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About me
I latched onto the idea of being a man to escape my childhood trauma, and I got testosterone after a single 30-minute appointment. For a year, I lived as a man and felt more insecure and disconnected from myself than ever before. I realized I was just hiding and decided to detransition a few weeks ago to reconnect with the girl I truly am. I'm now growing my hair back and learning to find my old voice again. While I don't regret the journey, I see now that transitioning was a coping mechanism, and I'm finally hopeful for my future.
My detransition story
My journey into thinking I was trans started with trauma I experienced when I was very young. I never got the right help for it, and I think that’s a huge reason why I latched onto the idea of being a man. I can see now that my brain was just trying to survive, to dissociate from what happened to me by becoming someone else entirely.
When I first started questioning my gender, I went to therapy, but it didn't help. My first therapist was a nonbinary woman who made everything about me being trans. My second therapist was an intern who didn't have much experience. My current therapist is better, but even she doesn't dig as deep as I think she should. She knows about my trauma, but I was the one who figured out I needed to detransition, without her help. It’s scary how easy it is to get hormones. I walked into a Planned Parenthood, had a 30-minute chat, and walked out with a prescription. There was no one to stop and say, "Wait, you have trauma you need to deal with first." It’s like being trans is the only condition where you can just decide your own treatment with no questions asked.
For a while, I really believed I was a man. I started taking testosterone when I was 21. I was on it for a year. During that time, I changed a lot. I stopped taking pictures of myself, which is something I used to love doing. I used to take so many selfies and videos when I was living as a girl. But as a "man," I became so insecure and critical of myself. The only photos from that time are the ones my girlfriend took, and even then, I hated having my picture taken. I look at those pictures now and I look dead and empty inside. I can't believe I thought I was happy then; it's so clear to me now that I wasn't. Transitioning was supposed to be about freedom, but for me, it felt like hiding.
I decided to detransition about two to three weeks ago. A big part of that decision was realizing how disconnected I was from myself. I’ve been looking at old pictures of myself as a girl, and I miss her. She had long, pretty blonde hair, and now I have a short, medium-length men’s cut that looks like a grown-out pixie. My hair grows fast, though, and since I used to be a hairdresser, I know how to help it along. I can’t wait to have my long hair back.
My voice is another thing that’s been bothering me. The testosterone changed it, and it dropped noticeably. But I’ve been playing around with how I speak, and I’ve found that if I use a certain pitch, I can access a raspier version of my old voice. It gives me a lot of hope. I’ve heard that a lot of detransitioned women end up sounding like Miley Cyrus, and I’ve loved her since I was five, so I think I’d be okay with that! It reminds me that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel, and I can become myself again.
I don’t regret my transition because it led me to this understanding of myself, but I see now that it was a coping mechanism for my trauma, not a true identity. I’m hopeful for the future as I work on feeling like the girl I always was.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Very Young | Experienced trauma that was never properly addressed. |
| 21 Years Old | Started testosterone hormone therapy after a brief consultation. |
| 22 Years Old | Stopped testosterone after being on it for one year. |
| 22 Years Old | Began my detransition, deciding to live again as female. |
Top Comments by /u/sleezymu1a:
No cuz this is something I’ve noticed with myself too. I recently detransitioned & I’ve been looking back on my pictures from before I started transitioning (when I was a girl) & then after (when I was living as a trans man)…I look so dead & empty. I cannot believe I thought I was happy during that time. I clearly wasn’t.
Trauma is exactly why I thought I was trans in the first place. I was traumatized at a very young age, and I never got help for it. I can’t speak for every single person, but I think the link between someone thinking they’re trans and being traumatized is due to the fact that many of us do not get adequate care. Sure, you can go to therapy, but in my experience, therapists are more worried about providing “gender affirming care” than actually digging deeper (in my case). My very first therapist was a nonbinary woman who made literally everything about me being trans. My second therapist was an intern who barely had any experience. My current therapist, while she isn’t the worst and I don’t hold any resentment towards her, doesn’t always dig as deep as I think she should. She is aware of the trauma I’ve gone through, and yet, I was able to realize my detransition WITHOUT her help.
Even those that don’t go to therapy do not get the adequate support that they need. You can walk into any Planned Parenthood, and all they do is have a 30 minute conversation with you, and bam! You get hormones! There’s no pushback. There’s no one to say, “hey, wait a minute. You have trauma. You have trauma that needs to be sorted out first before you make a life altering decision.” No one stops and thinks about how trauma rewires the brain into survival mode, and how it tries to dissociate from the negative event(s) that happened. No one thinks about the girl that has a history of sexual abuse, and wonders if she’s just transitioning in a desperate attempt to dissociate herself from what happened to her. It’s always, “if you’re trans, then you’re trans! Nobody can say otherwise!” Gender dysphoria/being trans is the one mental health condition that you can self-diagnose, and decide your treatment plan with no intervention or pushback.
This was a long answer (so sorry about that lol), but this is something that I think needs to be spoken more about. We all deserve better.
Yessss! This is one of the many, many reasons why I decided to detransition! I used to take helllaaa selfies & videos of myself when I was still living as a girl. Then, as I began transitioning & taking on the persona of a male, I completely stopped taking pictures of myself. At the time, I thought it was the “manly” thing to do. Looking back, I now realize it’s because I was so insecure & dead inside. The only pictures I have of myself from living as a male are the ones my girlfriend has taken of us, and even taking a photo with her was like pulling teeth. I’ve never been so critical of myself in my life! As you said, when we transition, it’s supposed to be celebrated and seen as freedom. It’s odd that freedom for many of us was us retreating & hiding ourselves.
This jus gave me so much hope! I started my detransition about 2-3 weeks ago & my voice is really bothering me. I was only on testosterone for a year, but my voice dropped noticeably. I’ve been hearing that a lot of detrans females sound like Miley Cyrus! I’ve loved her since I was five so this is kinda nice! Thanks for answering by the way! 🖤
Yes, definitely! My hair grows pretty fast anyway, so I'm sure it'll get there. Right now, it's a medium length men's cut. It's short, but there are pieces I can tuck behind my ear. Honestly, it looks like a grown out pixie cut lol but like I said, my hair grows pretty quick, and I also used to do hair professionally, so I got ways of making it grow faster. I can't wait to have my long, blonde hair back lol I miss it so much :(
Thank you, this comment means a lot. I said in another comment that I've been playing with my voice, and if I speak in a certain pitch, I can sound somewhat like my old self (just with more of a rasp). So, I'm hopeful that I'll sound female again, even if I do have a rasp (which, if I end up sounding like Miley Cyrus or something, I'd be okay with that lol). It's hard to remind myself that I am still that girl because I feel like I look different now (she had long, pretty blonde hair, and I have short, darker blonde hair, for example). But I think I'll start feeling better once I start resembling her again. Your comment gives me a lot of hope that there's a light at the end of the tunnel lol <3
Thank you so much for this. I've been playing around with my voice, and I've noticed that if I speak a certain way, I can access a raspier version of my old voice. So, I think you're right that 90% of my voice will come back, especially since I've only been on testosterone for a year.