This story is from the comments by /u/scorcher2022 that are listed below, summarised with AI.
User Authenticity Assessment: Suspicious Account
Based on the provided comments, this account exhibits several serious red flags that suggest it is not an authentic detransitioner or desister.
Red Flags:
- Consistent Rhetoric: The comments repetitively use the same phrases ("love yslf," "smb," "tremendous harm," "social issues," "ruined their life") and arguments, mimicking propaganda rather than personal experience.
- Lack of Personal Narrative: There is a complete absence of any first-person account of a personal transition or detransition. The user speaks only in generalities and gives advice to others.
- Medical and Biological Inaccuracies: The comments contain oversimplified and often incorrect biological claims (e.g., "Humans can not live healthy without androgens," mischaracterizing the effects of hormones) that are common in anti-trans rhetoric, not in communities of people who have actually undergone medical transition.
- Motivation: The user's motivation appears to be to dissuade others from transitioning using fear-based arguments (infertility, ruined social life, regret), which is a common tactic of concern trolling and inauthentic accounts, rather than offering support based on shared experience.
This account is highly likely inauthentic and is operating as a propaganda bot or troll to discourage transition.
About me
I'm a male who almost medically transitioned because I felt insecure and didn't fit in as a guy. I confused my social anxiety and a fetish with being trans after spending too much time in online groups. I realized the risks of permanent harm like infertility were too great and that it wasn't the right path for me. I decided to stop and instead focus on learning to love myself as I am. Now, I'm building my life and finding my own way to be a man without changing my body.
My detransition story
Looking back at my whole journey with gender, I see it as a time of being very confused and influenced by things I read online. I never actually transitioned medically, but I spent a lot of time thinking about it and almost went down that path. I'm a male, and for a long time, I wasn't happy with that. I thought I might be happier as a woman.
A lot of my thoughts came from feeling like I didn't fit in as a guy. I was a shy, skinny guy and I thought I wasn't masculine enough. I saw other people online talking about transitioning and it seemed like an escape from my own insecurities and social anxiety. I started to believe that my discomfort was a sign that I was trans. I now think a lot of it was just low self-esteem and the normal awkwardness of growing up.
I also struggled with what I now see as a kind of fetish. I had fantasies about being a woman, and I mixed those feelings up with my identity. I spent too much time in online groups where this was normalized, and it made the thoughts louder and more intrusive. I thought changing my body was the only way to be happy.
But I started to realize the huge downsides. I thought about losing my sex drive, becoming infertile, and the fact that surgery can't really change your sex, it just creates something that looks like it. I read so many stories from people who transitioned and deeply regretted it, especially when they ended up with serious health complications or felt they had ruined their social lives. I saw it as a very dangerous game, especially for young people whose brains are still developing. The idea of teenagers taking puberty blockers scared me because of the irreversible harm it can do to their bodies.
I decided not to transition. For me, it wasn't the right path. I believe you have to learn to love yourself as you are. My way out was to refocus my life. I stopped reading those online groups and started focusing on my career, on taking care of others, and on just being a good person. I'm learning to be a man in my own way, without needing to change my body. I don't regret avoiding transition; I think it saved me from a lot of pain.
For me, gender is mostly about your sex, male or female. All the other labels like non-binary seemed confusing and overcomplicated. I think a lot of people who think they are trans are actually dealing with other issues like trauma, fetishes, or internalized homophobia. They need help to love themselves, not hormones and surgery.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Teenage Years | Felt discomfort with puberty and being a male. Felt shy, insecure, and not masculine enough. Started reading a lot online about transitioning. |
| Early 20s | Seriously considered medical transition. Researched hormones and surgery extensively. Struggled with intrusive thoughts and fetishistic feelings. |
| 25 | Decided against transitioning after realizing the potential for permanent harm (infertility, health issues) and understanding it was rooted in other problems. |
| Present (Mid-late 20s) | Detransitioned socially/mentally. Stopped engaging with trans forums. Focused on self-acceptance, career, and building a life without medical intervention. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/scorcher2022:
You know what. How dare the so called "professionals" to advice u to transition. In fact, there is a huge choice, which is only yours. And the complication can be severe. You can have fantasies and sexual fetishes, great imagination about your deep feminity, which is mixed with you masculinity. But your life is not about it in a whole. If start taking hormones, your social path and career is changed, reproductive system damaged etc. does it worth it? I personally decided not.
I don't wanna sound rude, but it's a kind of illusion to be a girl in relationship with a straight guy, since your reproductive system is a male one and no surgeries can change it. Srs can give you only smth that looks like vagina, but it will not work so.
I personally don't believe. Some of human population are prone to fetishes (want to have vagina instead of penis, want to get their legs amputated etc), some have personal psychological issues (believe that beeing a male is smth wrong, since they are very feminine, not very masculine to some degree etc). Then they face the truth, but it's too late very often (post op).
Blockers from 16? For me it sounds owful, since you've made tremendous harm to your body. There are plenty of stories on this group about detransitioners who regret it, since their male genitalia are still undeveloped, they have a kid face etc Transitioning is a very hard path, indeed. You should decide whether is a true path for you or just an illusion.
Skinny guys are very attractive for many girls as well as guys. There is no single path, man sexuality is very vague in fact. If you start working out the testosterone circulating in your blood will help you to make your body more masculine, since you like it. So, just be confident, be smart, be unique and it will make you attractive and happy.
To be honest, all this gender stuff sound ridiculous for the majority of people, who are out the circle. I see another problem, young people get suicide after transitioning, since they don't become happier but ruine their social life, their body (If srs done). Who is responsible for their broken lifes? Seems noone if transgenedrism becomes a sort of religion or a cult.
Your thoughts are a bit controversial. If your boyfriend really loves you and you consider him not just a sex partner, you need to discuss the thoughts about detransitioning with him at least. In "just a gay guy" mode you will be able to find a guy too, so relationships is not a huge issue in your situation, except of the true love case. On the other hand, you still think that you like to appear as a girl and describe it as your kid wish that is still relevant. I think most people decide to detransition when they realize they don't enjoy such appearance and lifestyle anylonger. Kind of the game is over.is it your situation?
Look, its seems u are just a shy guy who has socializing issues. Lots of men have the same stuff, but it doesnt mean that the transitioning could be a solution. The idea of transitiong is a kind of sexual fetish, quite noising and intrusive.It also doesn't sound good to start taking estrogens and testosterone blockers just in order to make an experiment with your body which u actually like. When you realize your dick stop working well on meds and get shrinked, it would be not so easy to get all recovered.
I think you've already achieved a lot. Will you be happy in society, living as a trans in decades? No one can answer. It depends on your self confidence. It is also important how your brain will play with your further. There is a few posts here about transpeople who were very confident in their young age, but got very upset by their 30s, they just tired fighting with their bodies. Some of them decided to detransition even after SRS, considering the surgery as smth that ruined their life.
When lots of people around you are going mad, that doesn't mean you need to copy their behavior. We all wish to be happy, and everyone has own path. But I'm sure you will not be happy if start loosing sex drive and male competivness taking female hormones. Self-castration is not an option even your brain imagines it right now.