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The user's comments display a high degree of personal, consistent, and evolving detail about their detransition experience (e.g., specific timelines, health changes, emotional processing). The language is nuanced, empathetic, and shows a deep, long-term engagement with the complex personal and ideological aspects of detransition. The account's history spans several years, with a natural progression in their understanding and advice. The passion and criticism present are consistent with a genuine individual who has experienced significant personal harm.
About me
I was born female and never fit in with what was expected of girls, so I started transitioning at 16 and began testosterone at 20. The physical toll was severe, causing lasting pain and health issues from binding and hormones. I stopped testosterone at 22 and, through therapy, realized my discomfort was with society's stereotypes, not my female body. I learned that a woman can look and act any way she wants, and that understanding finally allowed my dysphoria to melt away. I am now at peace living as a detransitioned female, learning to accept my body and the permanent changes, though I regret not exploring my trauma and autism first.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition was long and complicated, and looking back, I see how many different pieces of my life came together to lead me down that path. I was born female, and from a young age, I never felt like I fit in with the expectations placed on girls. I now understand that a lot of my discomfort was rooted in internalized misogyny and the pressure to conform to strict gender stereotypes. I didn't feel like a "woman" in the way society defined it, so I thought that must mean I wasn't female at all. I was also struggling with a lot of unprocessed trauma from my childhood, and I was later diagnosed with autism, which explained why social rules and hierarchies always felt so confusing and unnatural to me.
I started socially transitioning in my teens, around 16, and began using binders. At 20, I started testosterone. I was on T for about two and a half years. During that time, my voice dropped significantly, I grew a lot of body and facial hair, and my chest shrank from a 34GG to a 34A. I bound my chest every day for six years, often for more than 8 hours at a time. The immediate acceptance I got from everyone around me when I transitioned felt amazing; it was like I had finally found a solution to all my problems. I saw transition glorified online by influencers, and it seemed like a magical way to escape the feelings of discomfort and self-hatred I had.
But the physical effects took a toll. Binding deformed my ribs and caused me near-constant chest pain that I still have today. Testosterone gave me serious health complications, including heart issues that cause daily palpitations and pelvic floor dysfunction. My mental health suffered too; I experienced mania and a deeper disconnect from myself. I ended up in a psychiatric unit at one point and still didn't see the connection to my transition.
I came off testosterone around age 22. The process of detransitioning was scary and filled with grief and shame. I had to face the fact that I had made permanent changes to my body. My voice is permanently deeper, I have a lot of body hair, and my clitoris is enlarged. But over time, about a year after stopping T, my body began to readjust. My chest grew back to a 32F, my body hair became softer and grew slower, and my muscle mass decreased. My period returned, though it was painful and heavy at first.
The biggest change for me was mental. Through a lot of therapy, specifically EMDR for my trauma, I began to unravel why I transitioned in the first place. I realized my gender dysphoria wasn't about my body itself, but about how society perceived my female body. I hated the stereotypes and limitations placed on women. I thought becoming male would protect me from misogyny and allow me to be my authentic, masculine self. I had to learn that a woman can look and act any way she wants. I am just a person, an adult human female, and that doesn't have to mean anything about my personality or how I live my life.
I deconstructed the whole idea of gender. If gender is a social construct, then my problem was with the construct, not my sex. Separating my sex from gender stereotypes allowed my dysphoria to melt away. Finding other women who looked like me—hairy, muscular, masculine women—was incredibly healing. It helped me see that my body is normal and worthy of love.
I do have regrets about transitioning. I regret the permanent changes to my body and the health problems I now live with. I regret not getting proper, non-affirming therapy first that would have explored my trauma, autism, and internalized homophobia. I don't believe I was truly informed of all the risks, and I was rushed through the process by medical professionals who were afraid to question me. I feel I was failed by a system that prioritizes affirmation over critical thinking.
Today, I am learning to accept myself as I am. I have a partner who loves me, body hair and all. I’ve learned to speak in a higher register again by singing. I focus on body neutrality—my body is just the vessel that carries me through life. I am at peace now, but it was a long and difficult road to get here.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Started socially transitioning and using binders daily. |
| 20 | Started testosterone (T). |
| 22 | Stopped testosterone. |
| 23 | Chest had regrown significantly; period returned. |
| 26 | (Present) Living as a detransitioned female; 4 years post-T. |
Top Comments by /u/shadowthehedgehoe:
Of course we have a say in trans issues lol wym, we were trans, most of us suffered from gender dysphoria, a lot of us medically transitioned, we have first hand experience of trans life and what it means to be trans. Some of us still ID as trans, but had to discontinue medical transition for medical, social, or financial reasons. Don't be silly, of course we have a say.
"based on your history and participation... In a right wing hole" so I checked your history because with a statement like that I was expecting at least some right wing views but you're literally a sweetheart? What the hell are those mods on? You're just supporting detransitioners as well as trans people and most of your posts and comments have nothing to do with transition what the hell😭😂 they're making themselves look dumb smh
I agree with this person. A lot of trans Ideology is actually incredibly regressive, to the point where a woman with short hair has been pushed back to mean "oh she must be a man" or a lesbian or nonbinary. They claim to want to tear gender down while building new support beams for it.
