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Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags indicating it is a bot or an inauthentic detransitioner/desister.
The comments display a consistent, nuanced, and deeply personal narrative that evolves over time (e.g., uncertainty about past dysphoria). The user shares specific, plausible life experiences (trauma, medical history, social pressures) and offers detailed, empathetic advice that aligns with a genuine lived experience. The passion and criticism expressed are consistent with someone who feels harmed by their transition.
About me
I'm a female who started transitioning at 13 because I was deeply unhappy and couldn't accept myself. My journey was heavily influenced by trauma and the social praise I got for being a masculine boy instead of a bullied girl. I was rushed onto testosterone as a teenager without ever addressing my underlying mental health issues. I eventually realized I couldn't outrun my biology and that transition wasn't making me any happier. Now I'm detransitioned, finally learning to love myself and find peace in my own body.
My detransition story
My entire journey with transition and detransition was, at its core, about learning to accept myself. I am female, and that is a fact of my life I can no longer run from. My transition began when I was just 13 years old, not from a place of self-love, but from a deep unhappiness and a complete lack of self-acceptance that I was never taught how to overcome as a child.
A huge part of my struggle came from trauma. I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, and that made it incredibly difficult to accept my body, especially in a sexual context. I also faced a lot of subtle sexism growing up. It was much easier socially to be seen as a ‘normal’ masculine boy than it was to be a ‘weird’ masculine girl. I was bullied and belittled for the latter, but when I presented as male, I received praise, attention, and respect—things I never got as a girl. I now see that my desire to transition was a way to escape that social punishment and gain social approval, not because I had an innate problem with my sex.
When I sought help at 13, the professionals I saw immediately defaulted to transitioning me. I was rushed into it without ever being offered therapy to deal with my pre-existing mental illnesses or the trauma from my abuse. They never presented me with any less permanent or less severe treatment options first. I started living as a boy socially at 13, and by my 15th birthday, I was on testosterone. I was a textbook case: early childhood gender nonconformity, never feeling connected to my sex. I thought it was the obvious answer to becoming happy.
For a while, I thought it was working. But when I became an adult, around 18 to 21, I started to realize that I wasn't any less sad or troubled than I was before. Transition wasn't fixing my underlying problems. I tried to make it work by going off hormones but still identifying as transgender, but that didn't help either. The medical and social stress became overwhelming. It was difficult to travel, date, or even get basic medical care without complications. Most importantly, I still found it difficult to love myself and be alone with my own body.
I never had a moment of questioning "am I really trans?" because I never wanted to be trans; I wanted to be male. My questioning was more practical: "Is this making me happy? Can I live my entire life with this constant stress? Can I love someone and start a family like this?" I eventually realized I was fighting a battle against my own biology that I could never win, and it was wearing me down. That’s what led me to detransition—the realization that accepting my female body was the only path to real peace.
I don’t have what I call sex dysphoria; I’m completely comfortable with my sex characteristics and anatomy now. My regrets are not about the choices I made, but about the system that failed me. I regret that no one helped me unpack my trauma first. I regret that transition was presented as the first and only solution for a deeply unhappy 13-year-old girl. I believe the vast majority of people wanting to transition today, especially young females, are not dysphoric but are dealing with trauma, OCD, depression, or other issues that transition will not fix. My advice to anyone considering it is to sort through all your trauma and psychological issues first. Leave no stone unturned.
Looking back, I see how much I was influenced by the online world and my friends at the time. I went to Pride events as a young teen because everyone else was, but I stopped at 17 after seeing overtly sexualized content around young children, which made me deeply uncomfortable. It felt like something I couldn't criticize at the time.
Now, I am just a female, no additives necessary. Detransitioning started because I am finally learning to accept and love myself as I am, and that is a very positive place to be.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Began living socially as a boy. Professionals immediately recommended transition. |
| 15 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 17 | Stopped attending Pride events due to discomfort with their sexualized nature around children. |
| 18-21 | Began to realize transition was not alleviating my underlying unhappiness and mental health struggles. |
| 23 | Made the decision to detransition and stop fighting my biological sex. |
| Present | Living as a female, focused on self-acceptance and healing from past trauma. |
Top Comments by /u/rotary_rip:
USA-based here. I went to several different pride/LGBT events as a minor as young as 14-15. I stopped going in 2017 when I was 17 years old and in the same span of a few minutes at a city pride event saw the thonged/naked ass of a full grown man, and a mom carting 2 toddlers in a red wagon through a crowd while the toddlers handed out free condoms to passersby.
The only reason I went in the first place was because my friends and parents did and I didn't want to be left out. More often than not they have public sexualization and kids in the same area and it's very disturbing. Especially since I was a kid myself at the time and felt uncomfortable but didn't feel like I could say that I felt uncomfortable because all the adults and authority figures around me encouraged it. Even if it's an event meant specifically for kids like youth summits or LGBT prom alternatives. It's apparently not good enough to just be an accepting prom alternative for non-straight kids, they have to throw in drag shows of grown men crossdressing and stripteasing/erotically dancing for the kids.
Regardless of politics, I'm just glad he's vocally against child transitioning and putting eyes on detransition stories. It's a much much better take than the position other popular streamers/YouTubers took, like when MoistCritikal supported child transition at any age (at all is bad but any age is the bottom of the pit) during his debate with Sneako.
I believe some other fairly big creators like Think Before You Sleep have also been covering this specific video with similar critique and viewpoints of being against child transition.
