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About me
I never felt normal and hated gender roles, so I thought becoming a man was the answer. I lived as a trans man for years and bound my chest, which caused severe, lasting nerve damage that still causes me daily pain. I realized I didn't want to be trans anymore because it made me miserable and never truly fixed my discomfort. Now, I've detransitioned and live as a woman, feeling freer and more beautiful than ever before, embracing both my masculine and feminine traits. My biggest regret is the harm I caused my body, and I believe it's crucial for young people to wait before making such permanent decisions.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started because I never felt normal. I really hated gender roles and I think that was a big part of why I started identifying as trans. At the time, it felt like the obvious solution to my discomfort, but looking back, it wasn't the right answer for me.
I lived as a trans man for several years. During that time, I bound my chest regularly. I knew it could cause back issues or damage breast tissue, and I thought that was a risk I was willing to take. But I ended up with something much worse: severe neuropathy in my arms, chest, and hands. I haven't bound my chest in over six months, but I'm still suffering from this pain. It's some of the most intense pain I've ever felt. I have trouble sleeping and I have to use heat pads on my arms at work almost daily. It's really damaged my quality of life and my mental health. I'm finally seeing a doctor for it, but it's a daily struggle. This experience taught me that your health is the most important thing. Being trans never made me feel as trapped in my body as this chronic pain has.
I also thought a lot about taking testosterone, but my own health issues and hearing from other detransitioned women about long-term effects on things like bladder and genital health made me decide against it. I came to believe that it's not natural to take these hormones and we don't know what the effects will be decades from now.
The turning point for me was when I realized I didn't want to be trans anymore. It was a hard path that consumed a lot of time, energy, and money, and it never actually made me a man. It made dating difficult, was awkward at work, and strained my relationship with my parents. I felt miserable. I decided to try living as a woman again, but I started privately. I went into it with an open mind, really wanting to be okay with it. I remember the first time I bought a bra and put it on; I cried because it was the first time in my life I ever felt beautiful as a woman. That moment made me rethink everything.
Since detransitioning, I feel so much freer. I don't try to fit into a box. I still wear a lot of my men's clothes and have "male" hobbies, but I've also embraced doing feminine things that I used to avoid because I thought they made me "not trans enough." I'm a bisexual woman and I'm comfortable with that. I'm happier and more confident now that I've accepted my birth sex. I feel like I was more trapped by gender roles when I was trying to transition than I am now.
I don't believe anyone is truly born trans; I think it's a choice people make to live that way. For me, and for many others, it was a mistake. I have deep regrets about the physical damage I did to my body through binding. I think it's crucial for young people to wait until they are older and have more life experience before making any permanent decisions. A lot of us simply grow out of those feelings.
My thoughts on gender now are that the ideology can be harmful. I'm against men being in women's spaces, and I feel a responsibility to share my story to hopefully prevent others from going through the same pain and regret that I have.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
Age | Event |
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Teen Years | Started feeling uncomfortable with gender roles and not "normal." Began to identify as trans. |
Early 20s | Started socially transitioning and living as a man. Began binding my chest regularly. |
Mid 20s | Developed severe neuropathy from chest binding. The chronic pain became a major issue. |
26 | Stopped binding after years of doing it. The nerve pain persisted. |
27 | Had the realization that I didn't want to be trans anymore. Began privately trying to live as a woman again. The experience of wearing a bra for the first time and feeling beautiful was a pivotal moment. |
27 (present) | Fully detransitioned. Living as a woman and feeling more free and comfortable in myself than ever before. |
Top Comments by /u/taintedmoondust:
As someone with chronic health issues (not related to T) I would seriously consider the health risks that taking cross sex hormones will have on your body in the long run. At the end of the day you can decide to live as trans or not but your health is so so so important most people don’t ever understand how having a functioning body is more important than almost anything else. I’ve heard detrans women talk about long term affects to their bladder and genital health that can be very damaging. I have neuropathy from binding along with other things. Do what it takes to stay alive of course but if you can avoid risking your health you will be better off for it. It’s not natural to take hormones and it’s not understood yet what it will affect decades from now. Being trans never made me feel as trapped in my body as chronic pain has. Best of luck stranger 💕
It’s rude to make that assumption, I’m a bisexual woman that has romantically dated men and women and I think it’s likely I’ll end up settling down with a woman… don’t tell me I don’t belong in queer spaces when I have serious queer relationships!! Not everyone fits in a box
Since you seem concerned about the potential effects of binding I just want to share my experience about how binding affected my health because I wish I had been warned about stuff like this. I was prepared for potential back issues and potential damage to my breast tissue back when I was binding, none of that is a good thing at all of course but I justified it in my head and I wish that was all that happened because I was not expecting to develop severe neuropathy in my arms chest and hands. I am still suffering from this and I haven’t been binding for over 6 months now and I wish so much that I didn’t set myself up to be in so much pain and agony. I barely sleep a lot of nights and I wear heat pads on my arms almost daily at work. Im finally getting my pain treated seriously and started seeing a doctor recently but it’s still interfering with my life daily. I have never been in pain this intense in my entire life and it truly is damaging my life and my mental health in a lot of ways. Please try and take care of your body first because your health and wellness are one of the most important things!! I know how uncomfortable you can feel about your chest but it’s not worth the risk of developing severe issues like I have. I wasn’t even overdoing it based on what is recommended for binding but I still pay the price with pain and numbness daily. Best of luck
