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About me
I grew up in a house full of brothers and never saw positive femininity, which made me feel like an outcast. I started identifying as male at 12 to escape body hatred and bullying, encouraged by my friends and online content. I began to detransition at 15 after meeting my boyfriend, who helped me find self-acceptance as a woman. I now embrace being female, love wearing dresses, and look forward to being a mother. I'm finally becoming the person I was always meant to be.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was really young. I grew up in a house full of brothers—seven of them—and only had two sisters who weren't really around much. My mom was a cowgirl type and my sister was a tomboy, so I never saw much femininity. I felt like the odd one out because I was more sensitive, and I got made fun of for that. When I was about seven, I decided I would never be feminine again because my biological mother was terrible; she used me like a dress-up doll and I hated it. I renounced everything girly.
Puberty hit me really early, in the fourth grade. I was only about ten years old when I developed large breasts, and I hated them. It made everything worse. When I was around 11 or 12, one of my older brothers got me high and did something inappropriate, which made me hate my body even more. That's when I started wearing a binder to flatten my chest. I wore it for a whole year.
I started identifying as male when I was 12. A big part of it was that I thought if I were a man, my family would like me more, and I would like myself more. I was fat, being bullied, and at the lowest point in my life. My friends at the time were all "queer band kids" who encouraged it. They were a bad influence; there were even weird relationships in the group, like sophomores dating seventh graders. They spread it around that I was questioning my gender and started calling me by a masculine version of my last name.
The media I consumed played a huge role. My social media feeds were filled with left-wing, pro-trans content because the algorithms fed me more and more of what I showed interest in. It felt like my phone was listening and making everything worse, only showing me the good parts and never the downsides. I also got into yaoi and BL media, and I had a boyfriend who was five years older than me when I was 13, which I think contributed to me wanting to be a man. It felt like a form of escapism from my depression and low self-esteem.
I never took hormones or had any surgeries, thankfully. I started to slowly detransition when I was 15. The big turning point was when I was 16 and I met my current boyfriend online. I introduced myself to him as a boy named Luther because I was scared of being groomed. But as we got closer, I told him the truth—that I was actually a girl named Lily. He thought my real name was pretty and he was supportive. He's a religious guy, and he helped me find self-acceptance. He helped me see that I should love myself the way I am, the way God made me. Around that time, I realized that in a few years I'd be a grown woman, and I wanted a family and to be a mother. I wanted a more traditional, nuclear family life.
Detransitioning changed my outlook on a lot of things. I became much more conservative and religious. I now believe more in traditional gender roles and I'm not a fan of things like mixed bathrooms. I think many transgender people are mentally ill, because I know I was. I believe things like autogynephilia—being sexually aroused by the idea of yourself as a woman—are a real disorder, a kind of fetish.
I don't regret transitioning entirely. I see it as something I had to go through, like character development. It helped me realize my body issues and how to deal with them properly. But I do regret some of the after-effects, like being teased by my brothers when I tried to be feminine again. Now, I'm trying to embrace being a woman. I love wearing pretty dresses and I want to be a mother. I'm much happier. I feel like I'm finally becoming the person I was meant to be before I ruined it for myself at age five.
Here is a timeline of the main events:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 5 | Renounced being feminine because my mother used me as a dress-up doll. |
| 10 | Hit puberty early, developed large breasts which I hated. |
| 11-12 | An older brother got me high and acted inappropriately, increasing my body hatred. |
| 12 | Started identifying as male and socially transitioning. Began wearing a binder. |
| 13 | Had an older boyfriend; consumption of yaoi/BL media influenced my identity. |
| 15 | Began to slowly detransition. |
| 16 | Met my current boyfriend online, which was the final catalyst. Officially stopped identifying as male and returned to my birth name, Lily. |
Top Comments by /u/sleeper_agent02:
I have to be honest, after I detransitioned I became like very conservative republican right and I'm not exactly fond of trans people. If you get turned on by being validated, jts autogynephilia. If you're under 25, you probably aren't entirely sure. If you're a CHILD??? stop while you're ahead jfc. If none of this applies to you and you're just a person who thinks they're a normal girl/guy, you're probably crazy. Also those drag queens and shit trying to read books to kids in schools? They absolutely do not need to know that. When I was a child, I wasn't thinking about being a different sex or gender or anything. The people reading to me in elementary school were reading books about cats and dogs or colors or telling me about stranger danger and people who want to read to kids about sex. They shouldn't come in here asking for advice, because most of our advice is "dont transition"
Detransitioning turned me into a more conservative religious person. I'm much more "come to Jesus he loves you no matter what" and "damn I want a nice man and a family" than I ever was growing up (shitty childhood). But it's definitely rallied me to believe more in the direct gendered people's rights. I'm not a fan of mixing bathrooms at all. I don't think transmen belong in the men's bathroom and definitely not vice versa. Too many men suffer from autogynephilia for the transition to be normal. Other than that, I think they're probably just... sick. Mentally ill. I know I was.
