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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, there are no serious red flags indicating this account is inauthentic, a bot, or not a genuine desister.
The user's comments display a consistent, personal narrative of desisting after considering transition, with specific, plausible details about their motivations (e.g., social insecurity, seeking a "quick fix") and what helped them (e.g., career, relationships, Jordan Peterson). The tone is passionate and often angry, which is consistent with someone who feels harmed by an ideology they once embraced. The arguments are complex, refer to personal experiences, and engage with other users' specific points, which is not typical of bot behavior. While the user holds strong political opinions, these views are a common part of the discourse in the community and do not in themselves suggest inauthenticity.
About me
I was a depressed young man who felt like a failure and thought becoming a woman would magically fix my life. I got sucked into online communities that encouraged this as escapism from my real problems with self-esteem and my identity. I'm thankful I never medically transitioned and instead left that world behind to focus on my career and real-life goals. Now I see that my issues were internal, not about being the wrong sex, and I had to build a better life as a man. I believe gender ideology preys on vulnerable people, and true happiness comes from fixing your actual problems, not changing your body.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was a teenager, feeling insecure and like I was low status in my friend groups. I was born male, but I had a small, feminine body and, like a lot of emo kids in the 2000s, I thought I was bisexual because the politics at the time made being straight seem bad. A big part of it was that I couldn't get laid. I was looking for a quick fix for all my problems, and the trans pipeline seemed like an answer. I was really lazy and wanted something to magically make everything better. I didn't know how to become a good man, and it felt too hard or even impossible to figure out what I needed to do.
I had a lot of low self-esteem and depression. I now realize I was using the idea of transition as a form of escapism, a way to run away from my actual life and the things I was unhappy with. I was influenced a lot by online communities and the leftist ideology that was gaining traction, which pushed this idea that gender is just a social construct while also saying you need to take hormones to be the right gender. It didn't make any sense to me, but it felt like a cult where you were afraid to think logically.
I was also struggling with what I now recognize was a form of OCD. It made me obsessive and destructive, always trying to "fix" things that I thought were wrong with me or my life. I think this played a huge role in latching onto trans thoughts. I had a serious porn problem and was fascinated by fetishes, which added another layer of confusion to my sexuality. I spent way too much time online, in fantasy worlds and fetish communities, which completely disconnected me from reality and my own body.
Luckily, I never actually took hormones or had any surgeries. I desisted before it got to that point. What helped me was getting out of that toxic online pipeline. I cut out the friends and media that were pushing me into dysphoric thinking. I started focusing on self-improvement. Getting a career, finding hobbies, and eventually getting a girlfriend made a world of difference. My parents were supportive but also a bit conservative and strict; they pushed me to be "normal," and that structure helped immensely. Listening to people like Jordan Peterson and focusing on setting real-life goals gave me the direction I needed.
I also benefited from realizing that a lot of my feelings were rooted in internalized issues, not in actually being the wrong sex. I hated the idea that my value as a man was low, and I thought transitioning would solve that. But I learned that life isn't fair for anyone. Many men struggle and are invisible. The idea of "male privilege" is a fantasy for most guys who aren't at the top. 80% of suicide victims are men—that statistic alone says a lot about the male experience.
I don't regret transitioning because I never medically did it, but I deeply regret ever going down that path mentally. I regret the time I wasted and the damage that thinking did to me. I now see gender ideology as a harmful political movement that uses vulnerable people as sacrificial pawns. It's a creepy thing that paralyzes people and steals their life functionality, all for other people's monetary gain and value signaling.
My thoughts on gender now are simple: men and women are different, like leopards and lions. One is bigger and stronger, but both are impressive animals. The constant hate directed at either gender is depressing. I believe most people who want to transition are just unhappy for other reasons—trauma, discomfort with puberty, low self-esteem, or internalized homophobia. They're looking for a magic bullet, but it doesn't exist. You have to fix your actual life.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14-16 | Felt insecure, low status in friend groups. Identified as bisexual due to social pressure. Felt unable to attract women. |
| 17-20 | Explored trans ideology online as a solution to my problems. Struggled with depression, low self-esteem, and escapism. |
| 21-26 | Began to desist. Focused on self-improvement: career, hobbies (PUA), and relationships. Found support in conservative, goal-oriented content. |
| 27 | Fully rejected trans ideology. Gained a stable relationship and a clear perspective on gender and my own identity. |
Top Comments by /u/superioarboat666:
Why are they so fragile?
