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About me
I started transitioning because I was deeply uncomfortable as a woman and thought becoming a man was the only escape. I spent months on testosterone, binding my chest, and exhausting myself trying to perform a masculinity that never felt right. I finally realized I was making my life harder and quit everything, which was very difficult at first. My voice has mostly returned to a feminine range, and while I have some regrets, I'm learning to accept myself as female. I'm now hopeful for the future and more at peace with who I am.
My detransition story
My whole transition journey started because I was deeply uncomfortable with myself. I think a lot of it came from low self-esteem and anxiety. I hated my body, especially my breasts, and I felt like being a woman was just too hard. I saw transitioning as a way to escape all of that. I started identifying as non-binary first, but that quickly shifted into wanting to fully transition to male.
I was 24 when I started taking testosterone. I was on it for about 8 and a half months. For the first five months, nothing really happened, and then my voice finally started to drop. During that time, I was binding my chest every day, wearing uncomfortable clothes, and constantly trying to force myself to look and act masculine. I was hyper-aware of myself all the time, and it was exhausting. I never felt like I passed, and that just made me feel worse.
I think looking back, I was influenced a lot by what I saw online. I spent a lot of time in trans communities and saw transition as the only solution to my discomfort. I didn't really stop to question if my feelings were coming from something else, like trauma or just general puberty discomfort that I never dealt with.
One day, I just got tired of it. It was like a switch flipped. I was so tired of the constant effort and the self-consciousness. I realized I was making my life harder, not easier. So I decided to stop. I quit taking testosterone cold turkey. I was told by an endocrinologist that this was perfectly safe since I hadn't had a hysterectomy, and I didn't experience any bad symptoms when I stopped.
The first few months of detransition were really hard. I had a lot of anxiety and some symptoms that felt similar to PTSD, where I'd get really stressed thinking about that time in my life. But it's gotten much better with time.
My voice has changed a lot since stopping T. Right after I stopped, it was still pretty low. I did some voice training, watching videos online to learn how to sound more feminine again. But I also got lucky; my vocal cords seemed to change back a lot on their own. I recorded my voice a year after stopping T, and it was so much higher and easier to use. It took about a year and a half for my full range, including my falsetto, to really come back. I've been told I sound naturally feminine now.
I do have some regrets about transitioning. I worry about the lasting effects that testosterone might have had on my body, like on my breast tissue. I know that for some people, these changes aren't completely reversible, and you can't rely on other people's experiences because it's different for everyone. Messing with your hormones is unpredictable. But I try not to dwell on the regret too much. I think everything happened for a reason, and it's led me to where I am now. I'm more accepting of myself as a female, and I'm hopeful that everything will be okay in the end.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 24 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 24 (5 months in) | My voice began to drop. |
| 24 | Stopped testosterone after 8.5 months. |
| 24-25 | First few months of detransition; very difficult with high anxiety. |
| 25 | One year off T; voice had significantly changed back. |
| 25 | About a year and a half off T; full vocal range returned. |
Top Comments by /u/shoujo_rei:
Quitting T cold turkey is not risky and no you don't need to supplement other hormones if you haven't had a hysto. The only thing that MIGHT happen is getting mood swings and other mild symptoms but I had no symptoms quitting T cold turkey after 9 months, I was told directly by an endo that whether you want to taper off or not is personal choice. There is no reason to continue injecting yourself with unwanted hormones if you are detransitioning unless specified by a doctor for another underlying reason
honestly was just so tired of how much harder it was making my life. I hated how I looked bc I didn't pass, always squeezing into uncomfortable clothes trying to force my body to look masculine, always being hyper aware of myself and feeling self conscious. I just got tired of it one day and that led me to assess my feelings and why I was doing that to myself. was kind of just like I switched flipped one day and I was done with it
I feel this. It's natural to regret things but also dwelling on them can be detrimental depending on how long/intense it is.
For me I think of things more like "this happened for a reason" and that helps me to deal with the changes I'm not so happy about. It keeps me hopeful that everything will be okay in the end, but it doesn't deny me of feeling regret and acknowledging that
absolutely. i actually want to get screened for ptsd regarding a different experience where my cat was almost mauled but i notice some of the same symptoms from that but regarding when i was transitioning. it was really bad during the first few months of detransition but it's gotten better with time
It isn't necessarily reversible. Just because it is for some people does not mean it is for everyone who takes T. There are plenty of people who have had lasting changes/damage to the breast tissue/sensation because of T (and because of binding as well).
I think both. I did train my voice towards the beginning of my detransition (like 1-3 months off), watching transvoicelessons's videos and learning how the voice functioned and whatnot, and then just kinda went on my own from there. but I do think there has been physical change because it has gotten easier and easier over time and over time I've been told I just naturally have become more and more feminine sounding
its very very much a YMMV issue. i went ahead and made a recording of my voice right now, 1 year and a couple days off T to show you
my voice just after stopping T is in my profile. this is my standard, not trying speaking voice atm. I did do some voice training but for the most part I feel I got lucky and my vocal cords did a lot of the heavy lifting.
to be fair, i was already 24 when starting T and was only on for 8.5 months, and my voice didn't experience any change until like 5 months on T. so chances are i just got extremely lucky. it seems like its more of a matter of how long you were on T AFTER your voice started to drop rather than how long you were on in general, because someone whose voice dropped sooner than mine would be further along in their voice change even if they were on T for less time than me.
hope that helps:)
The point is that you can't rely on other peoples' anecdotal evidence. Messing with your hormones is unpredictable and affects every body differently. You can't 100% rely on what the charts say because every body is different. If you're not willing to accept 100% ANY effects hormones may have on you, you shouldn't take them at all
similar story here, about a year and a half off T, and it took my voice until recently to really open back up and be able to use my falsetto/higher range. just time I think unfortunately. I have been consistently singing and practicing thought that time though as well