinced themselves they need desperately in order to survive. Of course they don’t actually need to transition but they’re so mentally ill they’re irrational and convince themselves the only way to be happy is to transition. Of course many times transition doesn’t help in the long run and they feel empty and sad still which is why the trans suicide rate actually increases after surgery. They might feel happy that they finally accomplished their huge goal of transition but it wears off in a few months or years which is usually when people detransition. Basically, they’re insecure, afraid, and don’t want to accept that they too could live as their true sex if they put in the mental work.

Yeah a trans friend of mine said they didn’t want me doing “terf activism” when I told him that I was doing a project raising awareness for detransitioned people. Like fuck you dude, not everything is about you. I just want detrans people to feel more of a community. It has nothing to do with any “terf” positions.

I think my parents weren’t that worried because they knew how mentally ill and suicidal I was. They thought that surgery might make me less sad. They really didn’t know much about transition and of course it goes much deeper than I even thought. Honestly fuck the trans activists spreading this propaganda about how surgery saves the lives of suicidal young people

I’ve become very involved with radical feminism so I look down a lot on many aspects of the trans community. I never liked it actually, even when I was trans I thought people were obnoxiously politically correct. So I didn’t feel much belonging there, so I didn’t have much to lose when I detransitioned. I’ve considered going to an ftm support group in my city and discussing my story, but I fear the transphobic accusations and don’t have a super thick skin. Even if I don’t get political, I don’t think people would like me in their space. I emailed the so called staff of the group about whether most were ftms in the group or if there were many GNC as well, and they never got back. I really don’t think trans people like or care about detrans people, even though they’ve gone through many of the same things.

All your ideas of being a girl are sexist. There is no one way to be a human being, male or female. Different cultures value different things for you based on your sex. If you’ve been made fun of your whole life for your perfectly healthy behaviors as a sensitive or softer man, then it seems very obvious why you’d resent your sex and want to escape into a fantasy of womanhood. But it will always just be that, a fantasy. You will NEVER understand what it’s like to be a woman physically or emotionally or socially. You do seem to understand some of these things, but you are depressed and long for radical change. But if you transitioned, you wouldn’t actually be changing the root of the issues, you’d only be moving around them. Your depression will continue unless you radically accept yourself for what you are in reality. That’s what I learned after transition didn’t help me feel any better about myself (ftm). I radically accepted myself as a unique woman who conforms to no gender stereotypes or norms. Who is always seen as odd or not fitting in anywhere. The reality is that I don’t fit in these boxes not because there’s anything wrong with me, but because the boxes are too small. It’s fine to have mostly female friends. You need to be around people who understand and accept you and don’t try to change you. Frankly, you need to do a lot of hard work to change your mental perceptions of yourself and stop feeling ashamed for how others have disrespected you for being different. Your masculinity is valid. Just because you practice it differently doesn’t make you less of a man. It certainly doesn’t make you more of a woman either. Also, it does sound like AGP plays a large role. It’s fine to have fantasies, but don’t build your entire identity around a fantasy.

Most of what I see here is positive and helpful. I’d say stick around, ignore the trolls, and report them. There’s lot of advice detrans people have to give each other. There’s also secret Facebook groups for detransitioners that are very nice. Message me privately if interested

Yeah this sounds like me. I wish I would have gotten actual proper treatment for my self hate when I told my variety of therapists of my trans feelings. But it seems like everyone’s too afraid not to validate the gender bullshit. I don’t even trust doctors anymore because if they’re incompetent enough to allow transition how can I assume they know enough to treat my real problems

Good for you for accepting your body and working through your issues in therapy. I think in time you’ll start leaning more towards one side or another and decide if it’s right to detransition. You can do things in small steps and see if it makes much difference. You don’t have to one day just deconstruct everything and go back to presenting as a man. You could gradually focus less on presenting as a woman. To me it sounds like you’re leaning more towards the side of living as a feminine gay man. I know that a big thing for me when I was in the middle of detransition was thinking openly about people perceiving me as a woman vs a gay man on Grindr. I got to the point of feeling weird if someone tried to refer to me as a “bro” on there. I stopped seeking gay guys and focused only on bisexual men. I got a lot more responses and felt much more comfortable.

I agree with you, I think she just has body issues and that transition would be bad for her. I really felt like my big boobs got in the way of my masculine aesthetic too and that was the biggest reason I had top surgery. I wish I just gotten a breast reduction and not have had them removed. It sounds like she’s trying to escape from some past traumas by focusing on the sex as the problem but the sex isn’t the problem at all; the traumas are. I don’t think wearing a binder is horrible if you wear a good one but it does make it a lot harder to accept your body and get used to it.

That’s how I felt after a traumatic even that caused me ptsd. I lost my sense of self, identity, and self concept. I felt like I had no soul. So rightfully, I stopped caring about transition and when I eventually started to feel things again, I realized I didn’t need any of the trans bullshit, and never went back. Now I’m way more connected with myself and have a better sense of identity. Sometimes you need to deconstruct yourself completely in order to rebuild a better version