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The comments display a consistent, nuanced, and personal perspective that aligns with a genuine detransitioner/desister experience. The user discusses their own history, emotional struggles (like internalized misogyny), and a developed ideological shift toward radical feminism in a way that reads as organic and passionate, not scripted. The language is conversational, with natural variations in tone and personal asides.
About me
I started questioning my gender in my late teens because of online pressure, and I thought transitioning was an escape from the struggles of being a butch lesbian. My entire transition was social, changing my name and pronouns to feel like I belonged. I eventually realized my discomfort wasn't with being female, but with the sexist expectations forced on me. I've detransitioned now and fully accept myself as a female lesbian, though I've kept my masculine name. This journey taught me that my biological sex is a reality, and my struggle was with internalized misogyny, not my body.
My detransition story
My journey into identifying as trans started around 2017 or 2018, I think I was about 19 or 20. It began on Twitter, where I felt this weird pressure to put my pronouns in my bio. Putting "she/her" felt strange and wrong to me, but looking back, I know that feeling wasn't real gender dysphoria. It was rooted in internalized misogyny and homophobia. I'm a lesbian, and I think I struggled to accept that. The trans narrative seemed like an easy way out from dealing with the oppression and homophobia that comes with being a butch lesbian.
I was in a really vulnerable place mentally, and this ideology caught me at the perfect time. It presented itself as this cool, alternative way to escape the systemic oppression of being a woman. It felt like a simple answer to all my complicated feelings. Online spaces, especially, were a huge influence. I saw all these posts and TikToks that reduced complex issues of sex and gender into simple, two-minute explanations, and I just went with it. I never had any medical interventions—no hormones or surgeries—so my transition was entirely social. I changed my name to a masculine one and asked people to use he/him pronouns.
Over time, though, I started to see the flaws in the ideology. I noticed how misogynistic it could be. I saw strong female characters being labeled as non-binary or transmasculine instead of just being accepted as strong women. I saw discussions about women's issues, like period poverty, get derailed because people were more concerned about inclusive language than the actual problem. It felt like being a woman was being treated as a feeling or an identity, and those of us who are female were being boxed into this "cis" category and shut out of conversations about our own oppression.
I realized that my discomfort wasn't with being female; it was with the sexist expectations placed on me for being female. This whole journey was a form of escapism for me, a way to avoid facing my own internalized misogyny. I started to agree with a lot of radical feminist points, though I'm still hesitant to call myself one outright.
I've detransitioned now. I no longer ask people to use male pronouns for me. I've decided to keep my changed name, though, because I genuinely like it and there's no rule that says a woman can't have a masculine-sounding name. It doesn't make me any less female.
I don't regret exploring my identity because it led me to a better understanding of myself, but I do regret buying into the ideology so completely. It was a harmful trend, and it prevented me from dealing with my real issues. I now see my biological sex as a reality that can't be changed, but I believe people with real dysphoria should be able to live their lives in a way that minimizes their suffering. My main regret is not questioning things sooner and not looking deeper into the philosophies behind gender before jumping on a trend.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 19/20 | Felt pressure on Twitter to list pronouns. Putting "she/her" caused discomfort, leading me to question my gender. |
| 20/21 | Socially transitioned. Changed my name to a masculine one and used he/him pronouns. |
| 23 | Began to detransition. Stopped using male pronouns and accepted my identity as a female and a lesbian. |
Top Comments by /u/taiyoott:
sure! well, it's like when someone sees a strong female character and automatically turns her to a non binary / transmasc, or when ppl are not gonna hear women talking about our own issues (for example, i saw on twitter a discussion about a politic denying the right of pads for poor women and girls and trans people were more concerned about someone calling it female topics than with poverty menstruation), or when people treat being a women as a feeling and tries to box us as "cis" and dont let us participate of gender issues topics.
