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About me
I was born female and started taking testosterone because I thought becoming a man would fix my deep depression and self-hatred. The hormones caused health problems and I realized I was just trading one set of issues for another. I am grateful I never had surgery and now see my body was never the problem. I've found peace in accepting myself as a female who can express myself any way I want. My biggest regret is the permanent changes from hormones, and I believe true healing comes from self-acceptance, not altering a healthy body.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was a long and painful lesson in learning that changing my body wasn't the answer to the pain I was feeling inside. I was born female and for a long time, I hated that. I hated my breasts and felt incredibly uncomfortable with the changes that came with female puberty. I think a lot of my feelings were rooted in a deep depression and low self-esteem. I didn't feel good about myself or my place in the world, and I thought becoming someone else—a man—would fix that.
I started taking testosterone. I was convinced it was the only way to feel right in my own skin. For a while, it felt like it was helping, but that feeling didn't last. The hormones started to affect my health, and I became worried about the long-term effects, like bone density loss and heart problems. I began to realize that I was trading one set of problems for another, potentially more serious, set of health complications.
I never had surgery, but I considered it heavily. Now, I am so grateful I didn't. I see my body not as something that was wrong, but as something that was deeply misunderstood by me. I've come to understand that I can be female and still be whoever I want to be. I can have short hair, wear masculine clothes, and have hobbies that are typically considered male. My body doesn't dictate my interests or my identity.
I deeply regret taking hormones. I regret the permanent changes they made to my body and the health risks I may face because of them. I believe I was influenced by what I saw online and by a community that offered transition as the only solution to my discomfort. I now see that what I needed was to work on accepting myself and healing from my internal struggles, not to alter my body.
My thoughts on gender now are simple: your body is not the problem. Society's expectations and boxes can be painful, but the answer isn't to mutilate a healthy body. The answer is to learn to live comfortably in the body you have and to understand that you can express yourself in any way you want without needing to change your fundamental biology.
I don't believe medical transition is the right path for anyone, especially not for minors who can't possibly understand the lifelong consequences. I've found so much more peace in accepting myself as a female who is just… me.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Exact ages not provided in my comments | Started taking testosterone. |
| Exact ages not provided in my comments | Stopped taking testosterone and began my detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/silentsprings93:
Just don’t introduce your child to gender theory! You can paint the room green, orange, blue and pink, just blue, etc, and still raise a healthy child. Kids can play with any toys. Encourage them to always love their bodies, that their hobbies are Normal for who they are, etc. don’t focus so much on what you make them play with. Foster independence, intelligence, and homeschooooool them!
Death will not be easier I can tell you that much. It's okay to have transitioned and realized you want to detransition, we ALL make mistakes in life, because life is full of scary situations and questions we dont have answers to. But it's okay. It will be okay. And you absolutely can detransition and you may be surprised over time that things turn out okay. If your parents have been supportive of you, I'm sure they will support you through this. Just keep holding on.
Hard disagree about puberty blockers. As you’ll likely see in many comments. However I’m glad for you and your life that you are going to live as who you actually are. I know I cant change your mind but please don’t bind. It’s so genuinely bad for your body. Use a sports bra if you’d like a somewhat flatter chest. Don’t cause health issues for yourself please.
I hope you can find a way to accept yourself. Accepting your body as is does not mean needing to be more "masculine". You can be male with long hair, enjoy painting nails, and wear the clothing you'd like. Plus, you'll be able to do more in life without hormones affecting your bone mass and overall health and giving you erectile dysfunction. Hormones will not ease the pain you are feeling. Learning to accept yourself will definitely only help. ❤
Hormones and genital mutilation... aren't harmless like liking ice cream.
This sub is made up of detransitioners full of love and compassion. In every "I'm thinking of transitioning/detransitioning..." post, all I see is support.
However, I dont think hormones/surgery are EVER the answers for minors with gender dysphoria. So in their case, it is an all or nothing to me.
What exactly is your question here? If you want to know what we are about, you could have just as easily scrolled through and looked.
What are you on about? Sharing personal feelings is one reason this sub exists. To share personal stories of detransition.
We are not here to please you. We are here to discuss. We are not a list of resources. We are a sub to talk about detransition.
It seems the only one interjecting immense personal emotion right now is you. Go cry somewhere else.
A hysterectomy has its side effects as well, such as prolapses (vaginal is most common with hysterectomy but there are many kinds). Osteoporosis as a side effect of cross sex hormones as well. Do more research and look at websites from both sides.
I don't believe its mentally healthy for anyone to live pretending to be something they aren't. You are female and that is fine, it doesnt mean you can't appear exactly as you do right now. To me, making other people believe you are a male and gaining muscle mass are not reasons to alter your body with hormones.
I truly do wish you the best.
I don't mind if you think I'm hostile. I don't mind if you think me caring about minors transitioning is a strawman. You can be upset all you want that this sub has too much opinion and not enough resources. Dont pretend your post was all sweet and curious lol.
I think your primary doctor should be able to help regarding taking blood and checking hormone levels for stabilization. I don't know any therapists, thatd vary based on your location. Are you in the US? Health insurance? Check therapists who are in your network.
Edit to say, we understand. Many people here were also on hormones at one point, and there's a variety of ages here.
To add to all of these comments, working on your body and getting strong will be so much better in the long run than going on hormones for your entire life. We don't know the full effect that cross sex hormones have on the body yet, but osteoporosis is one of them, and increased chances of heart attack. A lot more side effects will come up in the next few decades.
There are many points I could touch on, but these comments are doing a good job, and I don't have the time right now. But I wish you the best, I truly do. You never deserved any trauma, your body was not the problem.