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About me
I got swept up in my friend group and identified as non-binary for a year, believing the scary stories they told me. I was made to fear women who disagreed with me, which I now see was a tactic to keep me from questioning things. The whole experience was exhausting and caused me a lot of unnecessary suffering and anger. I lost those friends, but it was for the best because I can finally think for myself. I don't regret detransitioning at all and feel a huge relief being free from that identity.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because of my friend group. I had a bunch of friends, over a dozen, who all identified as trans in some way. I got swept up in it and started identifying as non-binary and genderqueer for about a year. During that time, I was fed a lot of scary stories about "TERFs." I was made to believe they were violent, hateful, and dangerous people, but I never saw any proof. It was just stories passed around to scare us.
Looking back, I see it was a tactic. I ended up believing that just words from these women online were a threat to my safety, which seems silly now. I was scared of nonviolent women just for speaking their minds. I even knew a lesbian who was physically attacked by trans activists for no reason, which really made me question what I'd been told.
Eventually, I realized I had been influenced by my friends and the online communities I was in. The whole experience was exhausting and caused me a lot of suffering. I feel angry when I'm reminded of it, like when a pride flag shows up on my phone without my permission. It brings everything back.
I lost a lot of my "super lefty" friends over this, and while it was hard at the time, I see now it was for the best. They were exhausting to be around. My views on society have changed a lot; I think our society is sick in many ways, and it's hard to unsee that once you realize it.
I don't really have strong feelings about gender now. The whole concept seems less important after everything. My main regret is getting so caught up in something that wasn't really me and being so fearful because of lies. I don't regret detransitioning at all; it was a relief to step away from that identity.
Here is a timeline of the main events:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Around 20 | Started identifying as non-binary/genderqueer after being influenced by my friend group. |
| Around 21 | Stopped identifying as trans after realizing the beliefs I held were based on fear and not reality. |
| 24 (2022) | Felt anger and frustration at being reminded of my past transition by seeing pride flags online. |
Top Comments by /u/stonemermaid:
There's nothing wrong about any of those opinions. The wool has been pulled off of your eyes. Our society is a very sick one full of sex addicts, perverts, and the like, and somehow a lot of people don't realize that. But when you see it it's hard if not impossible to go back.
The thing with your friends is very hard though. I went through the same and honestly did not keep all of my super lefty friends. But on looking back, I see it as a good thing, because they were exhausting people to be around.
I know it seems like a really petty thing to be upset about, but I am honestly so pissed that Google decided it was okay to put this on my homescreen without asking me first. Every time I see that flag it reminds me everything I went through and all that I suffered at the hands of people in that community. I want it gone and can't figure out how to do that in my settings. Thanks in advance for any help
Literally what are you talking about? I'm legitimately having trouble following here. You're upset because a supposed TERF commented on the fact you post in r/detrans a lot? It's the internet, people are a bit rude sometimes. Do you really think that it's an issue of safety? Why exactly do you feel unsafe? It doesn't sound like anyone has told you to leave, threatened you, called you slurs, or anything like that. Is someone disagreeing with you online seriously an issue of safety in your mind?
It's quite clear you didn't actually read what I wrote, which is fine, but I don't know why you're bothering to reply if that's the case. You can find answers to all of those questions here, and us big meanie TERFs won't interfere, I promise. Grow up for God's sake.
So bizarre. Neither of the two links you posted include ANYTHING about children being harassed or harmed by evil scary terves. Look, I completely understand where you're at and how you ended up with these beliefs. I identified as trans (non-binary/genderqueer) for close to a year. My whole friend group at that point was trans, I'm talking over a dozen people I knew who were all various flavors of trans-identified. And believe me, I heard it all. I also ended up believing that so-called TERFs were bloodthirsty, violent, hateful, and above all, dangerous. The funny thing was, none of the stories I heard ever came with any proof. They were just make believe scare tactics, repeated around like an endless game of telephone dressed up as activism. Is it possible that maybe these stories you've heard, but can't seem to back up, are similarly untrue?
Radical feminists are just ordinary women from all walks of life. The vast, vast majority of us are not violent or dangerous in the least. We just have strong boundaries and think that many things happening currently are detrimental to the safety of women and children. No "TERF" I have ever known has ever committed an act of violence, but I can't say the same for trans activists. I knew a woman, a lesbian, who was beaten up at a bar by 3 trans activists- she didn't lay a hand on anyone before that happened, it came out of nowhere. You say you're scared from thinking that this subreddit might have TERFs in it, but if you are genuinely frightened by just words, not even acts of violence, but words on the internet, it might be time to rethink your views on some things. Being scared of nonviolent women just because we speak our minds is no way to live. And again, I know this, cuz I was basically you about two years ago.