Strong relate. I don't understand how so many seemingly arbitrary things are now "offensive" like you have to put a space between trans and woman/man or else that's transphobic, using afab/amab is now transphobic (even though that phrase was stolen from the intersex community in the first place), why is it offensive to call it a medical condition, you "" need medical treatment"" to alleviate it (supposedly, though we know thats not true) so therefore it is a medical condition, and of course you need dysphoria to be trans, I've seen some people claim that transitioning is transphobic and I'm just at a loss. It's all gonna come to a head and there's gonna be so many detransitioners or just, dead trans people in the next 10 years and I can't do anything about it because I've already been labeled a terf just for being honest about my experiences. It's insanity!
Yes you're tapping into one of the many contradictions under gender identity Ideology, if gender is socially constructed then there would be no point in transitioning. "gender is a social construct" was a common phrase 10 years ago, nowadays it's more silenced and replaced with "gender is innate and everyone is born with a gender identity" but the sexist implications in that sentence alone is unreal if we consider what gender means atm, as in, implying that women are born wanting to shave and wear makeup and when they don't feel that it means they're not female, is so sexist! I'm hamming my words a lil here but I hope this makes sense.
Additionally, and hopefully a much shorter comment lol is that if you can accept yourself as a person, you have accepted yourself as a woman.
Woman doesn't describe: the way you think, who you love, what you enjoy, the hobbies you have, the way you dress, how you like your hair, the way you speak or sit, how much body hair you like for yourself.
You get to just be a person, a human with flesh that sweats, hair that grows, a body that holds you.
Throw everything you associate with "woman" out the window.
You're just you, and you are enough.
Find women that look and act like you, online and in real life.
Practice body neutrality.
Get into a relationship with yourself and treat yourself with the same kindness, compassion and love that you would with another person.
It IS going to be okay.
I've found there tends to be many more trans individuals in actual_detrans, who tend to comment first or before actual detransitioners (ironically). The narrative in that sub therefore is much more "trans positive" and tends to ignore or speak over genuine/honest detrans experiences.
Like other commenter said, it's for people who don't want to either be critical of transition or be labelled as such due to the venomous "us vs them" thought process that dominates trans narrative.
It seems to be a midground for people who don't want to be labelled as "anti trans" but still require alternative opinions or options regarding transition.
Many people in the sub, trans and detrans alike seem to believe that anti-trans means only anti-trans people, rather than the common alternative of anti-trans Ideology, which in itself wishes no harm or hate to individual trans people and rather wishes transition/gender to be critically analysed.
Therefore while there are many valuable opinions and discussions being had in that sub, it's very much overshadowed by the desire to not be perceived as "bad".
I agree for sure, I was told by the doctor at the gender clinician, essentially, that I should do this or I might end up killing myself, and they used that old same threat on my dad too, saying "would you rather have a dead daughter or a living son?" it's highly emotionally manipulative, it's worse that trans people parrot this narrative too. It's not helpful for anyone.
Also, I think that a lot of the suicides are actually from transition regret, not all of them of course but way more than currently thought of. If we take the age old 41% stat, I'd argue at least 15% out of that were from transition regret. This is not based on any kind of statistics I've seen, literally just personal theory based on how I've seen detransition affect myself and other people.
Ah, a road block you may hit here is that detrans people were just as certain as current trans people are. That is to say that a lot of our experiences overlap, or are the same. I was certain I was trans for 8 years until I just, wasn't, anymore.
I'm also respectfully not sure how you haven't found any detrans stories yet, I recognise that they are hard to find but you've found the right sub for them, have you read many posts here in /detrans?
As a heads up, if you're thinking of searching for detrans accounts/stories on Tumblr, the #detrans tag is full of very triggering content from people who have a "detrans kink", I'm not overstating when I say you will find r*pe fantasies on the first page of that tag, it's very messed up so please search with caution if you're sensitive to that kind of content.
Are there particular questions you'd like answered by detransitioners?
With respect, you sound very insecure with this "no true Scotmans" argument. There are theories on the origins of gender dysphoria or transexuality as you call it, but nothing has been proven yet. If it had been proven, trans people would be offered brain scans (for example) before medical transition instead of (or alongside) therapy.
You cannot say with 100% certainty that this person did not experience gender dysphoria, though I completely understand how comforting that would be, to think you could diagnose and disregard someone from one post.
And because we don't know for certain what the cause of gender dysphoria is, we also cannot say for certain that medical transition is the only treatment. All we do know for certain is that some people suffer X symptoms, and for some reason Y treatment seems to help more often than not*
(* every single study done on the effectiveness of medical transition to alleviate the symptoms of gender dysphoria are on very shaky ground, pro trans and pro detrans alike)
For this person, from this post, it seems that X symptoms resolved on their own without needing Y treatment. That doesn't mean they didn't experience X, nor does it mean that Y can never be helpful. This person just experienced something different to the expected and that's okay, their story doesn't invalidate yours, so don't invalidate theirs.