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- A consistent, personal narrative with specific life details (e.g., experiences in Norway, using Instagram, drug history).
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About me
I was a tomboy who found online communities as a teenager and came to believe my discomfort with puberty meant I was a boy. I socially transitioned, which fed into my eating disorder and deep unhappiness, leading to a suicide attempt. A trip to Norway made me realize my problem wasn't my body, but the misogyny I faced at home for not being feminine enough. I detransitioned with the support of my friends and am now finally at peace, freeing myself from my eating disorder and learning to love my female body. I’m just a woman who likes what she likes, and I tell other young people to be patient and critical of the ideas they find online.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was really young. I was always a tomboy and never felt like I fit in with the super girly girls. Around the time I was a teenager, I found a lot of community online, and that's where I was exposed to a lot of trans ideas. I started to believe that because I hated my breasts and felt uncomfortable with my body, especially during puberty, that it meant I was actually a boy. I think a lot of it was propaganda, and I got swept up in it. I felt a lot of pressure to fit into a specific box.
I socially transitioned. I changed my name and pronouns and presented myself as a boy on my main Instagram account. I never took hormones or had any surgeries, but I did bind my chest. I thought that anorexic = no boobs = masculine, and that thinking really fed into my existing eating disorder. I was deeply unhappy. I spent so many nights crying and hurting myself because I couldn't handle having a female body. I started doing drugs at 12 and had a horrible suicide attempt at 16. My self-esteem was non-existent and I was dealing with a lot of depression and anxiety.
Everything changed when I was 17. I took a trip to Norway and realized that the problem wasn't my body, but how people reacted to it. Over there, no one catcalled me or looked at me weird even though I had a pixie cut and looked like a girl. But as soon as I came back to my own country, I was harassed by an old man the first day I went out in feminine clothes. That was a huge moment for me. I realized I was trying to escape being a woman because of how society treats women, not because I was actually a man.
I decided to detransition. I did it by ranting on my private Instagram, and my closest friends were incredibly supportive. I asked them to spread the word to others, and I deleted my old Instagram account where I presented as male and made a new one. It was a process, but most people didn't care at all.
Now, I am so much happier. I understand that gender is largely a social construct that tries to put us all in boxes. My body and my mind are finally at peace. I’m freeing myself from my eating disorder. I can wear perfumes that smell like flowers and vanilla instead of something masculine. I can wear big, feminine earrings and enjoy the Y2K style. I don't hate my body anymore. Even though binding for a while left my breasts a bit misshapen, they've mostly gone back to normal, and I've learned to love them.
I do have some lasting effects. I used speed that was probably cut with something bad, and it left me with a small beard and a dark moustache. It doesn't really bother me; I just shave it. My voice is also naturally deeper, but I've met other women with deep voices and realized it's not a big deal.
Looking back, I don't regret my transition because it led me to where I am now, but I do regret not being more patient and critical of the ideas I was absorbing online. I tell other young people to wait, to experiment with presentation but not to rush into hormones or surgery. Your brain is still developing, and what you feel at 16 can be very different from what you feel at 20. I benefited from stepping away from that online world and just living my life. I’m finally just me, a woman who likes what she likes, and that’s enough.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 12 | Started doing drugs; began experiencing intense puberty discomfort and hated my developing breasts. |
| 16 | Had a serious suicide attempt; social pressure and body dysmorphia were severe. |
| 16-17 | Socially transitioned; presented as male online and in life, used a male name and pronouns. |
| 17 | Realized I was not transgender while on a trip to Norway; began the process of detransitioning. |
| 17 | Came out to friends as detransitioning via Instagram; deleted old social media and started anew. |
| 18 | Now living as a woman again; dealing with minor effects from past binding and drug use but overall happy and at peace. |
Top Comments by /u/snortflake777:
To me you look female but to be honest yea there is a resemblance. Dont take it to the heart girl, i look like my dad whos a hairy bald guy with a big beard and strong masculine features, yet my face is soft and round. The resemblance is just there in the eye shape or something.
Gender really is just a social construct and wants to make us all fit into specific boxes. What you said about being the same person if u were a boy is sooo true. Your genitalia does not make you better or worse than someone nor should it decide on what you should wear and like. Being a tomboy is completely fine and normal, not every girl can be into makeup, dresses and whatnot 🤷🏻♀️ its just that they want us to believe that we should completely change our bodies because of our interests and feelings
Just give yourself time. You are only sixteen. I know you probably hate hearing that but trust me, age means a LOT. I’d say don’t start HRT or anything else before at least 20 years of age. Until then, feel free to experiment with the way you present yourself. Detransitioning can be a very hard and painful process and I’m sure you don’t want to put yourself through that. I thought I’d stay transgender forever, and then I turned 17 and started realizing that it’s really not who I am. I have always been a «tomboy» but all the trans propaganda online made me believe that I’m transgender. Please just be patient with yourself. Sending u lots of love 💘
Just as how it was when you came out as trans. You probably cut off everyone who didn’t accept it. Do the same thing now. Don’t force yourself to things just because you’re scared of other peoples reactions. I was in a similar situation but thankfully most of my friends are either cishet or queer people that are not obsessed with gender :/
Everything feels much easier. It isnt a pain in the ass anymore when we are having huge family meetups. If i dont like the way my face looks sometimes, i just enhance it with makeup. I am freeing myself from my eating disorder because while I was trans i thought that anorexic=no boobs=masculine. I can wear perfumes that dont smell like «fresh breeze of ww2 explosions» but like flowers and vanilla. I am overall so happy that my mind and my body are finally at peace without me being dead.
I completely understand your anger, I felt the same way. There really is a lot of propaganda whether we like it or not, but we really shouldn’t allow ourselves to react to that anymore. There’s a lot of things I would say but I decide not to because I really don’t want to come off as rude or transphobic. If you want someone to talk to, feel free to DM me. I hope you’ll find your peace of mind ❤️
I agree with you and yes I did do that a couple of months ago. I dont have PCOS and my hormones are pretty normal in general. I am a dark girlie but I think that the speed I was using was being cut with some weird shit that fucked me up so I ended up with a small beard and a dark moustache😕
Hii, dont worry about it bestie. Same thing happened to me too. My boobs kinda looked like someone hit them with a pan. One year later tho they regained their fullness and bounciness. Even if they dont, dont worry about it. Love your body and be happy that you didnt go any further than just binding.
Trust me I know. I have spent so many nights crying and SH myself because I couldnt handle the feeling of having breasts and a vagina. I’d go to school every day with my whole face swollen. I also started doing drugs at 12 and had a horrible s*****e attempt at 16. The only reason I’m telling you to be patient is literally because you’ll be putting all this shit in your body and making such a big decision at such a young age can be really dangerous for what comes later. If you transition and then decide to detransition later in life, it may become even worse because you’d be putting even more shit in your body and making a whole war of hormones inside of it. Of course I’m not saying that you would end up detransitioning, but keep that possibility inside of your head because honestly no one deserves to go through all of that just because of society’s gender norms. Spend time talking to yourself, not overthinking. You deserve to live a beautiful life and be a happy person 🌸
I would say you’re just panicking. The tone of your voice now sounds very similar to mine and I have never even been on t. I would advise you to still see a voice therapist because I understand how dangerous an obsession can get. I wish you all the best girlie, try not to stress about it too much! ❤️