Because they are likely living a lie that even made their own lives worst. Look at the Karolinska Institute study. They set out to try to find how great trans surgery was, turned out it didnt improve life quality and trans people still had sky-high suicide rates.
I think the leftist "runaway" worldview and a lot of "gender is a social construct" stuff have created a lot of harmful and conflicting ideas.
- Gender is a social construct.
- You need to take biological hormones to be the correct gender.
It doesent make any sense anymore, but like any cult/religion, the crazier the idea the better for making people afraid to think logically.
- Insecure, often low status in friend groups.
- Small feminine body, and like all 2000s emo kids I thought I was bisexual, because the lefty identitarianist politics had just started to gain traction. Straight was bad.
- I couldnt get laid.
Classical trans pipeline basically.
Getting laida eventually, getting a career and a goal, and having supportive (and a bit conservative) parents helped a lot. They were supportive, while pushing me to be "normal" at the same time.
I think thats really the core, not abusive parents, but strict.
On paper, this sounds ridiculous and would be easily dismissed by most rational people. However, when we are so disassociated from our bodies from being online too much, or are otherwise just mentally suffering for whatever reason, how could this not be enticing idea to make our problems seemingly go away?
A 100%-. I once got into an argument attacking my post history on r/banpitbulls, saying "I had nothing better to do" because I argued on the internet for banning the breeding of pit bulls.
So I had a look at the posters post history to get an understanding of what "amazing things" they allegedly did with their life.
Turned out to be furry-fetish gear, audio-porn and trans-sites. Complete focus on the self and imaginary avatar-beings as a representation for the self. It feels like a lot of these escapist but very personal fantasies correlate with wanting to turn trans, when youve basically given up on reality, and escaping from the self is the only way to live.
Women and men are like leopards and lions - one is bigger and stonger, but both are impressive animals.
Thank you. Someone writing positive things about both genders just makes me feel good. Its so depressing with the gender hate in either direction really.
A great critique of Mr.Turban, seems a lot of his studies are basically scientific-fraud, bending the data as it suits him.
At least Karolinska went out with an errata and stopped using puberty blockers when it was found out that a research group had done the same: https://news.ki.se/transgender-individuals-at-greater-risk-of-mental-health-problems
What treatment can cure my dysphoria other than transtitioning? I do not wish to have these feelings and if i could stop wanting to transtition i would.
- Get out of the trans ideology pipeline, find other things to focus on, other friends and hobbies.
- Get your life together, figure out if you have trauma, get a job, friends and activities.
- Let things take time- a ton of people have gender dysphoria, early studies before they started getting HRT and gender ideology made youth think theres an "out", 88% or something like that snapped out of it, and didnt have dysphoria when they went from 12-14 to 20+.
my plan now was to go get a recommendation from a therapist. I was lucky and didn’t get a “gender therapist” I got a serious real deal therapist.
What scares me are countries were its "conversion therapy" and illegal to make someone not transition.
I cant exactly prove it, I think maybe watching James Lindsay or Jordan Peterson might explain some of this madness.
What I suspect is something along the lines of:
- Leftism always needs a reason to have a revolution and to destroy some other ruling society to exist.
- Even when women are men are as free from gender roles as they can be, we need to make people believe there are extreme crushing gender roles, so crushing they have to change gender.
- Critical race theory makes white people evil no matter what they do- but trans people have a different status, they somehow dont count. This is the only "out" because good actions dont exist in the postmodern left anymore. All that matters is group belonging.
Tbh I wish I was a boy so I could be free from sexism and had male privilege.
Have a serious look at subs such as r/transmaxxing.
Men that transition are a great example of why "male privilege" is really not that great, and the men that women think of as having it, are just the extremely popular men that they register.
For a well-functioning woman, low-status men are pretty much invisible in your mental map except as "ew thats uncomfortable and scary".
20-30% of the male experience is just sad honestly, and 80% of suicide victims are male, and it has stayed like this for about a 100 years.
Another thing I noticed is that maybe yaoi could be playing a huge role in this. I’ve had many ftms tell me that yaoi is what made them realize that they are trans. I’ve had a huge yaoi addiction since I was 14, and over time I started wishing that I was a boy. There’s other reasons why I wished I was a guy, I’m jealous they could do whatever they want, and no periods.
You have to realize these are drawn men, as made by women, for women. They are a perfect projection of what women want, and absolutely not a biological male.
Read a few mainstream hentai, do you feel the women there are representative for what women are? Ofcourse not.