I think you're a man too. If you dont want that "I told you so" you need to sit your loved ones down and tell them that this is a very sensitive part of your life, very damaging, and you need them to be supportive and you need them not to rub it in your face, because that feels horrible, and your fear of them treating it like a ioke and being rude about it makes you feel like they don't care and they just want to be rude. You've got this man. I believe in you.
I was trans from 12 to 14, slowly detransing during 15. When I hit 16 and met my current boyfriend, I realized "in a few years I'm gonna be a grown ass woman. This is not the life for me. I want a family, I want to be a mother. I should quit while im ahead" and i haven't identified as male ever since
I understand. When I was young, my parents divorced because my mom was psycho. And because I hated her so much, I declared that I would never be feminine again, because she basically used me as a doll. Pair this with a tomboy sister and a cowgirl mom, living out in the sticks and always needing to wear pants, and add onto that about 7 brothers, and lastly, living on a farm and having to buck hay and herd cows, I just let it flow into me. I was a man. I was not feminine. But that wasn't true. I loved dresses. I wanted ti be a fashion designer. A cheerleader. I wanted long, pretty, curly hair. But I had ruined it for myself at the age of 5. Yet slowly, I am forming back into the person I want to be. A young lady and a family woman.
I know I'm a desisted female, but here's my advice just in case: transitioning just because you don't like how you look is never the way. I'm sure you have other reasons but if your reason is "I look in the mirror and just gross" then don't do it. For a while I was so so very close to being a man. I was fat, being bullied, and I didn't like myself, plus I grew up in a home FULL of brothers. My sister was a tomboy, my mom was a cowgirl so she hardly wore any dresses or nothing. I was bullied in the family for having a women's sensitivity or just not being as strong so I figured "maybe if im a man they'll like me more. Maybe if I'm a man, I will like me more" I've never been happier since I left all that behind. I got a boyfriend, I worked in myself insanely. I love how I look, and I've gotten MUCH more traditionally feminine. I would also like to say that the more I "wanted" to be trans, the more media I got of it. Your phone and your computers and your EVERYTHING is listening. They listen to what you say and they make it worse. The more trans media you consume the more and more and more and more and more of it you'll get. And it won't show you any of the bad, because normally, you aren't interested.
And this may seem harsh but I don't see how that should matter to me at all.
It's not harsh hon. Listen to me. I am in almost the exact same situation. Learned at 11, started at 12, started detrans at 15-16, currently 16. My friends spread it around that iw as questioning whether I'm male or female and they still call me by my masc last name instead of my femme first name. You were brainwashed. So was I. My friends were all gay artsy queer band kids who kept dating each other. In fact there was a 10th grade-7th grade relationship going on in the group that they were encouraging. And it's like this in hick town conservative city. None of their feelings about how you should look should matter to you. Whether you're androgynous or not, the only person who reserves a right to your "potential" for anything is you. And you have the potential to be whoever you want. NOT who they want. You should get new friends. If they can't respect you for who you are, if they look at you weird when you show them your pretty dress, or even if they give you weird looks after learning you're detrans, they aren't your real friends. A real friend would respect your name and pronouns and would be happy about your pretty dress, and would say "oh cool okay. So you're a woman?" When they learn you're detrans. You're perfectly right to feel so unsure about something like that. Being transgender before you even understood anything is crazy, and you're right to think that. Get new friends, and completely forget about these ones. Start your life anew, a female <3
You... really need therapy hon. And no, starting earlier wouldn't have made it easier. Starting earlier would have killed you. Messing with your hormones at the time that your body is a pumping itself full of hormones and is a hormonal mess is such a bad idea. I really think puberty blockers shouldn't be a thing and that it messed with people, and it sounds like you really need help. I hate to be that person but it sounds like this is some sort of psychotic break, you sound so extremely upset that you went down this path. Not regretful but not accepting either. Like you want the world to bend to you. You need trans people to stop existing, you need to be perceived as one or the other, etc, but that doesn't happen, hon. You can't control other people's actions, and you cant control how they perceive you. I'm trying to sound understanding and calm here, but you might read this as spiteful. I dont know why you transitioned. But I'm glad you aren't anymore, and maybe you should see a specialist about these feelings. And more than likely, not one who will tell you to keep transitioning.
I don't think it's anything spiritual, I think it's just that the media you consume affects you and vice versa. I.e. porn addictions and such lead to things like this. I will admit that while I was transitioning to male, I had a boyfriend five years older than me who was 18 while I was 13, and this definitely contributed to me wanting to be a man, as he was effeminate himself sometimes and wanted to try anal and such, and of course I was consuming a lot of yaoi and BL media. Definitely a lot of autoandrophilia, or autohomoeroticism as you call it
Exactly the same for me. My media was filled with so much left wing extremism hate and power to the gays and it almost got into really bad territory until I desisted and now my media is filled with reddit detrans, girls in cute fluffy dresses, and right wing agendas