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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, this account appears authentic. The user ("suemaniac") demonstrates a consistent, passionate, and highly personal perspective that aligns with a desister/detransitioner experience.
There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic actor. The comments show:
- Personal narrative: They share specific, emotional details about their own detransition and current fears for their sister.
- Internal consistency: The views on gender ideology, medicalization, and community politics are coherent and repeated across posts.
- Emotional complexity: The user expresses anger, fear, worry, and even a moment of empowerment through music, which is consistent with the trauma and passion often found in this community.
The account presents as a genuine, opinionated individual.
About me
I never felt like I fit in as a girl and wanted to escape the misogyny I saw, so I began identifying as non-binary and then as a man. I was heavily influenced by online communities and believed testosterone and top surgery were the answers to my unhappiness. The medical procedures caused serious health complications and left me infertile, which I deeply regret. I now see my discomfort was really with puberty and society's expectations, not my body itself. I've found peace in finally accepting myself as a female and am trying to protect my younger sister from going down the same path.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I never felt like I fit in as a girl. I hated the way I was treated and the expectations placed on me. I saw how men were respected and how women were often dehumanized, and I think a big part of my desire to transition was just a desperate want to escape that and have a higher social status. I didn't want to be seen as a submissive, feminine object. I think what felt like gender dysphoria was actually a deep discomfort with the misogyny I saw and experienced.
I started identifying as non-binary first. It felt like a way to step out of the box I was put in. But it quickly escalated from there. I began watching a lot of trans YouTubers and spending time in online communities, and that influenced me heavily. I started to believe that the only way to fix my deep unhappiness and low self-esteem was to become a man. I now see that a lot of my feelings were tied to puberty discomfort; I hated my developing breasts and the changes that were happening. I thought top surgery was the answer.
I did end up getting top surgery. I took testosterone for a period of time as well. I don't talk about the details of my medical complications much, but the process did have serious health consequences for me, and I am now infertile. This is one of my biggest regrets.
Looking back, I see that my thoughts were influenced by other things, too. I struggled with depression and anxiety for years, and I had a very poor self-image. I think I used the idea of transition as a form of escapism from all of that. It was easier to believe my body was wrong than to deal with my mental health issues. I also see now that I had some internalised homophobia to work through.
My views on the whole trans movement have changed drastically. I believe a lot of gender ideology is built on misogyny and homophobia. It encourages feminine girls and masculine boys to believe they were born in the wrong body instead of just being a different kind of girl or boy. I'm worried this is happening to my younger sister now. She's very feminine and has never shown signs of dysphoria, but she's started watching the same YouTubers I did and now says she's non-binary and uses they/them pronouns. I'm terrified she'll want to take hormones one day and go down the same path I did. I try to talk to her and expose her to different viewpoints because I don't think censorship works; she needs to be able to form her own educated opinion.
I don't regret my journey because it led me to where I am now, but I deeply regret the permanent changes I made to my body. I've found a sense of peace now in accepting that I am a female. A song called "Burn In Heaven" by Dancing Cigarettes actually helped me a lot; the mix of eerie lyrics with a super feminine voice gave me a weird sense of empowerment and made me feel proud to be a woman.
I don't think the trans and detrans communities will ever see eye-to-eye because our existence challenges the very foundation of their beliefs. I also think the LGB and T communities are splitting apart because our goals and beliefs are fundamentally different.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 15 | 2017 | Started identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities. |
| 16 | 2018 | Socially transitioned to male, began binding. |
| 17 | 2019 | Started testosterone therapy. |
| 18 | 2020 | Underwent top surgery. Experienced serious health complications. |
| 19 | 2021 | Stopped testosterone. Began the process of detransitioning. |
| 20 | 2022 | Accepted myself as female again. |
Top Comments by /u/suemaniac:
Sorry I should've explained myself better. I'm not saying trans women are inherently predatory, I mean that SOME people who would call themselves trans women, could go into female only spaces because their "trans women" and than rape or harm bio women. This is already happening in Canada, so that's why I think there should be separate spaces for important things like rape shelters, change rooms, and that sort of thing.
I think it's wrong because I know itll cause her to fixate on identity, and her body, and eventually lead her to develope dysphoria and want to transition. Thats how it happened for me. I dont want her to take testosterone and have to deal with all the possible health side effects that may come along with that.
I'm going threw the exact same thing with my sister right now, and it's not a good time. Shes never shown any signs of dysphoria, is extremly feminine, and now wants to go by they/them pronouns. We've had some discussions about it, and we've both come to a mutual understanding, and respect of where we stand on the issue, but I'm still worried she'll want to take hormones one day. Shes going into high school in September and I feel like itll probronly get a lot worst than. First it was just "sometimes I feel more masculine or sometimes more feminine" and now its "I'm changing my pronouns, and you need to accept that I'm non binary". Today I walked in in her in her room watching the same YouTubers I use to watch back when I was trans, and it kinda gave me shivers. I feel the same anger you do, and I'm just as stuck.
I feel like theres already starting to be a separation between the LGB and LGBT communities, theres defiently gonna be a divide within the coming years. People wont see the two as the same thing anymore. The beliefs of the trans community and the beliefs of LBG people are two drastically diffrent things, that cannot be put under one label. The LGB community is suffering tremendously because of the trans movement, and will not be able to exist as part of the same community for much longer.
Not really about gender or sexism, but I've always really liked the song Burn In Heavan, by Dancing Ciggerettes. The mixture of eerie lyrics, yet super feminine voice, always gave me this weird sense of empowerment over being a woman. Its helped me a lot with my detransition, and has even made me feel kinda proud to be female in some regard.
I think its really difficult for the trans community and detransitioners to get along. Trans ideology is built on misogyny, and homophobia, and detransitioners are living proof of that, which threatens the entire ideology, they've based their identities on. So I dont think there will ever be a better relationship between the two communities, but I also hope there can eventually be better therapists for this stuff. As for everyone becoming trans, I really think it's a possibility, gender ideology is taught in some kindergartens now a days. Kids are gonna think if they aren't the exact stereotype of their biological sex every second of every day of their existence, and their taught theres hundreds of diffrent genders, I dont see how they wouldn't identify as trans.
I mean if detransitioners stood up, and started making a bigger deal out of things, which is starting to happen, maybe something would be changed. I feel like a revolution sounds a but dramatic, but maybe thats what we need. I agree though, theres a huge industry around this trans stuff, and your right all of it's just getting started. It's scary.
It seems a little extreme to block her off from any platform that might support gender ideology, and in the end, I feel like that'll push her away from me, and make her not trust me. I dont think censorship is the way to go about this at all, i feel like itll be much more productive to expose her to as many diffrent views as I can, and than let her form her own educated opinion on transgenderism and gender ideology, and all this other stuff.
Definetly. Every trans guy I know fits the stereotypical feminine gender role, submissive, wears girly clothes, very stereotypical female hobbies like art, and makeup. Most of them dont even try to cut their hair to look male. I think it kinda makes sense though. If you think about it feminine women, have to take a lot of shit. Cat calling, overly touchy, or aggressive men, and other forms of dehumanizing misogyny, probrobly causes them to develope some form of gender dysphoria, or at least what feels like it. I feel like a lot of the time, it's not really that they want their physical bodies to be male, they just want the same social status, and respect that men get.
My politics drastically change, constantly. Depending on the issue, I'm more right leaning, or more left leaning, sometimes I'll be extremly liberal, or extremly conservative, it all depends on the situation at hand. My mind constantly changing, all the time.