Why are you here? We are here to support each other and support the very real trauma people go through after transition due to regret. It is underreported and underrepresented but the astounding amount of people here proves that it is a devastating decision for many, not all of course but many. I would never ever advise someone to alter their body in ways that could have complications and regret in the way medical transition does especially anything surgical. You sound like you belong in another subreddit
This community is supposed to be supportive of those who have DEtransitioned, not people who are trans identified. Due to the our lives experiences it’s our right to feel however we feel about transgender issues now, and there are many reasons why someone would care about what others do for example, many (not all) people coming out and starting to transition are very young, and vulnerable. That’s the case for many people here who live with crippling regret so it’s understandable people are against it. I personally am also against women’s spaces being for anyone aside from biological females, which also involves what other people could be doing. I don’t believe anyone is trans, you do, that’s fine but this is our place you don’t need to come here to defend trans identified people who aren’t the ones getting their voices silenced in the first place
My first thought about not being trans was that I didn’t WANT to be trans because of how it had negatively affected me and would continue to do so the further along that path I went. It’s a hard path, you spend so much time, energy and money on something that never really makes you the opposite sex. I decided that I think no one is trans, people just choose to live that way and I didn’t want to live that way. It made dating hard, it was awkward to handle at work, it strained my relationship with my parents, it made me feel miserable in my body. I decided I would try and go back to living as a woman privately at first, with a completely open and willing mind. Every time I put on a bra or makeup while identifying as trans I went into it expecting myself to be uncomfortable, not really open to the idea that I would maybe be okay with it because I was scared to think about being wrong when I was so sure for years I was right. But I went into it wanting to be okay as a woman. I know not every woman likes feminine clothing/hairstyles and makeup but I decided to try and see if there was anything I’d be comfortable doing. The first bra I bought from target made me cry because it was the first time in my life I’d ever felt beautiful as a woman. It kind of made me seriously think about everything I’d been through that led me to where I was and I decided it would be very hard to go back but I had to try because I wanted to live life without the judgement from others and the struggles I had up until then. I still struggle some days but im definitely a lot more comfortable happy and confident since I’ve accepted my birth sex. I don’t try and make myself fit into a box, I still have a lot of my men’s clothing and I still have all the same hobbies that align with what people think of as male activities. But I also have started doing more feminine things as well that I kind of held back from while trying to live as a man because it made me feel not trans enough. I’m happy being me and I’m happy that I’ve decided not to put my body and my mind through the stress of hormones and surgery. Just being yourself frees you, I feel so much more free now and I feel like I was more trapped in gender roles back then than I am now. I would say that some people make it work for sure, but it is something you’re choosing to do and not something you were born with. If anything my advice to you would be to please wait until you’re older so your brain is more developed and you have more adult life experience before making any decisions to transition medically. So many people that have live with crippling regret and it breaks my heart. A lot of us grew out of it and it’s better to be safe and wait than to risk putting yourself in a worse position. Try and love yourself where you are and make decisions that will not hurt future you wherever you may go. And remember it’s okay to change your mind later
That’s just the unfortunate reality of dating apps generally. Just wanting hookups and not dates. And saying that is worse than men purposely inserting themselves into gay women’s dating apps because they have a fetish is totally incorrect too! Sorry you’re struggling to find something serious but I know the dating app issue is not unique to bisexual men’s behavior it’s just how dating apps tend to be nowadays 🤷🏼♀️
I didn’t mean for my comment to come across that way. I’m not even sure why you feel the need to try and argue with my experience, the purpose of my post was simply trying to express some grief about what I’ve seen and heard and how frustrating that is as a person in my position
Our misinformed choice. I don’t care about being respected, bringing awareness of the absolute train wreck that transgender ideology is to people is the best thing we can do to try and keep other people from making the same mistake, because that’s what it is for most people, a mistake
From my experience it’s generally some type of internalized homophobia or not wanting to publicly have a gay relationship… if society didn’t treat queer relationships differently then straight relationships I’m sure more bisexual people would choose same sex partners but the unfortunate reality is that a lot of people will just choose the easier path if given both options. It’s probably not a fetish for most people, and just people exploring their queerness before conforming to societal pressure and settling in straight relationships which isn’t an issue it’s their choice to make