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The user's comments are highly specific, emotionally nuanced, and show a consistent, evolving personal narrative about the long-term physical and psychological effects of taking and then stopping testosterone. The language is conversational, includes personal doubts, cultural references (MiMi from Drew Carey), and offers supportive, detailed advice that aligns with the complex, lived experience of a desister.
About me
I was born female and my discomfort began in puberty when I hated the changes to my body. I transitioned in my early twenties, taking testosterone and living as a man for years, but it never felt completely right. I stopped hormones four years ago, and after a long process, my body has returned to its natural state. I now see my transition was an attempt to escape from other issues like depression and low self-esteem. Today, I am finally comfortable again as a straight woman and am focused on simply being myself.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was long and complicated. I was born female, and my discomfort really started in puberty when I developed. I hated my breasts and felt incredibly uncomfortable with my changing body. I think a lot of it was a deep discomfort with puberty itself, not necessarily with being a girl. I also struggled with low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety for a long time, and I now see that my desire to transition was a form of escapism from those feelings.
I started my transition in my early twenties. I began taking testosterone and it changed me a lot, both physically and mentally. My shoulders widened, my voice dropped, and my face changed. I even felt like it permanently altered my brain, making me think and act more like a man. It also changed my sexuality; I was a straight woman, but testosterone made me more visually-oriented and I became bisexual for a time. I lived as a man for several years.
But something never felt completely right. After being on testosterone for a while, I realized I had made a mistake. I stopped the hormones about four years ago and let my body go back to running on estrogen. The change back has been slow, taking years, but it’s happened. I look nothing like I did on testosterone now. I finally look like myself again, and I’ve even started to see a resemblance to my late mother, which feels right. My feminine self-image has gradually returned. I’m a straight woman again, comfortable in my own skin.
I don’t regret the journey because I learned so much about myself, but I do regret transitioning. I think I was influenced a lot by what I saw online and was trying to escape other problems in my life. I’m now focused on simple things, like figuring out a hairstyle that works for me—maybe a shaggy bob with bangs—and learning to use a little mascara and eyebrow pencil. I’m just trying to be me, and that’s enough.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 12 | - | Started puberty, felt strong discomfort and hated my breasts. |
| 22 | - | Started taking testosterone. |
| 26 | - | Stopped testosterone and started detransitioning. |
| 30 | Now | Have been back on estrogen for 4 years. Feel like myself again. |
Top Comments by /u/skeezix2158521585:
I've been off of testosterone and back on estrogen for four years, and I look NOTHING like I did on testosterone. I'm a totally different person. It just takes a few years to morph. You will go back to not wanting to be attractive as a male if you stop testosterone. You're feminine self image will return ever so gradually. It just takes time. A few years usually. If you grow your hair long that will help enormously. Some men will find you attractive if you just morph back. Give it a chance. You got this girl. If you DM me I might be able to dig out a photo from when I was on testosterone and you can see the difference. Really, hormones are powerful but it takes years to watch someone morph forward and backward. I didn't even look like a normal age progression of my younger self on testosterone, I looked nothing like my family. Now I look like me again and Im beginning to age in a way that I look like my late mom.
I've never even tried mascara. I'm afraid I'll get it in my eye or all over the lid. I'm not good at make up. I dabbled with it as a teen. Maybe the shorter hairstyle with mascara. I don't want to look like MiMi from Drew Carey so no eye shadow. You know who that is? Thanks tho. I might try mascara. My eyebrows are already thin but I need an eyebrow pencil. I think I'll just trim my hair and use volumizing shampoo. That'll help a lot and wear rimless glasses. Thanks for the well wishes.
Thank you. One girl told me bc I have thick hair like her I can do a shaggy bob with bangs. Longer than that haircut that grew out funny with the rimless glasses so it won't look bad as it grows. I think I'll try that with mascara and eyebrow pencil. Thank you for saying my features are female. I don't need a radical hair cut just a big trim. :). Maybe with layers to give it a look with the volumizing shampoo. That would work right? Or would the layers look more limp?
Yeah, trouble is I'm not lesbian:). Testosterone made me a bit bi because it made me more visual like men. But yeah, I'm currently just a straight woman. Morphing back and forth and switching which hormone to be on does a lot to your internal sense of self. One person said the short hair took the focus off of my chin and jaw, does that make sense?
Yeah, I'm trying not to shoot for androgyny but it just kind of happened that way. Did the shorter hair pic with rimless glasses look more feminine? I think I look older and more feminine there. But it could be just my perception. I tried a mullet once but I still looked like a boy. Testosterone permanently altered my brain so I think and act male. I have wide hips, but, for some reason they still just look like a portly or husky male in motion. I'm losing weight by walking. My shoulders widened enough the hips aren't noticeable though. I think it's easier to wash shorter hair.