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About me
I started transitioning because I was deeply unhappy and confused, believing it was the answer to my depression and body issues. I began taking hormones and almost had surgery, but I realized I was just trying to fit a social stereotype instead of fixing my real problems. Getting pregnant was a turning point that made me celebrate my female body and see that my desire to transition was a temporary fix. I stopped hormones and found therapy that built my confidence in my biological self, which helped me address the real roots of my pain. Now I feel like I'm living in reality again, having learned that I was trying to solve internal pain with an external change.
My detransition story
My journey with all of this started from a place of deep confusion and discomfort. Looking back, I believe the root of it was a mix of depression and what I now understand to be body dysmorphia, not true gender dysphoria. I went through a period where I hated my body, especially my breasts, and felt completely disconnected from the idea of being a woman. This was during a very low point in my life, and I think I was looking for any way to escape from myself.
I started to believe that transitioning was the answer. I was influenced a lot by what I saw online and by friends who were also questioning their gender. It felt like the only way to fix the deep unhappiness I felt. I began to socially transition and started taking hormones. I even got to the point where I was considering top surgery. The whole idea was sold as this magical solution, a way to finally become who you were "meant" to be on the inside.
But for me, it was a fantasy world built on a feeling. I started to realize that no matter what I did, I could never actually change my biological sex. The surgeries create a visual stereotype, not the real thing. I began to question why I felt the need to alter my body to fit a stereotype, especially when I knew in my mind that gender roles are meaningless social constructs. If they mean nothing, why was I trying so hard to fit into one?
A major turning point for me was getting pregnant. It forced me to confront my biological reality in a way I couldn't ignore. I celebrated what my body could do and began to appreciate my femininity for the first time. It was like a cloud lifted. I realized that my desire to transition was a temporary fix for a much deeper, lifelong problem with my mental health and self-esteem. I had been trying to solve internal pain with an external change, and it was never going to work.
I don't regret exploring transition because it led me to this realization, but I deeply regret that I ever started down that path medically. I was lucky I stopped before any permanent surgeries. I’ve heard from others who weren’t so lucky and now have serious health complications or are infertile, and my heart breaks for them.
I benefited greatly from a type of therapy that wasn't about affirming my gender feelings but about building confidence in my biological self. It helped me separate a fleeting "want" from a true "need." The need was to address my depression and dysmorphia, not to change my body.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's a social fiction. We've created these boxes and then people are hurting themselves to try and fit into them. The whole conversation has become so toxic. If you question anything, you're immediately called a bigot and attacked. The communities that claim to be the most inclusive are often the most exclusionary to anyone who thinks differently. It’s a pitchfork society over there.
I found my way out by listening to that little voice inside that said something felt wrong. My grandpa used to say, "if it feels wrong, it is." And he was right. I finally feel like I'm living in reality again.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| My Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 24 | 2021 | Began socially identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities and friends. |
| 25 | 2022 | Started testosterone hormone therapy. Deeply unhappy, struggling with depression and body dysmorphia. |
| 26 | 2023 | Stopped hormone therapy. Realized it was a fantasy solution, not addressing the root mental health issues. |
| 26 | 2023 | Became pregnant. This experience helped me reconnect with and celebrate my biological female body. |
| 26 | 2023 | Began non-affirming gender confidence therapy, which greatly benefited me and solidified my decision to detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/tacoribiotch:
No one is trans. Transitioning is an action to a problem that doesn’t exist in normal reality. Your mind’s idea of what reality is… is the problem. Those in question need to be evaluated by therapists that specialize in gender questioning and gender confidence therapy. You cannot set a goal for yourself that you will never achieve. The key to overall happiness doesn’t mean altering your biological body for life for the “feeling” of something that doesn’t exist in normal everyday reality.
Why are you putting yourself in a box? Gender roles are nothing. It’s 2023. Transitioning surgery is just that of a visual stereotype of what a penis looks like right? It’s not an actual penis which can function as such. I’m not sure how that helps anyone with stereotype/role issues.
It's literally a pissing match. No you offended me.... no you offended me by using this word. It's a literal mess and everyone has boundaries but the whole idea of making someone comfortable can make the other person uncomfortable. So how is that fair? You can't say anything anymore without some sort of repercussion. I stay far away from those communities because it's a pitchfork society over there, when they claim to "love to all" and "welcome everyone" it's the farthest thing for the truth...there should be a disclaimer, "if it fits their narrative".
You don’t make sense. If you know gender roles mean nothing, why attach a “femme” thing/action (not even sure what action/thing that is besides menstruating and carrying a baby) to your everyday way of thinking/carrying yourself? If you feel you have to prove yourself to anyone, that’s another issue too.
First off, I’m sorry you had to deal with those words being said to you during your childhood and the abuse you endured in college. Just some thoughts reading your post. I’m not sure what you mean by, “headspace” of a woman? What does that mean? Aside from not having thin hair, what do you enjoy about feeling like a woman? If sexually you don’t feel the essence of being a woman, what is keeping you in this mindset of wanting to be a woman?
This is what happens when people are one sided. The pro trans movement is all about equality and just wanting to live how they desire, but when it comes to differing opinions about their choices, it’s an immediate block. This is why it’s hypocritical because they say “right wing people” are one sided and see only their “anti” side but in reality, they are the one minded ones. We’ve seen what it does to people and the mental repercussions of it all but yet they continue to push transition. They don’t want to hear about the repercussions of it all because it doesn’t help their movement. It’s sick really.
The root of this all is your gender dysmorphia mixed with clinical depression. We cannot just play pretend. It’s not reality. It is a temp fix for a lifelong problem. When I got pregnant, I realized this is not something I wanted and celebrated my femininity and biological body. great resources gender confidence therapy. Google it.
What I don’t understand, is if it’s about “identifying as a different gender” then why have surgery? Then, they are on the same thread saying “just because you want a beard doesn’t make you a boy, you can have a beard and be fem, gender is fluid” i just don’t understand that. It’s a fantasy world of a “feeling inside” when it’s really just a mental disorder of dysmorphia.
But you can- shake it. Look how much you have overcome. How much you have recognized that is not good for you, not a healthy way to live. You’ve done what some cannot…is realizing that something doesn’t feel right.
My grandpa used to say, if it feels wrong, it is.
It’s as simple as that. I’m proud you found the light and that you’ve been creating a circle of new friends/partners that recognize and support you.
When something clicks, when humans see the light, when you feel that pressure lift… you come out of whatever cloud you’ve been under… to me, that is goodness shining in. It’s rays of just pure love from God. It’s hard to recognize that for some, but it is just the comfort of GOOD. Evil and immoral principles are everywhere in society now. If you question things you are a bigot. If you go “against the grain”…if you want to even learn more, you get attacked and cast as a traitor. But you are not. Nobody that questions anything in this world is that.
Godspeed, Jack. I’m proud of you.
I recently read this article because I was just curious what the statistics are for regret. I have a dear friend who is transitioning from a he to a she with hormones and considering surgery. I think as teens you aren’t mature enough to really understand yet, and it takes therapy and good hard look at whom you want to be. It’s a question I often think about. Walt Heyer Story