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The user's story is highly detailed, emotionally consistent, and deeply personal, spanning themes of foster care abuse, sexual trauma, anorexia, and a detransition/desister experience rooted in internalized misogyny. The language is natural, with human idiosyncrasies (e.g., "UwU," "XD," shifting between seriousness and casual asides). The passion and anger expressed are consistent with the genuine trauma and strong opinions found in the detrans community. The account describes a desister experience (social transition without medical intervention), which is a valid and common narrative.
About me
My transition started because I was taught being a woman meant being weak, and after being sexualized and raped, I hated my female body. I tried to escape by becoming a man, cutting my hair and using a male name, but it was just a way to cope with trauma and low self-esteem. I'm incredibly grateful I was stopped from getting medical treatments, as I now see how harmful they can be. After detransitioning, I realized the problem wasn't my body but my need to feel safe and worthy. Now I'm in therapy, recovering from an eating disorder, and learning that true strength is in self-acceptance, not in changing who I am.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was messy and came from a really painful place. I was born female, but from a very young age, I was taught that being a woman meant you were weak, just a baby-making machine, and that you had to be submissive. I was sexualized when I was only 8 years old, and then later, when I was 18, I was raped. All of this made me hate being a girl. I felt like my body was the reason for all this attention and danger, and I wanted to make it stop.
I started by taping down my chest because I hated my breasts. I cut off all my hair, chose a male name, and wore baggy men's clothes that I didn't even really like. I was trying to present as something I wasn't, a stereotypical guy, because I thought that was the only way to be safe and to be seen as strong. I existed as a trans male for a while. It was really embarrassing later, going back and telling everyone that I wasn't a guy anymore and to stop calling me by that male name. I mainly just felt like a fuck-up and was ashamed of how I had acted.
Looking back, I can see it was a form of escapism. I was trying to escape the trauma of what happened to me and the low self-esteem I had from my upbringing. My childhood was really rough. I was in foster care and went through a lot of abuse and neglect. I was isolated most of my life and I still struggle with normal human relationships because of it. I think all of that played a huge part in why I latched onto the idea of being trans.
I am so incredibly grateful that my guardians at the time refused to sign any papers for me to get hormones or surgery. They knew it would be bad for my physical and mental health, and they were right. I'm glad they didn't push that on me. Seeing what happens to other people who do take them, the serious health complications and how it messes up their lives, it makes me feel sick. It breaks my heart, especially knowing that this is now being pushed onto kids.
After I detransitioned, growing my hair back out and getting a new wardrobe again were small things, but they felt significant. The social part was okay for me because I came from a small, conservative town where most people didn't even know what being trans was. My friends were actually very supportive when I went back to living as a girl; they almost had a "we told you so" attitude, which didn't bother me. They laughed and said they knew I would come around. I was lucky that I didn't have any online trans community or LGBTQ group coming after me for detransitioning. I've seen that happen to others, and it seems like a cult-like mentality, like they're trying to control you and not let you leave.
Now, my thoughts on gender are that it's all so limiting. There's more than one way to be feminine or masculine. You can be a masculine woman and still be a woman; that doesn't make you a man. All this trans stuff just seems to reinforce stereotypes and confuse children. It makes me sad.
I do have regrets about my transition. I regret the time I lost and the shame I felt. I regret trying to force myself into a box that wasn't me. Instead of transitioning, I later developed anorexia nervosa as another way to cope with my body and trauma. I've been dealing with that eating disorder for about 8 years now, but I'm in therapy and working on recovery every day.
My main regret is that I ever felt I had to change my body to be safe or worthy. The answer wasn't in changing myself; it was in learning to accept myself, even though that's been a very long and hard road.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 8 | Was sexualized, leading to early discomfort with being female. |
| 18 | Was raped, which intensified the hatred of my female body. |
| 18 | Began social transition: cut hair, used male name, wore male clothes, bound chest. |
| 19 | Detransitioned: stopped using male name, grew hair out, resumed female identity. |
| 19 | Developed anorexia nervosa as a new coping mechanism. |
| 27 | (Present) In recovery for anorexia and sharing my story. |
Top Comments by /u/shewolf-:
That's really scary :( I am so glad that I wasn't allowed on hormones when I was going through my "trans" phase! My guardians at the time refused to sign the papers and knew it was bad for my physical and mental health. I am so glad that they didn't push the trans agenda on me.
I am so sorry this happened to you honey :,( It's disgusting how insurance companies will cover this and then won't even help with the bad after effects. I got an ad today from planned parenthood targeting kids to take these hormones and puberty blockers... Medical professionals are willingly pushing this and ruining people's lives... Doctors should recommend a therapist to work with, not drugs that mess up your life.
God, this story makes me so sad, and you are living with this YEARS after you took these hormones YEARS!!! And you only took them for a few months!! This stuff is dangerous!
