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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic.
There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic user. The comments demonstrate:
- A consistent, passionate, and nuanced perspective aligned with a specific detrans/desister viewpoint.
- Personal anecdotes ("as a desisted female," "fellow rotten girl").
- Varied language, tone, and sentence structure that is complex and context-specific.
- Engagement with niche community slang and concepts (e.g., "The Hole™️," "fujoshis," "AGP").
The user's passion and occasional sharp tone are consistent with a genuine individual who is invested in the subject matter, not indicators of inauthenticity.
About me
I was a teenage girl who felt like I didn't fit in and started hating my body when I developed breasts. I spent a lot of time online where I found a community that encouraged me to see my discomfort as being a man, which felt like an escape from my problems. I socially transitioned and almost medically transitioned, but a therapist helped me see my dysphoria was tied to anxiety and struggling to accept being a lesbian. I realized I was trying to escape my reality and that I could just be a woman who doesn't fit the stereotype. I'm now a female at peace, grateful I didn't make permanent changes and finally comfortable in my own skin.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was a teenager. I was a girl who never really felt like I fit in with what everyone said a "woman" should be. I felt a huge disconnect from my body, especially when I went through puberty and developed breasts. I hated them. I think a lot of this came from a place of low self-esteem and depression. I also started to realise I was attracted to women, and I think some internalised homophobia played a part. I felt like if I couldn't be a "normal" woman who liked men, then maybe I wasn't a woman at all.
I spent a lot of time online, and I was definitely influenced by what I saw there. I got really into yaoi, which are stories about romantic relationships between men. I found a community of other girls who were into the same thing, and many of them were also questioning their gender. It felt like an escape. By identifying as a man, I felt I could distance myself from the parts of being female that made me uncomfortable. I thought that if I was a gay man, my attraction to men would make more sense, or my interest in yaoi would be more acceptable. I now see that was a way to avoid dealing with my real issues.
I started to socially transition in my late teens. I asked people to use a different name and pronouns. I didn't go on hormones or get surgery, but I thought about it constantly. I was convinced that medical transition was the only way to fix the discomfort I felt. Looking back, I'm so grateful I didn't go down that path. I found a therapist who didn't just affirm my feelings but helped me question them. She helped me see that my gender dysphoria was tangled up with other things—my anxiety, my discomfort with misogyny, and my struggle to accept myself as a homosexual female. Tackling those issues was the real key.
I came to understand that nobody really "feels" like a man or a woman in some magical internal way. Gender is just a part of who you are, not a feeling you have to chase. For me, trying to become a man was a form of escapism. I was running from the reality of my body and my life. I realised I could be a woman who doesn't fit the stereotype. I can dress how I want, love who I want, and enjoy the things I like, like yaoi, without having to change my body. Being comfortable with my sex doesn't mean I have to fit into a box.
I don't regret exploring my identity because it led me to a place of much greater self-understanding. But I do regret the years I spent believing I was something I'm not. I regret the pain I caused myself by not addressing the root causes of my pain. I am a female, and I'm finally okay with that. I benefited so much from therapy that wasn't just about affirmation. It saved me from making permanent changes to my body that wouldn't have solved my problems.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14-15 | Started feeling intense discomfort with my body during puberty, hated developing breasts. Felt disconnected from being a "woman." |
| 16-17 | Spent a lot of time online, influenced by communities discussing transition. Realised I was attracted to women and started questioning my gender. |
| 18 | Began social transition, using a different name and male pronouns. Thought seriously about taking testosterone. |
| 19 | Started non-affirming therapy which helped me address underlying depression, anxiety, and internalised homophobia. |
| 20 | Stopped identifying as male (desisted). Came to accept myself as a homosexual female. |
Top Comments by /u/serene-peppermint:
First of all.. fellow rotten girl in the wild!? it's so nice to see that even after detransitioning/desisting, you still like yaoi. I feel like I can't really relate to the other FTMTFs because they end up talking shit about Yaoi when they manage to get out of The Hole™️.
Second of all, true!!! I haaate people in comments of yaoi going "omg so me (I have a vagina)".... do they not realise they are the random girl that shows up for a chapter or two just to be revealed to be a relative? lmao. I don't want to think about pussy when I'm reading yaoi. It's so annoying 🙄 😒
honestly, I'm a female and I don't feel like a woman either. Nobody "feels" their gender, gender is not a feeling or an emotion. It's part of who you are. It's understandable for you to feel such immense disconnect from your gender though, either due to unresolved trauma, or maybe you haven't had the best experience and your gender is the leading "cause" of those experiences, so to speak (being dismissed for being a woman, being the target of misogynistic jokes, sexual harassment, objectification, etc,). do you think your attraction to other women has anything to do with why you feel like a guy?
I think you should find a therapist who will help you figure out that medically transitioning is not the way forward towards self-acceptance. usually, when it comes to dysphoria, there are a lot of other co-morbid disorders that need to be tackled first. try focusing on those first before deciding if transition is right for you
I'm sorry, but idk why this person is coming into a detrans space asking us how to trans better. There are so many spaces for that. If he wants to continue his self-destructive spiral, then that's his problem. If he's not looking for a wake-up call, then I'm not sure why he wanted to post here, asking for advice. This is the best I can give him.
I don't think most men feel much about their bodies. they probably mostly just feel content or don't think too hard about things they can't or don't want to change.
and the outfits stuff? there are tons of ways to be a man. you can dress flamboyantly, inconspicuous or even try doing drag if it's safe for you (both physically and mentally) ! being comfortable in your sex does not mean being boxed into one particular category of outfits <3
this is my personal theory as a desisted female, but it's probably because there is so much pressure put on men in the patriarchal societies. a lot talk about how they found freedom in wearing cute feminine clothing, how they felt a release of emotions while on estrogen, crying like they never did before. it's probably why they are still resentful about it, bitter about being forced into the role of breadwinner, provider, the cold one with no emotions to show (despite his human predisposition)
If we make this an overly "welcoming" space, it won't be long before they start leveraging their criticisms at us and start trying to accuse us off being hateful. Remember the lesbian spaces?
You let one of them off, then they ask believe they can get away with it.
judging from your post, it seems to be autogynephilia. I think it'd be better to participate in this fetish with other people who are into AGP stuff, maybe get a partner who will support you with that, too.
I still won't recommend you medically transitioning as not only would it potentially expose people to you in your "most aroused state" so to speak, but it would also have lasting negative effects on your mental health.
stay safe out there
I have a theory on this, actually
People like to behave as if fujoshis are an actual threat to lgb rights, especially gay men, accusing them of "Fetishizing" gay men. In an effort to escape these accusations, they try to claim that they are part of the gay male community instead, saying "I'm not fetishizing, I'm actually gay!", not realising that claiming to be a man just to date a man who wouldn't be attracted to one based on her sex is worse than reading dark yaoi manga/manhwa with sex in it.