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About me
I was born female and my discomfort with my body, especially during puberty, led me to believe I was trans, so I started testosterone and had top surgery. I eventually realized my feelings were more about trauma and low self-esteem than actually being male. Detransitioning was scary, but I was surprised by the kindness and support I received from everyone, including my trans friends. Now, nearly three years after stopping hormones, my body has become more feminine again and I've grown comfortable with my flat chest. I know I'm a woman, and while I have some regrets, I'm finally at peace with who I am.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was complicated and I'm still figuring it out. I was born female and for a long time, I felt a lot of discomfort with my body, especially during puberty. I really hated my breasts and having a female body. I thought that meant I was trans, so I started to transition. I was on testosterone for about three years and I got top surgery. I think a lot of my feelings were tied up in other issues, like low self-esteem and some trauma, rather than actually being a man.
I eventually realized that having dysphoria doesn't automatically mean you are trans. It's not a sure sign that you should transition. For me, transitioning ended up being a mistake because I was never actually male. I've come to understand that it's okay to be a female who feels gender dysphoria. You don't have to change your body to fix those feelings.
Detransitioning was scary at first. I was really worried about how I would look and how people would treat me. But honestly, almost everyone has been extremely kind and supportive, including my trans friends. We can talk about things and meet in the middle. I think detrans people still have a lot of understanding and sympathy for trans people that others might not get, and that helps us stay connected.
My appearance changed a lot after I stopped testosterone. When I first detransitioned, I thought I looked strange and felt really ugly. But after about a year and a half, I started looking way better. Now, nearly three years off T, my hair is thicker, my face is fuller, my body is more feminine, and my body and facial hair is much lighter and softer. My voice is still a bit androgynous, but people can tell I'm female.
I had top surgery, and that was a big thing to come to terms with. My main issue with my chest now is more about the scars and the memories attached to them, which surgery can't fix. But I've gotten extremely comfortable with my flat chest over the last year. I usually just wear a bralette and I'm good. I'm moderately curvy and I don't think my chest looks that out of place on me anymore. Tons of women have virtually flat chests; it's not the end of the world.
I definitely have some regrets about transitioning, especially the permanent changes. I wish I hadn't changed myself like that, but there's nothing I can do now. I just try not to think about it or freak myself out. My best advice for anyone going through this is to give yourself time. You will look fine. Work on building a wardrobe you like, with clothes that fit you well and make you feel good. It might sound shallow, but after so much damage to my self-esteem, it's the least I can do for myself.
Deep down, I know I'm a woman. Even if people sometimes mistake me for male, it doesn't matter because I know who I am.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 19 | Started taking testosterone |
| 22 | Had top surgery |
| 22 | Stopped testosterone and began detransition |
| 25 | Now, nearly 3 years detransitioned, comfortable with my body |
Top Comments by /u/slouchyzed:
That was something I had to unpack. Having dysphoria doesn’t mean I am trans. It’s not actually an indicator of whether I should transition or not. Transitioning ended up kind of sucking (I never actually was male) and I’ve realised that maybe it’s better to just be a female that feels gender dysphoria.
yo no hate but i think you’re hanging around the wrong lgbt people! i hang w everyone whether theyre trans or not & i get away with saying the most outrageous shit 💀
deep down you know you aren’t truly transphobic. in my experience when you’re detrans you still have a lot of understanding and sympathy for trans people that “normal” people don’t and trans people appreciate it :)
hey! it’s maybe a little shallow to focus in on the looks stuff but i wish someone had said something like this to me when i first detransitioned - give yourself some time and you’re gonna look fine. you know you’re a woman and you know you’re not doing anything creepy.
i don’t know how long you were on t for but i lowkey looked totally jacked by the time i went off t (after 3yrs) & after about 1.5 years i really started looking way better. by now (nearly 3 yrs off) my hair’s thicker, my face is fuller, my body’s more feminine and my body & facial hair’s significantly lighter and softer.
i used to be super concerned about my tits but i’ve really gotten used to them now. tons of women have virtually flat chests. it’s not like it’s the end of the world. i have a decent amount of trauma tied to my chest and scars so it was definitely jarring at first to see myself in a feminine context again, looking so different to how i had before. i definitely wish i hadn’t changed myself but there isn’t anything i can do and i look fine so i just try not to think about it or freak myself out.
my best advice is just to work on building a wardrobe you like - whether tomboyish or feminine or both - of clothes in your size (unless you want the skater look lol). i know it’s silly and, again, a bit shallow but fuck… i’ve had so much damage done to myself self esteem that it’s kinda the least i can do.
the point is… when i first detransed i looked kind of strange and i felt really really ugly but it didn’t take very long for me to look fine. if you saw me you’d definitely think i was female. even if you heard my androgynous voice there are little things that give my femaleness away that are noticed by anyone worth hanging out with. even if people do think i’m male it doesn’t matter because i know i’m not :)
merry christmas ⭐️
I feel the same! I guess that’s why I included that in my personal life everybody has been extremely kind. If there was anything I could preach to all detrans people l, especially those only just starting to detransition, it would be that most people are going to be way nicer than you’d expect (trans people too!).
And I’m low key a crazy rad fem too but my besties are still nearly all trans because we’ve talk about the things some might expect us to clash on but we’re all pretty reasonable people and can meet in the middle.
i’m in the same boat but personally when i think about it i find there are more pros to not going forward with a reconstruction. i think my main issue with my chest is (alas) more to do with the scars & memories which (alas) can’t be fixed with surgery. thankfully, it’s been 3 yrs since i detransed & over the last year i’ve been getting extremely comfortable with my flat chest. i usually just wear a bralette so my nipples arent looking too rachel green & i’m good. it might depend on your build but i’m moderately curvy & these days i don’t find that my chest even looks that out of place on me. may u find peace ⭐️