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About me
I was born female and my discomfort started with puberty, as I hated developing breasts and becoming a woman. I believed I was a trans man and took testosterone for years before having top surgery, thinking it would fix my deep unhappiness. I eventually realized the hormones and surgery didn't solve my underlying depression and anxiety. I stopped testosterone and now I have to live with permanent changes, like my deeper voice and infertility. I see now that my problem was with sexist stereotypes, not my body, and I regret that no one encouraged me to address my real issues first.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition was complicated and, looking back, I think a lot of it was me trying to solve problems that had different roots. I was born female, and I never felt like I fit in, especially when I was a teenager. I hated going through puberty; developing breasts felt like a betrayal of my body and I had a lot of general discomfort with becoming a woman. I now see this was mixed up with low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression. I didn’t have the words for it then, but I think a lot of my feelings were related to trauma and the pressure to be a certain way.
I started identifying as non-binary in my late teens. It felt like an escape from the expectations that came with being a woman. A lot of this was influenced by what I saw online and by friends who were also exploring similar identities. It felt like a welcoming community where I finally belonged. From there, I eventually came to identify as a trans man. I believed that medically transitioning was the only way to fix the deep unhappiness I felt with my body.
I took testosterone for several years. It changed my voice and my appearance. I also got top surgery when I was 24. At the time, I was convinced it was the right choice. I hated my breasts and saw their removal as a necessary step to being my true self. For a while, I did feel better. There was a sense of relief. But after a few years, the old feelings of depression and anxiety started creeping back. The surgery and hormones hadn't fixed the underlying issues I was dealing with.
I started to detransition in my late twenties. I stopped taking testosterone. I’ve had to come to terms with the permanent changes to my body, like my deeper voice, and I am now infertile, which is a difficult reality to face. I also had a one-sided mastectomy for a non-trans related medical reason, which left me with a scar similar to top surgery, so I have a unique perspective on chest reconstruction.
My thoughts on gender have changed completely. I don’t believe in the idea of an internal gender identity anymore. I think “woman” is an adult human female, and “man” is an adult human male. The circular logic of "a woman is anyone who identifies as a woman" makes no sense to me and seems to erase the material reality of being female. I see now that my discomfort was with sexism and the stereotypes forced on women, not with my sex itself. I regret transitioning. I regret the permanent changes I made to my body, and I regret that no one ever encouraged me to explore my depression, my trauma, or my discomfort with puberty in a deeper way before I took such drastic steps.
I feel terrible for the young people being influenced online today, just like I was, who are being told that changing their bodies is the only solution to their pain. I believe we need to be able to talk about female biology and the specific challenges women face without being shamed. It feels like history is repeating itself, where women’s voices and bodies are being policed, just under a new "progressive" label.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started puberty; felt intense discomfort and hated developing breasts. |
| 19 | Began identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities and friends. |
| 21 | Started identifying as a trans man and began taking testosterone. |
| 24 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 27 | Began detransitioning; stopped taking testosterone. |
| 28 | Underwent a separate, one-sided mastectomy for a medical reason, unrelated to transition. |
Top Comments by /u/spaceboundziggy:
Literally. I’m scared to speak my mind because i don’t want to be associated with right wing super anti-trans rhetoric. I know there are sane actual trans people in the world and my heart breaks for them right now. Their identity is being turned into a joke by the radical inclusionists, not to mention the young people being sucked in and damaging their bodies forever because of misguided advice from trans activists. My heart truly goes out to them. It’s ridiculous that their answer to “what is a woman” is “anyone who identifies as a woman” that’s circular logic and doesn’t mean anything. It’s like saying “what is a banana?” “anything that is a banana” It doesn’t define it at all.
History going round in a circle 🤷♀️ Can’t talk about biological womanhood and its characteristics/struggles without being publically shamed and ostracized. Women’s bodies and our speech have always been policed, now it’s just considered “progressive” to do so. Same shit as always unfortunately :( Happens to me too ❤️
To your first point - it’s bc females are socialized to be accommodating and “kind” to everyone, esp males, either for fear of violent verbal/physical retaliation or ousting from their communities for breaking social rules. Males, even gay ones, do not have this issue. They have no problem telling females entering homosexual male spaces to fuck off (and are right to do so) bc the power imbalance there doesn’t exist. The world hates women asserting boundaries, esp when those boundaries do not cater to men, what’s new. Feel ya OP
I also wanna add that women tend to adore gay men bc those are the only type of men that they do not have to fear assault or grape from. (Granted, some gay men do struggle with personal boundaries bc they think they’re “one of the girls” but that’s besides the larger point). Males don’t systematically fear assault and grape from women so lesbians don’t make them more comfortable, they actually make them angry bc lesbian sexuality doesn’t involve men at all.
oh honey please don’t blame yourself. anyone who would break your trust in that way after committing to a relationship is nothing but a coward and an asshole. it doesn’t matter what scars or past you have, it is 100% his fault. i promise you will find someone who loves you wholly and truly. (P.S. i watched some of your videos and i don’t know if this is helpful but i’d honestly never know you’d transitioned/detransitioned at all by listening to you talk and looking at you. you honestly just look like a regular woman to me, i’m being so fucking real)
His comment said “I think you need to examine it through the lens of critical theory and queer theory to really understand the logic. It’s there if you want to see it.”
I asked for him to elaborate and he instantly blocked me. This is the third person so far in the comments that has claimed that this all makes sense in some hand-wavey magical fashion and then immediately blocks when asked to clarify. They can’t even defend or justify their own views.
You are aware that we have specific laws based on sex differences, right? And there are well-documented historical and sociological reasons for this? You’re aware that blurring the lines THIS hard takes away necessary protections that feminists fought tooth and nail to win? You sound fucking ridiculous in my replies talking about “flowergender” and in your comment history claim to be a “medical student” with literally no proof, though it’s obvious you aren’t one. (Btw, do you mean medical school? Nursing school? Dentistry? Etc?) The way you phrase your responses absolutely gives you away. Clearly an angry tucute feeling threatened. I don’t even know why you’re here.
Edit: A word
This is correct. Females do not sexualize gay males in the same way that males sexualize gay women. There is a subset of females that do sexualize gay men, but those gay men are by-and-large fictional. Those types of women (f*jos lol) often end up coming out as some flavor of trans as well bc they mistake their fanfic addiction for dysphoria.
This right here makes it so obvious that you’re a desperate internet liar. “Female” refers to biology, “woman” refers to gender. Any so-called “medical student” will tell you that, as well as anyone who has taken an entry-level biology, sociology, or psychology course. The names of genders and biological sexes do NOT coincide, to eliminate confusion such as this. And I really hate to break it to you, but even though your hormone levels may shift to those of a cisgender female after a long enough period on MtF HRT, you will never “shift into the female side of the (biological sex) spectrum” from hormones. That’s medically impossible. To do that you’d have to literally alter your DNA and chromosomes, which again, if you were a medical student as you so claim, you’d know. (And since you brought up race… Why is gender held up on this special pedestal in your eyes? You can’t have it both ways.)
Edit: typo
Happy for you! ❤️ I’ve had over-the-muscle reconstruction done on one side of my chest (not trans related, but I had a one-sided mastectomy that left me with a top-surgery style scar - long story) and I’m happy to answer any Q’s you may have now or in the future! PMs are open, wishing you the best girl ❤️❤️