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The user's comments show:
- Consistent personal history: They consistently reference their own mastectomy, hormone use, and deep regret.
- Emotional depth: The language conveys genuine, complex emotions like grief, pain, and anger, which align with the stated experiences.
- Engaged conversation: They offer support and advice that is specific to the detrans/desister experience, including nuanced topics like name changes.
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About me
I started taking hormones and had my breasts removed before I was 18, convinced it was the answer. Now, I live with constant nerve pain, exhaustion, and the deep grief of being unable to have my own children. I see now that I was just an uncomfortable kid who got swept up in something I didn't understand. My biggest regret is believing my body needed to be changed to be perfect. I want others to know they aren't trapped and that it does get better.
My detransition story
My journey into transition started when I was very young, and looking back, I feel like I was just a kid who didn't understand what was happening. I was convinced that I needed to change my body to be happy. I got on hormones and had a mastectomy before I even turned 18. At the time, I thought it was the right thing to do, but I was ignorant and completely disconnected from reality. I never really thought it through at all.
Now, I grieve my breasts deeply. It really hurts knowing a part of you is gone before you even got to know it, before you even got to fully grow up. I desire to know intimacy without the nerve pain I have now. But the hormones were the worst mistake, even more than the mastectomy. Being on these pills for the rest of my life is awful; I'm always exhausted and feel like trash. I don't have a period anymore and I'm unable to have kids. I wanted to start a family of my own one day, and that's been taken from me. It's pretty wack.
I see a lot of other people online now who seem to be going through something similar, just adopting a label that isn't really them to fit into a cool group. It makes me suspicious of the whole thing. I don't think my body needed any surgeries or alterations to be perfect. I was just uncomfortable with puberty and myself, and I got swept up in something I didn't understand.
I have so many regrets about transitioning. It was the biggest mistake of my life. But I want anyone reading this to know that you aren't trapped, not anymore. Your body is perfect the way it is. It does get better in time. I know it's hard to feel comfortable, but it's going to be OK from now on.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Under 18 | Started taking testosterone hormones. |
| Under 18 | Had a double mastectomy (top surgery). |
| 18 | Realized the extent of my regret and began to detransition. |
| Present | Living with the permanent consequences: infertility, no period, chronic fatigue, and nerve pain from surgery. |
Top Comments by /u/starberrles:
ya, big time. worst mistake. i regret it more than my mastectomy. (both are awful tho). being on these pills for the rest of my life, exhausted and feeling like trash all the time, not having a period anymore, unable to have kids and start a family of my own. pretty wack!
prob is what youre worried she is. like alot of other ppl just chronically online or dipped in the lgbtq and adopted a label that isnt even them, to fit in to the cool group
anyway she clearly doesnt have your best interests in mind, wants you to be something you arent for her, and the fact shes making an effort to force you to keep pretending your a man bc it "isnt worth it" ? + amping up the male adjectives and getting butthurt at how you choose to present your body is strange and controlling and you should prob leave
poor harry. this person sounds insufferable and narcissistic as fuck. id encourage harry to break it off and yall need to be upfront with how awful hes being no matter if he throws a fing tantrum. no seriously the fact hes sleeping around to get "real dick" is embarassing as hell and his partner needs to straighten up and LEAVE
hey there, i just want to say that you arent alone. i feel the exact same you do. i got hormones and surgeries before i was 18. i really grieve my breasts and i desire to know intimacy without nerve pain.
it really hurts knowing a part of you is gone before you even got to know it. before you even got to fully grow up. i know its hard to feel comfortable in your body, but you arent trapped, not anymore. your body is perfect the way it is and it never needs to have any other surgeries or alterations to it. its going to be OK from now on and if you want to chat my chat is open
i know, its unbelievable when you look back. i was really careless about my mastectomy, i never really thought it through at all. i was convinced i needed it...ignorance and dissconnection from reality.its very hard, i am really glad you were able to feel some sort of relief. it does get better in time & sending support
i changed my name a bunch of times before one fit. i went from my birthname, to my trans name, back to birthname, and then to three other names before i settled on the one im at now and changed to legally. its perfectly normal to not like your bname (dont like mine either) and want to change it again. not crazy, good luck