Detrans/desist visibility definitely seems to be increasing, if only a little bit at a time, and I'm thankful for that much. Hopefully child transition gets criminalized and outlawed in as many parts of the world as possible as soon as possible for the grotesque experimentation that it is.
Neither. I'm not "cis" nor trans. I'm female. Always have been, always will be, no additives necessary. Even if I looked exactly like a male, I'd only be that - looking like one, not actually being one. That realization is what kick-started my detransition. For me, detransitioning started because I am finally starting to accept and love myself as I am, which is a very positive point to begin with. My transition started because I did not accept myself and was never taught how to accept and love myself as a child, which was a very negative point to begin with.
I do not have sex dysphoria since I am completely comfortable with my sex characteristics and anatomy. If anything, the reason I felt the desire to transition in the past was because of:
being a survivor of CSA and COCSA has made it difficult to accept my body especially sexually,
subtle sexism made it difficult for me to feel accepted and respected rather than any kind of "transphobia." I have never experienced violence, abuse, or harassment on the basis of my transition for all my 10 years of having a transgender status. If anything, I have only ever received praise, attention, and respect for it - all things I never had as a girl. It was much easier socially to be a 'normal' and masculine boy than it was being a 'weird' and masculine girl, which I was often bullied, belittled, and exiled from peer groups and social spaces for.
I was never presented any help or therapy for my pre-existing mental illnesses and trauma from sexual abuse, professionals immediately defaulted to transitioning me first when I was just 13 years old. I was rather rushed into it without getting to try other less permanent and less severe treatment options or alternatives first.
It goes without saying that this is merely my own personal case and history.
People of all kinds of transition/detransition statuses, self-labels, histories, and beliefs participate in the detrans sub, I've seen people saying there's 2 genders and people saying there's 100, everyone is free to deliberate and discuss their opinions and findings. But apparently in the trans sub you get banned for even entertaining the thought that detransition can be a good choice for some people? And we're supposed to believe the detrans sub is the "bigoted" and authoritarian one.
Definitely take the advice to enjoy your life, 'cause it sure seems this person isn't enjoying theirs. This kind of passive-aggression only comes from a bitter and miserable mindset without happiness of their own. Very sad.
Regardless of how it looks, it still is a clitoris and a part of your natural female genitalia and is not male genitalia, that may be helpful to keep in mind! Mine is also a little big, 2 or 3 cm in total. In my experience I was the only one who was worried about how it looks, my boyfriend doesn't mind one bit and thought it looked totally fine and normal, and as others have said some people like or even prefer larger clits since there is more to work with and stimulate. Feeling conscious about your clit is absolutely a self-image thing which can make it hard to work through, but it can be worked through and you can do it! :)
Also, I have found soft, cotton-lined, NOT plastic-lined, panty liners to be very helpful and comfortable down there with the sensitivity, as well as regularly cleaning the clitoral hood and underneath it, like at least once a day if not more.
Honestly, I still don't know if I am sex dysphoric or not, which is the word I use when I mean people that deeply desire and believe themselves to be the opposite sex since "trans" means something else these days. I don't know if I ever was dysphoric or not. I can't know for sure, especially when the "specialists" that dish out diagnoses do so so loosely that having a diagnosis these days wouldn't mean anything.
I lived the first 13 years of my life as a very unhappy little girl. I spent the next 10 years as an unhappy little girl pretending to be a boy socially, then with medical transition on my 15th birthday, legally, etc. I was a perfect textbook case too, with early childhood gender nonconformity and never truly understanding or feeling connected to my sex. I thought it was working really well, like it was the obvious and easy answer to becoming happy. When I became an adult around the 18-21 mark, I started realizing it wasn't really working, and I wasn't any less sad or troubled than I was before transition. I still tried to make it work by just going off hormones and remaining "transgender" but that wasn't working either. Transition was just making things worse. It was difficult to travel and go through security checks, it was difficult to date and pursue longterm relationships (as it will be when you dislike your body in any capacity), getting any kind of medical treatment is nerve-wracking because either you have to out yourself or risk getting a dose for the opposite sex that can hurt you. It was still difficult to love myself and enjoy my own company in moments of being alone in a room.
What made me detransition was that transitioning was not making me happy and it was not treating whatever was going on with me, be that dysphoria or something else. I never really had a moment of questioning "am I really trans?", then again I was never very attached to the trans label since I found it ridiculous and dysphoria-inducing and I never wanted to be trans in the first place. I wanted to be male, normally. I instead had moments where I questioned "is transition making me happy? Can I really continue the rest of my life like this, with the constant medical and social stress? Can I truly love myself and someone else and start a family like this?" etc. and I eventually decided to stop fighting my biological sex. It is a tiring battle you can never truly win and it wears you down over the years.
As for the recently growing hordes of people that want to transition, I would say 95% are not actually sex dysphoric and/or would not be helped by transition, especially not females who are naturally feminine and still desire to be treated socially/sexually/romantically/etc. as female. Most people wanting to transition or take on a trans label these days are young females, 10-30ish age range, and most of them have a lot of trauma they are transitioning through instead of unpacking first. Transition will not fix trauma longterm and it will not cure personality disorders, OCD, depression, narcissism, etc. and sadly it is being used as a fix-all. So my advice for anyone wanting to transition is to sort through ALL your trauma and psychological issues first, get checked out as thoroughly as you can and make sure to leave no stone unturned. Having a kind of ego death can work too I think, like staying or working off-the-grid on a ranch for a few months tending to horses and realizing there are more important things in the world than your physical existence and your body, like the other living beings that rely on you and the lives that will continue to go on with or without you and the things they leave behind. The things you will leave behind.