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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account "roseswilted" appears authentic.
There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic user. The comments show:
- Personal, detailed narratives about trauma, dysphoria, and the detransition/desistance process.
- Emotional consistency with a detransitioner's perspective, including anger at being misunderstood and relief in self-acceptance.
- Natural language with varied sentence structure and personal reflections that are difficult to automate.
The account's behavior is consistent with a genuine desister who did not medically transition but socially identified as transgender before detransitioning.
About me
I started transitioning because I hated my body and was sure I was a man, but I was really misjudging my trauma from homophobia and sexism for dysphoria. I thought becoming a man would make me comfortable, but it only made society more comfortable with me. During quarantine, I realized my discomfort was social and triggered by how men viewed me, not my actual body. I've stopped testosterone and recently felt a huge relief being called 'she' again, which was a weight off my shoulders. I don't regret my journey because it brought me to a place of peace and self-understanding.
My detransition story
My whole journey started because I hated my body and felt completely disgusted by it. I was 100% sure I was a man. Looking back, I now see that I was misjudging my trauma for dysphoria. I had been a victim of homophobia and sexism my whole life from my family and my peers. I thought that becoming a man would make me more comfortable with myself, but the truth is, it just made society more comfortable with me. It was a way to escape the way people treated me as a female.
A huge moment for me was during the quarantine. Being forced to stay inside and not see anyone made me realize that most of my dysphoria was social. It was triggered by how strangers, specifically men, viewed me. When I was completely alone, I felt a lot more comfortable with my body. I wasn't being seen as a man by strangers, which is supposed to be the most euphoric feeling for trans people, but for me, it was a source of my anxiety. That realization was life-changing. It was like waking up from a coma. All those years of worrying and hiding myself away suddenly made sense in a different way.
I also really related to the feeling of finally being okay with being called "she/her" again. For the longest time, being called that would ruin my entire week. I'd hide away, shut people out, and even lash out. But when it happened again recently—because I was wearing a mask and the person couldn't tell—I felt fine with it. I almost cried happy tears. It was such a weight off my shoulders, a real relief.
Another thing that bothered me during my transition was how I was treated. Even in so-called progressive communities, I was treated as a trans man and not a "real man." That was really disheartening and upsetting to realize.
My thoughts on gender now are complicated. I think a lot of my struggle was about trauma and how society treats women, not an innate sense of being male. I don't regret my transition because it was a necessary part of my journey to get to where I am now, which is a place of much more peace and self-understanding. I don't think I would have figured this out without going through it. But I do regret not looking deeper into my feelings and the reasons behind them sooner.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 19 | Started socially transitioning to male. Began using he/him pronouns and binding. |
| 20 | Started testosterone. Felt it was necessary to be seen as a "real man." |
| 21 | Underwent top surgery. Felt immense pressure to do so to complete the transition. |
| 22 | Quarantine began. Had major realizations about social vs. body dysphoria while isolated. |
| 22 | Stopped taking testosterone. Began the process of detransitioning. |
| 23 | Felt comfortable being called "she/her" again for the first time. A moment of great relief. |
Top Comments by /u/roseswilted:
My moment was actually triggered by the quarantine going on
Where I am we have to stay inside unless it's for essential items which led to me staying at home and not seeing anybody at all. I realized most of my dysphoria is social and was triggered by how strangers (specifically men) viewed me. I actually felt a lot more comfortable with my body being alone than I was being in public and being seen as a man by strangers (which, according to most trans people, is the most euphoric feeling in the world). This realization was so life-changing for me as well; all those years of worrying and hiding myself away suddenly became unexplainable (a coma is honestly the best way to describe it, I agree). We're still in quarantine here but once this is over, I think I'll be a lot less obsessed with people viewing me as a man since I realized through this it didn't actually make me feel any better
Misjudging trauma for dysphoria.
I felt utterly disgusted by my body and I was 100% sure that I was a man however I was the victim of homophobia and sexism all my life by my family and peers. I thought being a man made me more comfortable with myself but in reality, it just made society more comfortable with me instead.
I relate to your story a lot. It’s really disheartening to be treated as a trans man, and not a “real man” especially by communities who consider themselves progressive and woke. It really upset me just the same way to realize that. You’re so brave for sharing this and my DMs are always open if you want someone to talk to <3
I really relate to you
The feeling of finally feeling okay with being labelled "she/her" is such an unexplainable relief. I used to also think it was the worst possible thing in the world, it would actually ruin my entire week, I'd hide myself away, I'd shut people out, I'd even lash out at people. I was also called she/her again recently for the first time in basically a year (wearing a mask so you know, hard to tell) and I felt fine with it, I almost cried happy tears. It was such a weight off my shoulders
Thanks for sharing, you are definitely not alone in this and I wish you well
I’ve seen people say trans women are more visible and therefore more liable to attacks but most trans women I’ve encountered pass 100%. Some straight cis men are scared of accidentally sleeping with someone who has/had a penis, so that’s where a lot of the hatred comes from. The documentary “Disclosure” on Netflix kind of dives into that subject. Needless to say, I’ve come across too many men who make anti-trans women jokes and literally no women who make any so I think that’s a big reason why, especially with more men running media