at the same time there's "silly" things as character headcanons, little by little that turns into an ideology which being a women and fighting for women rights seem old-fashioned.. no longer women can do whatever they want, instead females need to be anything except females and on the other hand males wearing make-up are seeing as more women than real women. don't you think that enhance gender stereotypes and rolls? anyway i'm not even start about when some amab people think they can ashame us for our biology and starts to be aggressive when we talk about socialization.. but in this times they're protected by "progressive" groups
i also support transexual people but i believe being trans is about being dysphoric about your biological sex. i don't think you can change your biological sex tbh however the person can live their best the way they can
i tried to give u some examples why i think it's misogynistic sometimes but i also agree with you they sound teenagers making up an "unicorn" world as well
i hope one day i can say i'm radical feminist without any fear but for now i'm okay with only agree with some points and focusing on my detransition
yeah!! it's hilarious when that happens. who knows one day i tell them those arguments are actually radfem arguments and they're afraid of getting it because they don't wanna face their own misogyny
me too tbh.. it's like when you think you're one of them everything is valid but once you figure out biological sex and dysphoria caused by patriarch / homophobia make more sense for you (at least in my case), all your gender experiences are put inside of a "cis" box and no longer you can talk about gender issues
i have friends from brazil and they told me similar situations... it seems many people there isn't into radical feminism, instead they're up for pansexuality and this kind of bullshit anyway i'm not surprised some homosexual males hate radfem but when trans movement calls them transphobic for not hook up with trans men ironically they go to our side
btw don't worry! i'm not an english speaker too and we should never apologise for being the one speaking another language
i know how you feel but i dont think you were an idiot, you're just following a harmful trend because their narrative sounds "cool" and tbh i kinda get why so many ppl go for it... it's easy since "everything is valid [except things from real world]" and it's comfortable don't face internalised misogyny and misogynistic behaviour trans ideology caught me in a super vulnerable moment and i bet it did the same with other people, specially females. it kinda sounds as an alternative for our systemic oppression but it's just an illusion. idk if i got it right but if i did i just wanna say you shouldnt blame yourself because this bullshit is part of a massive group and people may commit mistakes seeking for simple answers
look i've never known how to sing so i'm ignorante in this topic but can't you talk with a professional singer or with a speech therapist? what i know it there's many male singers who perform as women, if they can do it you may be able to do the same
well, as another detrans woman what i can say to you is regardless of how your voice sound you're a female and you're always gonna be even if you commit mistakes. i guess testosterone isn't the only thing that could affect your performance, it only happened to be that. anyway i hope there's some alternatives for you and i'm sure you probably just sound as a girl who has a masculine voices (i'm saying that based on how deep transmasculine voices can be.. it's super rare they sound naturally as a man imo). oh another thing! i've been following some detrans women in youtube and their voices was getting better with time
i've never felt dysphoria after my 2018 twitter when i had to put my pronouns on bio and it sounded weird putting she/her there. i mean, yes i've felt it but not in a way i could think "maybe i am not female", it was clearly related with misogyny and internalized homophobia. well, not a surprise my answering is yes, i do think.
p.s.: i'm not even gonna start with the influence of "pansexual" discourse on that
this feeling... the obligation of proving it... oh i've felt it when i thought i was trans. it's kinda hilarious now how i dont need to do anything to prove im female because it's a biological reality. once i saw on twitter someone saying "if you need to make an effort to be a lesbian, then that means you're not" to a male and that is just so real. anyway questioning is good and ig everyone is looking for something to believe in and especially when we're young we get wrong answers because it seems easier. for example, i can see from where it's coming so many females thinking they're everything except females and they dont even research things about gender, sex and sexuality. most of people is looking for tiktok videos with 2 minutes of simple explanation. with this all said, just take your time and dont worry, just because you didnt have the opportunity of questioning and looking for a philosophy before, that doesnt mean you cant do it now
definitely a discussion i'm not up to, specially in reddit. it's more complex than i could explain in a comment. however what i can say is you can find a lot of meanings about what a right is depending on your political perspective. as i'm not a liberal, i dont agree with this "free speech" discourse and i see the right of being called by the way you want is based on human dignity
that depends on which country you're from! well if you did it twice i suppose you can do it one more time tbh i think name is an important thing and if more people knew they dont need to be trans to change their names a lot of people wont think about transition... i've decided keep my changed name instead of my birth name because im not sure if i can change it again and also because i really like my name even it's masculine. there isn't a rule you know, you could go by a nickname at first then thinking about legally changes if that is what you really want and if that is possible, you can choose another female name or you can keep your current name if you still like it somehow, that's up to you and that doesn't make you less female than any other