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- Personal, nuanced reflection on their own experience with identity and detransition.
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About me
I was a girl who felt uncomfortable with my body at 13 and was influenced online to believe I was trans. I transitioned socially and then medically, but testosterone made me sick and gave me even more body issues. I'm thankful I never had surgery, as I stopped hormones and began to question everything. I now see I was trying to escape my other problems, including internalized homophobia. I've detransitioned, am learning to accept my female body, and am focused on moving forward from the permanent changes.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was really young, around 13. I was a girl who felt incredibly uncomfortable with my body, especially when I started developing breasts during puberty. I hated them; they felt foreign and wrong on me. I spent a lot of time online, and I was influenced by the communities I found there. People kept telling me that my discomfort meant I was probably trans. I had a lot of other issues going on too—bad depression, serious anxiety, and very low self-esteem. I now realize I was also struggling with internalized homophobia; the idea of being a lesbian felt wrong to me, and being a straight man felt like an escape from that.
When I was 15, I socially transitioned. I started binding my chest and asking people to use a different name and he/him pronouns. I think a part of me always knew I was doing it because I wanted to escape being me, not because I was truly a man. But everyone around me, especially online, was so supportive and affirming, telling me I was definitely trans. It felt like I was finally getting the approval I craved.
A couple of years later, when I was 18, I started testosterone. I was still suicidal, but for reasons completely separate from gender. The T did change my voice and give me some facial hair, but it also caused some serious health complications that were really scary. I started to develop a lot of body dysmorphia on top of everything else. It’s funny, in a sad way—I ended up developing more dysphoria after I took on the trans identity than I ever had before.
I never got top surgery or bottom surgery. I had talked about it a lot online, warning others that bottom surgery is very expensive, dangerous with risks of infection, and often doesn't look like what people hope for. I pointed to people like Blaire White who live happily without it. I also knew that the effects of HRT and breast augmentation are mostly reversible, but bottom surgery is permanent. I’m so thankful now that I never went through with any operations.
I stopped hormones after less than a year because of the health problems. That’s when I started to seriously question everything. I realized I had been influenced by online rhetoric and by friends who were also transitioning. I started to see how toxic it was that people would say, "If you do this, you are trans but don’t know it yet." It felt just as bad as toxic masculinity telling guys that doing certain things makes them gay.
Now, I’ve detransitioned. I don’t use any labels anymore and I don’t care about pronouns. I’m just me. I have some regrets about transitioning, mainly about the permanent voice change and the time I lost. I’m now infertile because of the testosterone, which is a hard thing to live with. My thoughts on gender now are that your presentation doesn't make up who you are at your core. I’m working on accepting my female body and learning to live with the changes. I’m trying to move forward, to let the past fade into the background so I can make room for new things in my life.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 13 | ~2015 | Started hating breast development during puberty, spent a lot of time online. |
| 15 | ~2017 | Socially transitioned, started binding, used a new name and he/him pronouns. |
| 18 | 2020 | Started testosterone. |
| 19 | 2021 | Stopped testosterone due to serious health complications. Began to detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/succuma:
No offense but literally everything you wrote here screams to me “I’m a guy”
Your idea of women is… um… imprecise, to say the least. (Isn’t it also a common troupe in society and on 4chan for guys to fetishize (anime) lesbians? What woman does that? I see more commonly for them it’s yaoi or something… also, every human wants a loving and romantic relationship, man or woman.)
I never thought about it that way. We always say “doing XYZ does NOT make you gay. Take down toxic masculinity” but it’s okay for people to say “well, if you do this, you are trans but don’t know it yet”. Like how is that attitude not equally as toxic???
You just are on a different path. There is no rush to act on this feelings (as you have in the past). Just take things one step at a time. You presentation does not make up who you are at you’re core.
Límpida once said about acceptance:
You will never get back what you lost, but if you don’t continue on, if you don’t learn to work around it and with it, if you don’t let it fade into the background, you will never take in anything new either, you’ll never take the risks needed to make up for what you lost.
I’m sorry this happened to you so quickly and at such a young age from years of online rhetoric. Make sure to take care of yourself first and foremost, and I wish you luck going forward. I’m happy to hear you at least have a partner that will understand ;; No need to rush a feminine presentation right away if you have negative emotions surrounding it at the moment! I hope they pass soon, too
Milo Stewart was the OG uwu smol bean transman youtuber who got dragged for coming up with (or copying) the #72Genders. They went on T for only a little while and then stopped and go by NB now instead.
Being is nothing like Milo and definitely wasnt a "trender", also detransitioned due to health complications and doesnt wanna go by a label anymore, they dont care for pronouns.
she doesn't have to get bottom surgery ! actually, it's v expensive, dangerous (infections ect.), and does not look like what the finished product should look like. there are plenty of transwomen who are able to live happily w/o the bottom surgery. Blaire White and Miss London, for example. remember, the effects of HRT and breast augmentation are for the most part reversible should she choose to detransition (or she was unhappy with the surgery's end results) but bottom surgery stays ! also, a lot of young women get caught up in beauty which leads down to unhealthy paths such as eating disorders, body dismorphia and insecurity in their own skin so remember that trying to be beautiful isn't everything in life !
Makes sense ^^
It’s funny cause I ended up developing dysphoria after taking on the identity.
Also never really “pretended to be trans” so much as people kept telling me that I was even though I knew in my heart of hearts I was doing it cause I WANTED to, not because I should/had to for XYZ reason, suicide, or whatever (though at the time I was suicidal, for different reasons).