Thank you for sharing your warning story and being so open *sends hugs*
I sadly have gone through this. I was taught that being a woman meant that I was lesser than men. That I was just a thing for men to use. I was sexualized at a young age (8 years old.) I was also raped later on. (Age 18).This made me hate being a girl. I taped down my chest, chose a male name, cut off my hair, and wore baggy clothes. I didn't want the attention from men.
I am so glad I never got the hormones or surgery. Later on after I accepted being a girl, I developed anorexia nervosa as a way to cope instead. I have been dealing with anorexia for going on 8 years now... But I am in recovery and staying strong each day.
God it breaks my heart when women go through this and then they try to find an answer. Then that answer becomes being trans or some other form of twisting the body/ self harm to make ourselves unappealing to men....
I honestly cannot believe how hard they are encouraging and pushing this propaganda! To make it even worse, this crap is targeting kids! Encouraging children to take puberty blockers and hormones that will mess them up for life!
This makes me so mad and disgusted. This propaganda makes me downright sick!
Thank you for sharing this story! I dated a trans MtF and they were much like this. They were worried all the time about making each and every action "feminine". The feminine voice 24/7 and the perfect clothes and makeup... It was just way too much for me to handle being around. He was always crying too about feeling "fake."
I tried to talk to him and bring him back to reality and get help for his condition. I really wanted him to love himself and be happy and healthy. (Those hormones he was taking were doing awful things to him as well.)
It makes me so happy to hear that you are accepting yourself finally and not falling into the delusion anymore :) I found is so sad and tragic when you mentioned about how hard you tried to see a woman in the mirror for YEARS. I am so glad you have found yourself. You sound like you are on the path to healing. *sends hugs*
I have a friend that decided to de-transition. MtFtM. They received so much crap from the online trans community and also the LGBTQ+ group at school. She decided that his outside will not meet what he wants and that it would be better to just accept himself from the inside. He got off of HRT and the community went nuts on him!
The people that were most supportive about his de-trans was his family and cis friends funny enough. You would think that the trans community would be the most supportive, but no they ate him alive. It was like he was almost leaving a cult and they were trying to control him. These subcultures can be very cultish at times.
I am sorry that the community has not been treating you well and is even trying to keep you from leaving. That is really messed up! You will find your tribe if you haven't already <3 It will be okay <3
The whole process was really uncomfortable. Thankfully I didn't have have any other trans friends or people in the LGBTQ community coming after me for detransitioning. When I shared the news about being a girl , my friends and family were very receptive. They were supportive and happy to have me be myself again ^.^
I'm sorry to hear that you are being treated like that. I've seen many stories where someone detransitions and then receives so much hate from the LGBTQ community. It's almost a cult and mob like mentality.
I existed as a trans male for a while and it was weird going back and telling everyone that I wasn't a guy anymore. I also told people to stop calling me by my male name... It was embarrassing honestly. This was before I even knew much about the trans community online, so thankfully I didn't receive any hate on there.
I mainly just felt like a fuck up and ashamed of how I acted and tried to present myself as something I wasn't. Man was I really trying to fit the male stereotype. (For some background info, I was taught that women were weak, baby making machines and had to be submissive.) That was a big part of me struggling with my female identity growing up.
Uhm growing my hair back out, that was a thing that took a while and then of course getting an new wardrobe again. I felt weird wearing male clothes I deep down inside didn't even like. As for the social thing, my friends were very supportive. They almost had a "we told you so attitude", which didn't bother me. Mostly my friends laughed and said they knew I would come around.
I also came from a small town that was very conservative, so there was no other trans presence around. Most people didn't even know what being trans was. So I didn't have a lot of pressure to stay that way.
Hopefully this helped a little? If you have any questions, please feel free to ask :) I am passionate about this community in particular UwU
Oh my foster care story isn't positive at all lol! I went through lots of abuse and neglect. Wasn't allowed to eat in the same room or the same time as the foster parents. Was called dumb by the constantly and wasn't allowed to explore other facets of my identity. It was considered a "privilege" to walk to school at -20 Fahrenheit, because it means they entrusted that we wouldn't run away. Also going to the library for 1 hour once a week was a big deal lol! We were fed ramen, hotpockets, and cheap cereal as the main dietary staples. They would go on vacations without us and dump us at another home and then rub it in our faces. I hated those people so much!
The only positive experience I had was being able to see an alternative girl (now my sister). And see that not all girls meet the stereotype. :)
God this is so tragic :,(. I agree that all this trans stuff limits the possibilities for women's representation. Feminine can present in many ways. I have friends that are like this too! I dated a guy that didn't fit "masculinity" so he decided he was a girl instead! He then started deluding himself and taking the hormones messing up his body... There is more than one way to be feminine and or masculine. There are masculine women that are still women! That doesn't make a woman a man because she doesn't follow traditional feminine rules...
All of this stuff is so crazy and irrational! I feel bad for children growing up in this stuff. It breaks my heart. All this does is confuse children.